Porn addiction is eating me up.

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lisalove

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Hi Willie- T

Along the lines of what you did I "bought" freedom for a young man. Long story short, a man had him in bondage, (this guy preys on the poor or struggling). "HE" gave him "porno" he could'nt (legally) sell in his shop. The guy then asked ME! UGH... I said "NO!" But, if you'll BURN THAT STUFF I WILL PAY YOU. (I wanted to free him- show love)!He DID- I PAID! Immediately, I also helped him get a cell phone and bought him food and he took off. I am not telling this except to show there are many ways that we can help free those in bondage. He got away from the man enslaving him.And maybe I am a dupe. But, I gave him goodness fir his terrible BEHAVIOR and perchance that will come back into his mind and hesrt someday. (He had such a evil tongue around me. I could hardly bear it. But,I am stuck where he WAS. IN DUE TIME- I WILL GO. RIGHT NOW, NO. ANOTHER LONG STORY. I AM NOT GOING ON ABOUT.
 
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Waukeganman1234

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Sirk said:
You've created pathways in your brain that lead you to this coping mechanism. Probably came out of some insecurity or painful feeling. Porn isn't the problem... same as spoons don't make people fat. My guess is that you use it to escape anxiety or depression. You are unable to process emotional pain in a healthy ways and you turn to an external source for relief from your pain.
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i do have social anxiety. maybe you are right
 
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Waukeganman1234

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thank you all for the great info. my plan of attack is put computer in living room and when i get urges i will pray. i am on day 2 free now and feel great. perhaps that was causing my social anxiety and premature ejaculation issues. i will keep praying
 
Willie-T

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lisalove said:
Hi Willie- T

Along the lines of what you did I "bought" freedom for a young man. Long story short, a man had him in bondage, (this guy preys on the poor or struggling). "HE" gave him "porno" he could'nt (legally) sell in his shop. The guy then asked ME! UGH... I said "NO!" But, if you'll BURN THAT STUFF I WILL PAY YOU. (I wanted to free him- show love)!He DID- I PAID! Immediately, I also helped him get a cell phone and bought him food and he took off. I am not telling this except to show there are many ways that we can help free those in bondage. He got away from the man enslaving him.And maybe I am a dupe. But, I gave him goodness fir his terrible BEHAVIOR and perchance that will come back into his mind and hesrt someday. (He had such a evil tongue around me. I could hardly bear it. But,I am stuck where he WAS. IN DUE TIME- I WILL GO. RIGHT NOW, NO. ANOTHER LONG STORY. I AM NOT GOING ON ABOUT.
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Reading that story warmed my heart. Perhaps something I might have done, I dunno. But, it touched me, so I believe God had to be right in the middle of it.

I'll leave this strictly up to you to initiate if you choose to, but please feel free to PM me at any time.
 
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Waukeganman1234 said:
thank you all for the great info. my plan of attack is put computer in living room and when i get urges i will pray. i am on day 2 free now and feel great. perhaps that was causing my social anxiety and premature ejaculation issues. i will keep praying
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Replace it with something positive and when you feel the urge ask yourself what you are feeling insecure about.
 
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lisalove

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Hi Willie- T. Thank you. I am on a smartphone and the screen is tiny. I misspell due to the difficulty I have with my phone/display/tech & interface. Another reason not to do much in forums. I will PM if I can get that right. A.s.a.p.
 
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lisalove

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Willie- T PM

Willie-T said:
Reading that story warmed my heart. Perhaps something I might have done, I dunno. But, it touched me, so I believe God had to be right in the middle of it.

I'll leave this strictly up to you to initiate if you choose to, but please feel free to PM me at any time.
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Hi Willie- T. I am not sure why. But I am not able to get you a PM. Iwill be glad to tell the " backstory" to the guy and the his "boss." Lisa
 
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lisalove said:
"Resist the DEVIL and He Will Flee." Also, "Make no Provision For The FLESH." This means you CAN fight the urge/desire. Each time you RESIST,you are closer to "Overcoming" and if you have to keep repenting, TURNING FROM SIN, REPEAT THE SIN, REPENT, AGAIN AND AGAIN AND AGAIN,.THEN SO BE IT. I KNOW YOU CAN GET FREE. IF YOU TRULY DESIRE TO. SEARCH FOR EVERY SCRIPTURE OT/NT THAT ADMONISHES US TURN,TURN AWAY FROM BEHOLDING EVIL. WRITE THEM OUT, CARRY THEM WITH YOU. LOOK AT THEM A.S.A.P. WHENEVER YOUR THOUGHTS TURN TO WICKEDNESS. YOU must desire GOD WITH EVERYTHING IN YOU. PRAY AND ASK GOD TO GIVE YOU PEACE AND FREEDOM. I AM PRAYING GOD WILL ANSWER MY PRAYER FOR YOU TOO!
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YOU DON'T NEED TO YELL... ;)
 
