Not sure if i should tell wife??

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lv2ski

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Just so we're clear. Person A has been praying for a Godly man. A man shows up who happens to be married and he prays to Jesus but cheats on his wife with another woman. Person A then asks for bible verses to find justification for godly married man who cheats on his family to leave his family so person A can have her godly man......ok.....I think I got it.
The problem with the verses she's looking for is, they're in1 FLESHalonians, which evidently got left out of Canon.
 

tourist

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Seriously, you need to get out of the picture totally. No, you should not tell his wife anything. Your actions are going to destroy this marriage. Just leave the guy alone.
 
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Grounds for divorce

Been searching for verses regarding divorce! , ive prayed for the lord to put a godly man in my life, this man is serving God but is married. I need scripture please and prayer​
It would appear to me you are planning to commit adultery:

[31] "It was also said, `Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.'
[32] But I say to you that every one who divorces his wife, except on the ground of unchastity, makes her an adulteress; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery." Matt 5:31-32 RSV
 
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brknhearted

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So many questions......I'd like to jump in with both feet....but then I think of Jesus saying let him without sin cast the first stone. Well none of us here are without sin in our lives. Yes, we have been forgiven, but we all have done our share of sinning.

Questions you need to ask yourself...

Who chased who? Did you go after him or did he go after you?
Does this situation bring glory to God?
Am I having sex out of marriage?
Do I feel guilty?
Do I feel close to God?
Is Jesus the Lord of my life?
Do I feel bad that problems are being caused in a marriage?

These are questions you should take to heart and how do you feel about your answers to them?

Life isn't about meeting his or your needs/wants.... Life is about getting to know God accepting the sacrifice of His Son for your sins and helping other people find God. Living for the glory of God.... It's all about Jesus and not us....

Go from where your answers take you which should end up on your knees asking for forgiveness just like the rest of us have had to do from time to time.... Sin is sin it can't be candy coated or prettied up.... Search your heart and get to know God who really does love you and not a man willing to use you.
He pursued me
we both feel guilty
I do not want revenge
this situation has brought me closer to his word
I have asked for forgiveness
Thanks for the feedback!!
 

NotmebutHim

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Women have different reasons for trying to justify sexual sin from those of men. This is like the female version of a man trying every which way to justify his lust. Scenarios such as this occur much more often than one might think.
 

lv2ski

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This is the way of an adulterous woman: She eats and wipes her mouth, And says, “I have done no wickedness.”
Proverbs 30:20 NKJV
http://bible.com/114/pro.30.20.NKJV

For the commandment is a lamp, And the law a light; Reproofs of instruction are the way of life, To keep you from the evil woman, From the flattering tongue of a seductress.
Proverbs 6:23*-‬24 NKJV
http://bible.com/114/pro.6.23-24.NKJV

Whoever commits adultery with a woman lacks understanding; He who does so destroys his own soul.
Proverbs 6:32 NKJV
http://bible.com/114/pro.6.32.NKJV

And there a woman met him, With the attire of a harlot, and a crafty heart. She was loud and rebellious, Her feet would not stay at home.
Proverbs 7:10*-‬11 NKJV
http://bible.com/114/pro.7.10-11.NKJV

Now therefore, listen to me, my children; Pay attention to the words of my mouth: Do not let your heart turn aside to her ways, Do not stray into her paths; For she has cast down many wounded, And all who were slain by her were strong men. Her house is the way to hell, Descending to the chambers of death.
Proverbs 7:24*-‬27 NKJV
http://bible.com/114/pro.7.24-27.NKJV

That should sum it up. If God's Word doesn't convince her, we sure can't.
 

melita916

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For the OP, leave that man and his marriage alone. Walk away. You can't fix him. You can't fix his marriage. Just walk away. You are responsible for your walk with Christ. Get back to your prayer closet. Get back to truly studying the Word. The Holy Spirit will help you make the changes you need to make in your life.
 
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Tintin

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Grounds for divorce

Been searching for verses regarding divorce! , ive prayed for the lord to put a godly man in my life, this man is serving God but is married. I need scripture please and prayer​
What you both need is a swift kick up the backside.
 
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Are you the same one who told us that he is unhappily married, and if he left his wife, you'd start a relationship with him? We get so many adultery stories here, it's hard to keep track. :/

Anyhoo, it is up to this jerk to tell his wife what is really going on between the two of you. This "friendship" between the two of you needs to cease, because he is married. Happily or unhappily makes no difference in his marital status. You need to butt out of this situation and keep your mouth quiet. Spilling the truth to his wife is only going to make an already bad situation even worse. This man is lying to his wife, committing adultery, and yet he says he's focused on Jesus?! What a crock of bull that is!! If either of you are christians who have a conscience, I suggest you both start using them and go your separate ways. This will NOT end well for any of you. :/
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WOW Bug,

you are a very generous person, the Holy Spirit doesn't share Jesus' Love in/with the darkness...
 
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we have several friends in these types of situations, and we are caught in the middle, as we LOVE
them both so much that it hurts.

both want to vent to us and of course we have to listen and be there for them, but we have laid out
the boundaries- but it seldom goes well! all we can do is what we are told to say and do, the rest
is up to them...

most important rule, 'don't ever say to us, 'if I tell you this and this, promise me that
you won't tell the other what I said or what I did...
this is a no-no for us, because the fine line between 'betrayal' is a very fine line indeed....
our oaths are to Jesus and not to man...

we tell them from the start, and it never goes well, especially if they want us to come over and
'referee, - at some point, either one always says that we are 'taking sides'...
it's such a terrible situation to be put in, but this is one of the things we are required to do in our Walk, =
listen, advise, sympathize, support, but most of all, we have to Love equally and to not show parciality,
but equal Love for both, if not equal judgment, for it is very rare that it is 'both' who are doing the
worst-wrong thing to the inth degree...there is always an un-balance on one or the other's part...
this does not excuse the sins of both, but it makes it a burden for us, to tell them the TRUTH...
Yes, it does hurt, but the TRUTH MUST ALWAYS BE TOLD, no matter the cost...