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Hello I am a forty something who aquired my son's best friend as a Foster child two years ago. He had just turned 17 so I didn't get to have him very long and we just moved him in to college a few weeks ago. His birth parents live in the same town but have no relationship with him. He and I bonded so strongly while he was living with us. Now that he is in college, we still get to see him a good bit as he is only 30 minutes away. At a football game this weekend, he introduced me to friends as his mom and my heart lept. I find myself wishing he was my son. And I get sad sometimes because in my heart I know that he is not and never will be. I haven't discouraged a relationship with his birth parents but they have not made an effort. I feel complete when I can help him or he comes to me for advice but also in the back of my mind I feel as though he will eventually be drawn back to them and I will have to fade. This terrified me and I know it's our selfish nature as humans to look out for no 1. I feel so blessed to have him in my life but so afraid he will drift from me and I will feel nothing but a hole where he used to be. Being a Foster parent changed my life in ways that I never thought possible. I want to discuss the fact that he called me mom with him but I am afraid of pressuring him into that if I bring it up. I am looking for other foster parents in my shoes and if anyone thinks it would be okay to talk to him about it openly.any advice welcomed.