bad mouth I am trying to tame

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jenniferand2

jenniferand2

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I have very bad habits I will not lie. I have a bad mouth I swear like a trucker some days.. I try very hard to stop this bad habit as It is making me feel like I am a awful dirty person. I just got so angry in trying so hard to deal with all the difficulty in my life and people in my life like husband and my children push my buttons and make me angry and I just blurt it out with out even thinking. I feel horrible as I do not want to continue this pattern. They also have very vulgar mouths and this does make not make it easy for me to change my ways.... How do I work on this when I feel like I can never get this cycle to stop? I talk to God and I say I am very sorry for my behaviors but does God forgive me or because I ask for forgiveness but keep doing it will he not forgive me? I ask him for strength to change many of my ways but I am a work in progress I know he knows I am but I don't want it to be to late I guess is what I am saying.
 
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His Grace is sufficient for you... it is made perfect in our weakness. Try posting sticky notes with scriptures all along your home, car, and job. What you hide in your heart you will find on your tongue. Guard your heart. Keep loving Jesus. His mercy is new every morning.
 
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Thank You and welcome to the site I have a lot of pain in my life I am trying to sort through many things and have been for a long while. I often times feel like a lost sheep even though I know God is watching me every minute and he is there for me. I feel like I should have so much more in my life straightened out then I do at this time. I know God will guide me and I will do all things in his time but I often question why certain things in my life are so unappealing to me yet I do not have the answers to fix some of them yet. Does that make sense? I wait on Gods guidance but I feel like I may be missing a sign or Missing he answers for me.
 
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Mercy triumphs over judgement. Bible says those who show mercy will receive mercy.. Take rest in that Hes not unjust.
 
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jenniferand2 said:
Thank You and welcome to the site I have a lot of pain in my life I am trying to sort through many things and have been for a long while. I often times feel like a lost sheep even though I know God is watching me every minute and he is there for me. I feel like I should have so much more in my life straightened out then I do at this time. I know God will guide me and I will do all things in his time but I often question why certain things in my life are so unappealing to me yet I do not have the answers to fix some of them yet. Does that make sense? I wait on Gods guidance but I feel like I may be missing a sign or Missing he answers for me.
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It makes sense.
When we want immediate answers and what we see before us is everything and anything but good, even one day feels like a thousand years

Doesnt it?

Patience must finish its work
 
Magenta

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jenniferand2 said:
How do I work on this when I feel like I can never get this cycle to stop?
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Stopping means to stop. You really do just have to stop if you want to stop. Relying on God to help will of course be beneficial but without the willingness on your part, nothing will change. Measures you can take: think a second or two before you let fly the vulgar language. Start replacing certain words with others less objectionable, such as freaking instead of you know what. Try finding better adjectives to describe your feelings. It is not impossible. You can be very creative here. For instance, saying: I am so flipping angry I could eat a house while flying to Hades. Haha. You can even make it fun so that you are left laughing at yourself instead of being ashamed of how you speak. Your children especially may need you to be a beacon and lead the way. Our world may be going to hell in a hand basket but speaking eloquently will always be appreciated by all but the dull and ignorant (yes, I am thinking of Desiderata right now :D)
 
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Magenta said:
Stopping means to stop. You really do just have to stop if you want to stop. Relying on God to help will of course be beneficial but without the willingness on your part, nothing will change. Measures you can take: think a second or two before you let fly the vulgar language. Start replacing certain words with others less objectionable, such as freaking instead of you know what. Try finding better adjectives to describe your feelings. It is not impossible. You can be very creative here. For instance, saying: I am so flipping angry I could eat a house while flying to Hades. Haha. You can even make it fun so that you are left laughing at yourself instead of being ashamed of how you speak. Your children especially may need you to be a beacon and lead the way. Our world may be going to hell in a hand basket but speaking eloquently will always be appreciated by all but the dull and ignorant (yes, I am thinking of Desiderata right now :D)
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Excellent advice. I would also suggest that you practice your substitute words and phrases over and over in your mind.
 
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in my mind, especially when feeling weak or provoked or alone, beseech your loving Maker,
for He is the only One who is always willing to help you and make you strong enough to
over-come the things that are making you so miserable...
 
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I don't swear too often, but sometimes the F word slips out.. :( Growing up the worst curse word I knew was d*mn, and when I moved out on my own, I met all the wrong people and acquired their trash mouths. :/ It took me YEARS to stop saying the F word all the time. Fortunately I'm not around any of those potty mouth losers any more.. lol
 
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What I do is I say bubbles in replace of curse words.
If you find a fill in word and remember to correct yourself every time you curse or try to make an attempt to say that instead it will eventually become a habit
 
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I first started using bubbles as a joke cuz it was funny
"You're such a Bubble!!!"
Lol, but then it just stuck haha
 
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Billyd said:
Excellent advice. I would also suggest that you practice your substitute words and phrases over and over in your mind.
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I do replace my vulgar words 90 percent of the time. I am just trying to get past the other 10 percent still. I just get so sad when I slip up and let myself go to the real bad words.
 