Silverwings

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In addition to all the good advise you have gotten already, I would like to add fasting as a way to freedom, it is the ultimate weapon in our arsenal.
 
blue_ladybug

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'Cause we ain't deaf, that's why.. not deaf YET, anyway.. lol
 
JosephsDreams

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How porn affects the brain. 4 min and 50 seconds.
[video=youtube;qBtgA0ZLWo0]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qBtgA0ZLWo0[/video]
 
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This video is about a ex porn star who talks about her days in the porn industry. She is a Christian now and has devoted her life to helping men who watch this bane of the soul, and the woman who are currently porn "stars." If your watching porn, your not only harming yourself, your family, your church, and your friends and co-workers, but your helping keep these woman (and men) who are the porn actors in bondage. Your a Christian who has little power, and indeed your advancing satans kingdom. The porn business is often run by people who are often gangsters and low life's. People that desperately need Christ, and who are the dregs of society. They are not much different then drug dealers.

This video is 51 minutes long. It's inspiring, but also heart breaking.

[video=youtube;xGdMi-oC9nM]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xGdMi-oC9nM[/video]
 
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Sarahluvs2praisetheLord

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Being addicted to porn is dangerous in so many ways and it does lead to divorce. Have you tried reading scripture and praying whenever you feel the urge to look at porn or even think about it? Being involved in porn will keep you out of Heaven and certainly you don't want to be left behind when Jesus comes for His bride. Hopefully these videos will help you to overcome your addiction.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=54VtS9ArKlU
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3LEd5LinT6w
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hlkEyZb7d2A
 
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well, the most a porn addiction typically is a masturbation addiction, and while I would rather leave it ambiguous if I had one, my advice would be to go in front of the what tempts you to do it, the porn, and literally just force your arms to stay away from what you don't want to touch, it is not an immediate cure, but if you can work up to the point of not doing so for the entire video, then leave and go on with your day, you are well on your way to being able to not do the act, and without it to turn passive viewing into an activity, the porn usually becomes less attractive at the same time.
 
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msz71

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I am currently addicted seeking help...I am in Michigan and would prefer an accountability partner
 
Grace777x70

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Here is a great teaching on porn and the grace of God to walk free.

[video=youtube;dSKoLuLp79c]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dSKoLuLp79c[/video]
 
MessageOfTheCross

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Pastor Prince makes it crystal clear that the sin nature can be revived and have dominion over a Believer even though we are under grace.
 
CS1

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Waukeganman1234 said:
I am married and have two kids. Great job. I have been secretly addicted to porn for over 20 years. I have to watch it daily and masturbate several times per day. My wife does not know. We have ok sex life but I suffer from premature ejaculation which I think might be from the porn addiction. I also have bad social anxiety which might be due to the addiction. Anyone ever been thru this? How can I fight the urges and get my life back on track? God bless
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the issue is the self-deception:

porn addiction happens when one is deceived into thinking this is reality. IT is not. It is fantasy that was created on false narrative that can never satisfy. before one becomes addicted to anything there is a moment of pleasure which as they continue it will never reach the level of the first time one has gotten pleasure out of the act. Drugs, sex, etc....

First off you need to repent and ask God to forgive you and tell your wife. To get the victory over this you need to get you an accountable brother and make some changes to your daily doings. maybe getting rid of the PC at home or only get on it with someone around. To prayer and the word of God. you have to fight the urge of lustful desires and not given into them. God has given us power to have self-control. But we must change our mind and come to the understanding that "porn " is not a reality but a snare to entrap us men. If we walk in the desires of the flesh we will do them . We must change our direction and bring our desires in line with Gods plan and HIS desires. For men the battle of the mind is the most difficult because we like to see things and this is why porn is so addicting to men. This addiction destroys marriages because the wife can never live up to the false narrative created on a fantasy of porn. Christ can set you free and bring into understanding This lie of the devil. See your pastor or a brother (elder ) who you trust and follow the Lord to set you free HE can and wants to.
 
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