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My wife who cheated on me, wants a divorce, but I am not willing to give her one. I have stopped praying and have lost my faith in God. I don't know what to do.
 

Roughsoul1991

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God is the only answer I can give. Without God we are nothing with no purpose. Does she seek forgiveness? Are you willing to forgive? If not well your wife had broken the covenant between God by cheating in the first place. You are no longer held to that covenant. But in rare cases forgiveness can heal the marriage after awhile. But most the time people will always hold sick feeling about the other person. She has poisoned the vow you and her made. Biblical you can divorce but if you still love her and can find forgiveness then it's just a matter of choice. I know if my wife cheated on me I would forgive her but I could not stay with her. My marriage would feel defiled and sick. Do not blame God my friend God is the answer. Instead of turning away from God, turn around and run towards God. He has all the answers. Listen to your feelings and except them. God loves you and you have a family in Christ right hear with us. Be strong brother
 
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I have heard bad things about this site, but as man who doesn't listen to rumours, I decided to join.
Yes I love her, but I'm not giving her a divorce. A divorce would mean me losing money.
 

Roughsoul1991

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Well what you will find on this site is many who want to follow Christ but we all are sinners and only perfected by the blood of Jesus. So you will get many opinions and theology's. You will see poeple and the plague of sin. So do not believe you will meet perfect Christians on this site but what you will meet is people trying to live better everyday for the sake of Christ.

I know this will not be easy but y'all possibly could seek professional marriage counseling to help overcome this. It will atleast help you see if y'all can stay together.
 

Roughsoul1991

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And God? Where is He in all this?
Good question. Where is God. God is every where and is always trying to have a relationship with you. God does not make us do anything since we have free will. We make good choices or bad choices. If we sin then there is consequences to sin. Obviously I do not know you and your wife's relationship with God. But a marriage built on the covenant placed by God must put God in the center or it will be unhealthy. Sometimes when we sin, others have to also hurt because of the consequences of the sin. God values our freewill or else we would be just puppets. That being said, our world is filled with the consequences of not knowing God and life filled with sin. I am sorry you are on the hurting end. But believe me open your heart to God and expect to hear from God. He will answer in many different ways. If you are not connected to a church then I would find one. God many times uses the hands and feet of his believers to do his will.
 
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Well what you will find on this site is many who want to follow Christ but we all are sinners and only perfected by the blood of Jesus. So you will get many opinions and theology's. You will see poeple and the plague of sin. So do not believe you will meet perfect Christians on this site but what you will meet is people trying to live better everyday for the sake of Christ.

I know this will not be easy but y'all possibly could seek professional marriage counseling to help overcome this. It will atleast help you see if y'all can stay together.
Did you not read what I wrote? She wants a divorce, as for who is or isn't a Christian is no My concern
 
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Good question. Where is God. God is every where and is always trying to have a relationship with you. God does not make us do anything since we have free will. We make good choices or bad choices. If we sin then there is consequences to sin. Obviously I do not know you and your wife's relationship with God. But a marriage built on the covenant placed by God must put God in the center or it will be unhealthy. Sometimes when we sin, others have to also hurt because of the consequences of the sin. God values our freewill or else we would be just puppets. That being said, our world is filled with the consequences of not knowing God and life filled with sin. I am sorry you are on the hurting end. But believe me open your heart to God and expect to hear from God. He will answer in many different ways. If you are not connected to a church then I would find one. God many times uses the hands and feet of his believers to do his will.
Who are you to advice me, what do you know of the pain I suffer?
 
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You are too young to understand what I'm going through. Where are your elders?
 
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Am I old enough to respond? I have gone through divorce and in the early months years was angry with God as well. It is painful and I understand the anger and despair. I always knew God was there in it and I voiced my anger with Him and at Him. This went on for longer than I care to admit but He never left me and I know wept with me. All of us go through seasons of doubt and despair with our faith as we are human and worldly horrors rock us from time to time. Lay your anger at His feet and continue to pray through it. His grace will cover you and you will get through this season.
 
Jan 25, 2015
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Your name and actions are contradicting each other. You are not gentle and by the looks of it you are only here to argue the existence of God with older men...

Makes me wonder what you are really doing here :confused:
 
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Your name and actions are contradicting each other. You are not gentle and by the looks of it you are only here to argue the existence of God with older men...

Makes me wonder what you are really doing here :confused:
Actions? What actions?
How can anybody show their actions via text?
 
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Actions? What actions?
How can anybody show their actions via text?
Well not so gentle John, you are rude and only here to argue. My suspension is that you are one of the regular trolls with a different approach but only time will tell.

In this case it didn't take long but lets wait and see.
 
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But I am not on to believe in rumours, so I joined to see if I could get support
So far only on has been helpful. Biker chaz I believe his name was.
 
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But I am not on to believe in rumours, so I joined to see if I could get support
So far only on has been helpful. Biker chaz I believe his name was.
 
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Yes, and we are not here to feed the trolls so unless you change your attitude and provide us with reasons to take you serious it is not going to be a long journey for you on CC.
 
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Well not so gentle John, you are rude and only here to argue. My suspension is that you are one of the regular trolls with a different approach but only time will tell.

In this case it didn't take long but lets wait and see.
I think it is you who is being rude.
Is this how you welcome all new people?
 

wolfwint

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But I am not on to believe in rumours, so I joined to see if I could get support
So far only on has been helpful. Biker chaz I believe his name was.
Hi John, which kind of support you are searching for?