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sex has always been a taboo subject. in religions, and some sects. etc
yet the schools teach , a greater insight to sex in 2016. than they done when i was growing up. etc
to the point, taboo subjects, are a talking point, ie if you have children or plan to have them, then schools ,unis etc will be teaching things, outside the box to christian outlooks etc (to keep it short).
opinion can vary, and being in a relationship, you will find this out very quickly. intimacy come in different shape , ie love, respect for each other, some time being stronger and some time being weaker. facing the future together thought the ups and downs, the one aspect , and because its a christian web site, is knowing there is a third part in your relationship, ie god. learning to have your own quite time. with both, the other 2, that are in this relationship. etc
yet the schools teach , a greater insight to sex in 2016. than they done when i was growing up. etc
to the point, taboo subjects, are a talking point, ie if you have children or plan to have them, then schools ,unis etc will be teaching things, outside the box to christian outlooks etc (to keep it short).
opinion can vary, and being in a relationship, you will find this out very quickly. intimacy come in different shape , ie love, respect for each other, some time being stronger and some time being weaker. facing the future together thought the ups and downs, the one aspect , and because its a christian web site, is knowing there is a third part in your relationship, ie god. learning to have your own quite time. with both, the other 2, that are in this relationship. etc
Couldn't agree more. There is a bond that forms when people pray together and a loving/intimate bond with a husband and wife.....
This will sound silly but it's honest. Do you and your wife like each other? Intimacy in the natural is created by stupid things. Going home early from work because you want to be with your wife and you tell her that... If you don't like going home well that needs fixed..... you get!?! Making her coffee in the morning and bringing her a cup when she is till in bed....
This is a novel ideal... right from Scripture being a "servant" to each other.There is something strangely bonding about owing somebody something because they did something for you...
The key to intimacy is to know what your spouse finds joy in doing, what brings
happiness to their day.
People have talked about everyone has a love language. Things that you like
that touch you deeply.
Doing things together and sharing about how things effect you also helps.
Love in its nature is about becoming vulnerable, and meeting needs in the other.
I hope this helps you,
God bless
Peter
happiness to their day.
People have talked about everyone has a love language. Things that you like
that touch you deeply.
Doing things together and sharing about how things effect you also helps.
Love in its nature is about becoming vulnerable, and meeting needs in the other.
I hope this helps you,
God bless
Peter
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Over the years I have done and tried many things. If you and your spouse have not done the 5 love languages test, I would suggest you both do so. The results from that help you identify how your spouse feels loved the most. Often times couples speak different love languages which is one reason one could feel like they are showing love at the same time the other does not feel loved. You can google it and take for free.
Also, finding common ground is another good building block.
Being a good listener is another key
Shoulder to shoulder quality time is more important to men whereas women like the social-emotional connection, understanding the opposite gender so one knows how they can build the connection effectively is also crucial.
Now, for specific stuff that I have done... I have joined my husband and watched sports on tv, I have played video games (which I hate), I have joined him mowing or weed whacking, I ask questions about stuff he talks about even when I really do not like the topic but it is important to him, I watch tv shows he likes, I prepare and serve him food and drinks, I make sure to ask him if there is anything he would like if I get up, I greet him when he arrives home with a hug and a kiss and ask him about his day, I send him flirty texts while he his at work and/or write notes to him and put them in his lunch, We play coed sports, I ask him if he feels like anything is missing at various times and adjust if there is, we used to take regular walks together
I would love if we tackled DIY projects together, gardened or landscaped together, stuff like that. I love building things and doing projects and always wished he would do them with me, but he does not like that stuff. For example, I turned a old metal swingset into a chicken coop and the most participation I got from him was to run to the hardware store and grab me some more bolts and nuts
not that I was not thankful, cause I was. My point see what is important to your spouse and show interest and invest some energy and intimacy should build! Best wishes
Also, finding common ground is another good building block.
Being a good listener is another key
Shoulder to shoulder quality time is more important to men whereas women like the social-emotional connection, understanding the opposite gender so one knows how they can build the connection effectively is also crucial.
Now, for specific stuff that I have done... I have joined my husband and watched sports on tv, I have played video games (which I hate), I have joined him mowing or weed whacking, I ask questions about stuff he talks about even when I really do not like the topic but it is important to him, I watch tv shows he likes, I prepare and serve him food and drinks, I make sure to ask him if there is anything he would like if I get up, I greet him when he arrives home with a hug and a kiss and ask him about his day, I send him flirty texts while he his at work and/or write notes to him and put them in his lunch, We play coed sports, I ask him if he feels like anything is missing at various times and adjust if there is, we used to take regular walks together
I would love if we tackled DIY projects together, gardened or landscaped together, stuff like that. I love building things and doing projects and always wished he would do them with me, but he does not like that stuff. For example, I turned a old metal swingset into a chicken coop and the most participation I got from him was to run to the hardware store and grab me some more bolts and nuts
not that I was not thankful, cause I was. My point see what is important to your spouse and show interest and invest some energy and intimacy should build! Best wishes
Intimacy is just sharing personal moments, things that you may not share with just anyone. Its just interlocking on things and feelings that create a close connection that help you mesh. Like when my ex told me that she'd like to smash my face in, it was funny because I had the exact same desire to smash her face in too.. Its those special like-minded moments that unify a couple.
I think being together is important. My husband's love language is touch. So sitting together on the couch together, watching a movie makes him happy. Mine is talking of course. That is a challenge for him, but over the decades, we seem to have worked it out to both our satisfaction.
Build on the strengths you know you have in your relationship. If that is hang gliding, do it together. Maybe it is walking the mall with your wife, and watching her try on shoes and clothes. That would not work for me, but it would make some women just adore their husband!
I hope you can look seriously at some ways to build bridges and find intimacy in your marriage!
Build on the strengths you know you have in your relationship. If that is hang gliding, do it together. Maybe it is walking the mall with your wife, and watching her try on shoes and clothes. That would not work for me, but it would make some women just adore their husband!
I hope you can look seriously at some ways to build bridges and find intimacy in your marriage!
I think learning to love each other unconditionally is a great thing meaning there is no condition in which you would not love your wife or she would not love you.
Example if one or the other of you should gain weight or loose weight it should not make a difference because you love them anyway. Or if you or she would loose your job it would not make a difference you love each other anyway. I hope you understand what I am trying to get across to you.
Intimacy to me is sharing your life with one another in this unconditional love setting that you are not afraid to share anything with your partner for fear of rejection. Spending quality time with one another and sharing God with each other getting closer to Him together. Knowing that you would do anything for each other. Love unlimited.
Example if one or the other of you should gain weight or loose weight it should not make a difference because you love them anyway. Or if you or she would loose your job it would not make a difference you love each other anyway. I hope you understand what I am trying to get across to you.
Intimacy to me is sharing your life with one another in this unconditional love setting that you are not afraid to share anything with your partner for fear of rejection. Spending quality time with one another and sharing God with each other getting closer to Him together. Knowing that you would do anything for each other. Love unlimited.