Divorce has become such an easy way out. Before there had been such a stigma put on it, that many couples were willing to ride out the storms in the relationship just to keep from being the scandelous talk of the town. Now, instead of learning to fight fair, cooperate, and make up, people can just file for divorce and nobody even bats an eye. Unfortunately, a lot of marriages are doomed from the start. They are done flippantly, too quickly, and without much regard for how God wanted a marriage to be. Late on, when the people realize they are not compatible with one another, it's too late, the papers have been signed and the vows made.
I'm a military spouse, and it disgusts me how many divorces I see. My husband is only 22 and I'm already his second (and last) wife. A friend of mine married a girl he knew after 2 months, got divorced a month later. My sister-in-law was engaged and about to elope when I talked her out of it. A week later they were broken up anyway. All of my husbands friends, at least 20 of them, all beween the ages of 20-30 are divorced, some of them multiple times. It's almost as if people get married to get to know each other instead of date first, THEN get married.
But you're right. Who is watching over these people? What venus does the church have to offer those who need help? When my parents were separated, their church all but SHUNNED my mother. She was given dirty looks, left out of conversations, and had snide comments made to her all because she filed for divorce against a husband who was negligent, emotionally abusive, addicted to drugs, and not fulfulling his duties as a husband. Nobody thought to council him on his shortcomings and then try to bring them back together. Instead, everyting was blamed on my mother. Even her in-laws, who are avid churchgoers never even called to see if she was okay, or if she needed anything. Instead, they did everything they could to help my dad sue my mother in court for belongings. And these people call themselves Christians. No pastor came to visit her, the only people who did were some friends of the family who were less concernd with out she was doing and more concerned about why she was leaving my dad. Is this truly the way a family in Christ should act?
You know, Mustbestrong, you've just given me an idea. I want to talk to my church about what kind of programs we have for people going through divorce. I want to try to set up a group of people willing to council the people, help them out, give them support and love and make them not feel so alone. Great topic Mustbestrong! Very well thought of.
