Hurt depression advice needed

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Jwk

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The girl I was with 6 years when her father got his inheritance she started to discredit me to make herself better in her father's eyes so her family who has nothing can get in with the father her biological father that left her mother 30 years ago after 2 years of separation waiting and trusting and praying it's turned to anger and Hate his feelings of retaliation and suicide because the things she's brainwashed them into believing about me are being fed back into her she's starting to believe her own lies the worst thing is this is the only woman that I've ever loved and I don't know what to do I go to church sometimes twice in one day and she says the most horrible things about me that I'm with other women and she's the only woman that I have ever been faithful to in mind will and emotions I've always been faithful 2 other women there have been thoughts but no actual adultery need advice on what to do thank you JWK I didn't read the rules of this website but can anyone tell me if I'm allowed to give my telephone number before I actually do it and maybe get barred from site thank you
 

Fenner

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I don't think you're supposed to post your phone number in the forums. I guess if you private message someone with it that's ok. I don't know if there's a rule about publicly posting your phone number, but for safety reasons I advise against it.
 
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Ugly

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You are not, for a fact, allowed to publicly post your number here. It will be removed by mods if they see it. Same goes with any sort of personal information like address, email, etc...
I would entirely avoid trying to get people off of the site as a new member. It makes you look suspicious in the eyes of most. Few would even be willing, and the few that would are probably not ideal people to be taking help from.

Also, keep in mind, periods are you friend. So are comma's.

And i'm not even sure what you're asking. Are you wanting her back? Or asking how to deal with her lying about you? Or asking how to cope with the way she changed? Or something else entirely?
You need to slow down. Use periods. Use paragraphs. And explain things more clearly. Even if it takes a little time to write it out. Reading your post i hear it in the voice of a blonde teenage girl speaking 100 mph without taking a breath, haha.
And not try to get people off the site to talk. Getting multiple opinions, if there is no one in person you know well and trust, is better so you can see various ideas and what kind of answers keep recurring so you can get a sense of what may be best.
 
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Jwk

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Thank you very much for the help line. It's nice to know that some people do reply I think you're the third one. I tried talking to a couple ofpastors and they to put it but I had other things on their mind and they didn't even want to hear it
 
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Ariel82

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You can pray. God always listens.

Often people get distracted but I have found comfort in God and His presence and love.
 
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Well if she is acting like that now I can tell you it will get worse even if you think it won't I was with a guy for three years that didn't treat me the way I needed to be treated and even now that I left him a month ago he still is it got sooo much worse over time it will be hard but I can tell you God has someone out there for you who will always treat you the way you deserve and I know first love hurts but it is possible to find somebody you love more and this will be of the past just keep your head up high don't let what she says or does bring you down and message me please I want to help you get through this I am praying for you
 
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JosiahUntoTheChrist

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Hi JWK,

I'm sorry to hear that this is happening. Before I tell you what I think, it's best you know that I've been divorced and my wife had an affair but I also had an affair by looking at porn. The problem is this, being unequally yoked (a Christian who loves the Lord Jesus Christ with someone who has no affection for Christ). I was devoted and passionate about the Lord before I met my unbelieving wife. Unbelief is the cornestone of all the issues you can come against. Love is powerful but Gods love is all powerful and changes the heart of any person.

While I blamed my wife at the time for me looking at porn and creating a gulf between us it was actually my choices that determined the outcome of my relationship. Throughout the bible God commands His people, prophets/men of God to flee sexual immorality and to not be with women of other cultures and beliefs both in the old and the new dealing only with faith in the new.

A women that is not for the Lord Jesus will find it difficult to be for you because they are for themselves, they're guided by their own motives, desires, impulses and television superstars. God loves you so when He says don't do something it's only for your good.

I dealt with depression over our divorce and the trouble that went on through it and after. I am so thankful that the only faithful and true God wise in every way has my best interests at heart. He cares, He loves and He has a greater love in store for me if that is His purpose. I pray that Jesus is your comforter. If you are married love her and show her by buying her flowers treating her as an unbeliever who desperately needs Jesus and love her as if she is the only woman alive. If you are not married, you should leave her and move on as scripture says all through the bible.

I am here to pray for you brother and if you want to talk you can talk in this post. Most people are caring and loving here, God bless you.
 
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