manners anymore??

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kim12345

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Hi friends,
It seems to me that manners are lacking these days.
I send out invites to bible study group to do service projects together and the people dont even respond with a Yes or No.
I just offered to help at the school to help size water polo girls swim suits and the other mom said meet me there at 2 and I'll show you how to do it. She never shows up and doesnt even let me know. So I sit there and waste my time wondering if shes coming.
I invite people for parties they cant even send an email back saying yes or no
Am I expecting too much???
The hard part is these are Christians.
 
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TemporaryCircumstances

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Oy...all I have to say to this is you are correct, not many have manners anymore
 
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I learned a long time ago Christian does not equal manners.
Manners are a learned idea. If a person isn't raised with them, or chooses to ignore them, then becoming a Christian won't magically give them manners. To a degree manners are subjective even.
 
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Huglife

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Yeah in 2016, manners are so rare its a super power lol.
Its sad... It even affects Christians. Those are not true Christians. If your not a kind, loving person, your already going against God's word:(
 
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kim12345

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I guess I need to practice Grace
 
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the hard part to accept is that they are really not Christians at all, only pretenders...
our Precious Holy Spirit is the persona of Jesus Christ's good manners, and once we
truly receive, the rest is history in our ability to grow and recognize and correct what
we lacked when we served the world...
 
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Manners seem to be something of the past. No one seems to RSVP and many don't have respect for others time. It stinks.
 
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Manners are rare these days. Many people dont even say thank you when you hold the door open for them. I think computers and the internet are mostly to blame. Kids grow up on social media now and before that they grew up on video games. When I was a kid it was all about playing with other kids, learning to share and be nice, and those who didn't play nice got in trouble. Now everything is online and unsupervised.
 
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People are used to having things given to them. The art of being grateful is getting lost. Fostering gratitude is part of God's prescription to have peace in your heart.
 
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If a person is considerate towards other people then they will naturally develop manners, even if they have lacked training by their parents..
 
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kim12345 said:
Hi friends,
It seems to me that manners are lacking these days.
I send out invites to bible study group to do service projects together and the people dont even respond with a Yes or No.
I just offered to help at the school to help size water polo girls swim suits and the other mom said meet me there at 2 and I'll show you how to do it. She never shows up and doesnt even let me know. So I sit there and waste my time wondering if shes coming.
I invite people for parties they cant even send an email back saying yes or no
Am I expecting too much???
The hard part is these are Christians.
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That's the problem with this generation and this comment is coming from a 22 year old. This generation we live in right now is VERY rude, arrogant, where most people are only focused on themselves and refuse to work, work as little as possible and are VERY cheeky or rude to older people and to everyone.

Forget these people they're not worth your time or your efforts. They're just arrogant and selfish.
 
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??? You can't just write people off.

The mom didn't make the 2 pm meeting, did you call the person and ask what happened?

If someone doesn't respond, assume that the answer is NO they can't make the event.

Do the people show up for the parties?

Unless you specifically put a RSVP and a date they have to respond by, you won't get a response. Plus emails aren't always read in a timely manner. If I actually want people to come I make phone calls and follow-up phone calls.

I am stuck on why would you need to size swimsuits or be shown how to do it? Why wouldn't all the girls mom's know what size they are or base it on what size clothes they wear?

Maybe it's a water polo thing?
 
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kim12345 said:
I guess I need to practice Grace
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Yes grace, but grace with truth. Grace without truth is passivity. And that's not love. John 3, Jesus came in grace and truth. Matthew18 clearly directs us to go to one who has wronged us and tell them. That's winning them. That is an act of love too. Grace is not being a doormat. Grace is giving someone something that they Don't deserve, unmeritted favor, that's why it must be accompanied by the truth.

Having said that, many in our church are the same way, it's just people.

Most men will proclaim each his own goodness, But who can find a faithful man?
Proverbs 20:6 NKJV
http://bible.com/114/pro.20.6.NKJV
 
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kim12345

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The girls moms dont usually know the size.
The lady said she was late but I was there late and asked around no one saw her.
Then she asked me to come next week - I said ok and I gave her 3 days I was available to help and she Never responded back. To me this is Rude. Not considerate of other peoples time.

Ariel82 said:
??? You can't just write people off.

The mom didn't make the 2 pm meeting, did you call the person and ask what happened?

If someone doesn't respond, assume that the answer is NO they can't make the event.

Do the people show up for the parties?

Unless you specifically put a RSVP and a date they have to respond by, you won't get a response. Plus emails aren't always read in a timely manner. If I actually want people to come I make phone calls and follow-up phone calls.

I am stuck on why would you need to size swimsuits or be shown how to do it? Why wouldn't all the girls mom's know what size they are or base it on what size clothes they wear?

Maybe it's a water polo thing?
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kim12345

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An interesting thing I am noticing. lately I have been working with many students from grades K-12. I have been working with hundreds of students from many many different countries. I am finding that the Asian students seem to be Extremely Polite and well mannered. I like and admire that.
 
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lv2ski

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Probably because they were don't watch American TV. I don't allow my kids to watch things on TV, or movies like, Dolphin Tale2 or Maxx, because there are so many smart alek kids on them. After school programs can be bad too. They learn to rude and think they're being funny, or it's somehow acceptable. We must be vigilant.
 
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