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jenniferand2 said:
I do replace my vulgar words 90 percent of the time. I am just trying to get past the other 10 percent still. I just get so sad when I slip up and let myself go to the real bad words.
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Don't get sad just mouth or mumble a fill in word after you do it to correct yourself
 
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keep working at it, you are on the 'High Road', obviously your heartfelt efforts
are making an amazing difference, keep on keeping on precious one...
 
Magenta

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jenniferand2 said:
I do replace my vulgar words 90 percent of the time. I am just trying to get past the other 10 percent still. I just get so sad when I slip up and let myself go to the real bad words.
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90% is excellent progress. Be kind to yourself. :)


  • Go placidly amid the noise and haste,
    and remember what peace there may be in silence.
    As far as possible without surrender
    be on good terms with all persons.
    Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
    and listen to others,
    even the dull and the ignorant;
    they too have their story.
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    Avoid loud and aggressive persons,
    they are vexations to the spirit.
    If you compare yourself with others,
    you may become vain and bitter;
    for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
    Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.

    Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
    it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
    Exercise caution in your business affairs;
    for the world is full of trickery.
    But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
    many persons strive for high ideals;
    and everywhere life is full of heroism.

    Be yourself.
    Especially, do not feign affection.
    Neither be cynical about love;
    for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment
    it is as perennial as the grass.

    Take kindly the counsel of the years,
    gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
    Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
    But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
    Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
    Beyond a wholesome discipline,
    be gentle with yourself.

    You are a child of the universe,
    no less than the trees and the stars;
    you have a right to be here.
    And whether or not it is clear to you,
    no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

    Therefore be at peace with God,
    whatever you conceive Him to be,
    and whatever your labors and aspirations,
    in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.

    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
    it is still a beautiful world.
    Be cheerful.
    Strive to be happy.

    Max Ehrmann, Desiderata, Copyright 1952.
 
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Firstly I want to say that the word bubbles is my all time favorite word because I love bubbles almost as much as I love kitty cats. Second i want to say to you Jennifer that I know your struggles, I live in a house that is not an environment for a Christian I am surrounded 24/7 by people who cuss and speak of disgusting sexual remarks as if it was their native language and being around all this it's very easy for these type of words to flood your mind and it's easy to begin to speak like that as well.

I have had and am still going through training of taming the tongue through being around all this and not repeating them nor allowing them to flood my mind and I will admit about 60 percent of the time I fail but instead of the f word which on one that makes me cringe I say fudge and I say what the heck instead of what the hell I don't like being in such an environment in which my patience from hearing all this is constantly being tested and in which my tongue is being tested everyday but I have learned a great deal of patience from it and have learned self discipline in the usage of my tongue from it.

The key is to have a heavenly mindset always having your focus on heavenly things and not beating yourself up when you screw up
 
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jenniferand2 said:
I have very bad habits I will not lie. I have a bad mouth I swear like a trucker some days.. I try very hard to stop this bad habit as It is making me feel like I am a awful dirty person. I just got so angry in trying so hard to deal with all the difficulty in my life and people in my life like husband and my children push my buttons and make me angry and I just blurt it out with out even thinking. I feel horrible as I do not want to continue this pattern. They also have very vulgar mouths and this does make not make it easy for me to change my ways.... How do I work on this when I feel like I can never get this cycle to stop? I talk to God and I say I am very sorry for my behaviors but does God forgive me or because I ask for forgiveness but keep doing it will he not forgive me? I ask him for strength to change many of my ways but I am a work in progress I know he knows I am but I don't want it to be to late I guess is what I am saying.
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Believe it or not, I used to swear a lot. Especially at work where it was sort of part of the culture there, but after I accepted Jesus I wanted to stop.

At first it was hard because it just happens without thinking about it, but what I found helped was to..

1) pray for God to help

2) And this was a BIG help.... Come up with less harmful subsitutes for the cuss words: (Shoot instead of _____, Funk or fungus instead of ______, darn or darn-it instead of _____)

3) try to catch yourself BEFORE you cuss. That was the hardest part.

Hope that helps :) In my case I'm not only cuss-free now, but I feel uncomfortable hearing others do it.
 
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Dag Nabbit What The Freak is this thread all about gees! hehehe just kidding, seriously though I agree with others replace curse words with less offensive ones. May take alittle bit to get your thoughts in rhythm using new vocabulary replacing the old curse words but with practice it will become easier and easier. I used to use a lot of curse words too as well but I have made the switch years back to less offensive words for the most part though I can slip up sometimes... I'm working on not even using simple slang words either but don't beat yourself up over it that's not good either.

here a article that may be useful
How to Replace Swear Words with Less Offensive Words
 
santuzza

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Not long after I committed my life to Christ, I was hired as one of the secretaries at my church. It was a GREAT discipling experience. Being in that environment, however, I had to really hold my tongue (which I did pretty well). But when I was away from the church, I would revert back to my bad mouth (had an unsaved roommate at the time -- that didn't help!). What I finally began to do was to try to remember that Christ was always with me, and ask myself, "would I use that kind of language in front of Christ?" Of course not. It really helped.

I now only very rarely will curse. And only in private, never in public. It's amazing our sensitive you get to it once you stop using that type of language. A man today stopped by my place of business and used the sh word. I must have made a face, because he immediately apologized for using that word!
 
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