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Hello. I'm on here because I desperately need someone to talk to. This guy I've been friends with for three years "broke up" with me. (We haven't had sex and we are both Christian). I put that in quotes because we technically were never together. He expressed that he wanted to pursue a relationship with me but his parents said to wait until after college to pursue a relationship and so we couldn't be "together." Mind you when he first expressed his interest in me I kind of ignored it, but it took me about a year to get back to him about it and letting him know that I like him too, I mean he is a really nice guy and we were best friends. Within that year I remember asking God about marriage (and it was about a different guy who was on my heart) and Him saying wait and guard my heart. So him and I both knew we liked each other and I would try to talk about it with him but then time after time there would be this road block. So we were platonic friends for about a year, then still friends but I knew that he liked me and me seeking God about marriage the next year and then me telling him I like him too and wrestling with this for a year and now to him saying that we should just not date and not try to get married anymore. In this short amount of time since then (like a week or so) I've been spending more time with the Lord and in his word and God revealed to me that I have been idolizing him and I do struggle with idolization. This sucks because I still really like him and miss talking to him. I just try to wait until he texts me and also keep myself busy as to not think about him. And he'll text me every once in awhile saying hi and asking how my day is. He's kind of has always done that though even before all this drama.
Side note: We're both in college and nearing the end. He's 21 and I'm 22. He's a very hardworking guy who is in the field of Architecture and is very respected and favored. And I and everyone in the program admire him a lot. I'm so proud of him!
Side note: We're both in college and nearing the end. He's 21 and I'm 22. He's a very hardworking guy who is in the field of Architecture and is very respected and favored. And I and everyone in the program admire him a lot. I'm so proud of him!