What makes a marriage last?
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my husband and i had our 36th anniversary last April, and other than God (which sums it up), i've been trying to think...
other than God, i honestly think the blame, er, i mean! reason for success
p) is my husband.
he's patient and kind, bearing with me in all my mess. he doesn't keep score and never brings up past sins that he has forgiven. he works hard at loving me, and will do anything in his power to see me smile.
he even remembers carnations are my favorites.
he really is the dearest man. ♥
other than God, i honestly think the blame, er, i mean! reason for success
p) is my husband.he's patient and kind, bearing with me in all my mess. he doesn't keep score and never brings up past sins that he has forgiven. he works hard at loving me, and will do anything in his power to see me smile.
he even remembers carnations are my favorites.
he really is the dearest man. ♥
my husband and i had our 36th anniversary last April, and other than God (which sums it up), i've been trying to think...
other than God, i honestly think the blame, er, i mean! reason for successp) is my husband.
he's patient and kind, bearing with me in all my mess. he doesn't keep score and never brings up past sins that he has forgiven. he works hard at loving me, and will do anything in his power to see me smile.
he even remembers carnations are my favorites.
he really is the dearest man. ♥
other than God, i honestly think the blame, er, i mean! reason for success
p) is my husband.he's patient and kind, bearing with me in all my mess. he doesn't keep score and never brings up past sins that he has forgiven. he works hard at loving me, and will do anything in his power to see me smile.
he even remembers carnations are my favorites.
he really is the dearest man. ♥
Behind every Godly and worthy husband is also a Godly and worthy wife. Men are simple beings they just want to make their woman to be happy. But a wife who is hard to please and unappreciative will make their life miserable. So I guess the real reason for success is you, because you have understood how simple men really are.
R
lol! you need to know me better.
wouldn't it be wonderful if all men wanted their wives to be happy? yet i think it's not always so.
But God, being rich in mercy... there's the real thing.
wouldn't it be wonderful if all men wanted their wives to be happy? yet i think it's not always so.
But God, being rich in mercy... there's the real thing.
R
sweet pea!
um, just so you know, my cell phone is well and truly lost.
if you text me, i'm not ignoring you. i just can't keep track of that silly thing.
um, just so you know, my cell phone is well and truly lost.
if you text me, i'm not ignoring you. i just can't keep track of that silly thing.
Your post reminded me of this pic. You are a righteous wife sister. You are both blessed because God is in the center of your marriage. You are right about lowering expectations and focusing on your own role as a wife than on correcting him on how to play his role as a husband. And the idea of him picking up that wild flower from the side of the road for you is really sweet.
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Thanks, Lauren! It's been a rough difficult road. My husband and I were born-again during a time when we were going to divorce. All Glory goes to God for forming and shaping us with His loving hands of grace and mercy! That reminds me, in case anyone else hasn't said this, don't use the dreaded 'D' word.
D
Quitting smoking is like planning on fasting and knowing you plan to fast for the rest of your life. The second I started fasting I immediately started thinking about food. It became a will of holding on just a little longer. Now, imagine not eating for four and a half days. That's my record for quit smoking.
Now add onto that eating nothing but addictive foods. Not, "boy, I would like some more potato chips" addictive foods, but foods that cause a change in your emotions and physical body. (The nicotine has changed me at the molecular level. It doesn't get undone.) I have absolutely no idea why we don't have rehab centers for smoking. It's as hard to give up as heroin. Heroin addicts say it's harder, because at least heroin withdraw only last a week or two. And the withdraw symptoms do come crashing down on us. Not like heroin levels, but sleeplessness, wired out, like I'm on a low voltage current 24/7, and my fuse shortens to the point of wondering if there even is a fuse.
We can't go out for dinner and then relax after the meal. We can't go to stay in a hotel. At this point we can't even smoke at work or a sports game -- anywhere. Not even outside. We stink, we annoy others to the point that we're called disgusting. Money is tight, but we need to buy the nicotine. Of course we don't want to be like this anymore.
But we also don't want to kill our spouse in a fit of nicotine withdrawal rage. And it is very much like giving up food. A lot of time is spent with the ritual and we have no idea what to do with ourselves without it. Four and a half days just wondering how to avoid the next minute, and then realizing this feeling last the rest of my life. It sucks! It's not a statement saying, "We love ourselves more than you." It's stuck and it sucks.
Now add onto that eating nothing but addictive foods. Not, "boy, I would like some more potato chips" addictive foods, but foods that cause a change in your emotions and physical body. (The nicotine has changed me at the molecular level. It doesn't get undone.) I have absolutely no idea why we don't have rehab centers for smoking. It's as hard to give up as heroin. Heroin addicts say it's harder, because at least heroin withdraw only last a week or two. And the withdraw symptoms do come crashing down on us. Not like heroin levels, but sleeplessness, wired out, like I'm on a low voltage current 24/7, and my fuse shortens to the point of wondering if there even is a fuse.
We can't go out for dinner and then relax after the meal. We can't go to stay in a hotel. At this point we can't even smoke at work or a sports game -- anywhere. Not even outside. We stink, we annoy others to the point that we're called disgusting. Money is tight, but we need to buy the nicotine. Of course we don't want to be like this anymore.
But we also don't want to kill our spouse in a fit of nicotine withdrawal rage. And it is very much like giving up food. A lot of time is spent with the ritual and we have no idea what to do with ourselves without it. Four and a half days just wondering how to avoid the next minute, and then realizing this feeling last the rest of my life. It sucks! It's not a statement saying, "We love ourselves more than you." It's stuck and it sucks.
D
What makes a marriage last? I will tell you: putting God first in your marriage. not jumping to conclusions with your spouse but having open communication. making sure your spouse knows daily that you love them and taking special time with them at least once a week...have a date night with them. God showed us how to love let's follow His example: serving the other, telling them and showing them how much you love them by spending time with them and sacrificing certain things for them.
Smoking is something that needs to be eliminated from my life. I'm not even sure if it lessens my anxiety about finances and other less important things. The sad thing is that I am a drug addict and nicotine is my drug of choice. I thank God for bringing you into my life and now I must do my part and not to shorten it by partaking of this filthy habit. I sincerely appreciate your fussing about my health as I know that the reason that you do that is that you love me and want me around as long as possible until death do we part. I'll make it a point to bring this up in our next church chat tomorrow.
lol! you need to know me better.
wouldn't it be wonderful if all men wanted their wives to be happy? yet i think it's not always so.
But God, being rich in mercy... there's the real thing.
wouldn't it be wonderful if all men wanted their wives to be happy? yet i think it's not always so.
But God, being rich in mercy... there's the real thing.
Some men are a little bit complicated and can't fulfill their instinct of wanting their wife to be happy. Sometimes it's personal, but sometimes it's not. Every man loves differently based on the way they have experienced it.
Yes God is merciful. All the glory belongs to Him.
I believe you are still as awesome as psychomom.
Some men are a little bit complicated and can't fulfill their instinct of wanting their wife to be happy. Sometimes it's personal, but sometimes it's not. Every man loves differently based on the way they have experienced it.
Yes God is merciful. All the glory belongs to Him.
Some men are a little bit complicated and can't fulfill their instinct of wanting their wife to be happy. Sometimes it's personal, but sometimes it's not. Every man loves differently based on the way they have experienced it.
Yes God is merciful. All the glory belongs to Him.
Tink, you have some fascinating insight into people!
thanks for the compliment, but no one's as awesome as psychomom.
lol
