Let me start off saying this is an adult topic. What does undefiled mean? Does this mean all sexual acts between a husband and wife is "okay"? Im 53 and have "been around" and done things I am not proud of. I becaame a Christian at 46 when In jail. I have lived a good life since being saved, doing a good job keeping the LORDS commandments as much as I can. I married a woman, a good woman (but not a Christian), a mother, grandmother, professional, etc. However I find she is insatiable when it comes to sex. Her desires knows few bounds. Intense loud, "gutter" talk comes into play as well as forms of sodomy and kink (no additional people are invovled). I am shocked by the change in her demeanor and personality once the lights go out. I have been told that once married anything goes as long as it doesn't violate Gods laws (like adultry)
Sex has been the single most detrimental part of my life and has destroyed my life. It ruined my 1st marriage because she did not care for sex and that was all I thought about (and yest those thoughts weren't good thoughts either). Jesus changed me when I accepted Him as my savior and my attitude toward sex changed 180 degrees. Now I feel guilty, dirty, weak and like I have violated Gods intention for sex. Am I wrong here? Is it I who need counseling?