I Feel Like God Doesn't Care About My Family

[laura_charlotte]

Come on folks. We all get down,sometimes we feel like God isn't hearing us or acting fast enough on our behalf. We're judging the OP. Cut her some slack.

Fantastic observation kayla. Grateful for an empathetic attitude that surpasses basic understanding of the op's predicament and examines her spirit in the bigger picture. God bless.

 

[wanderer6059]

While you were off looking up the word sarcasm and defining it in pretty colors incorrectly while being sarcastic, you could have been reading what was written. I did offer her a few things to do.
-- Realize God is taking care of her.
-- Notice that she has been so busy letting the jealousy fester, she forgot to bring herself to the Lord.
-- If there is no one hiring, find your own work.

A babe in Christ tends to put down others in Christ. If I'm remembering right, most of the people you called "babes in Christ" have been warriors in Christ longer than you've been alive. So, from an older Christian to a young one, how about turning that SMH into SMM?

your funny, one i didn't mention you by name so for some reason you took offense to my post thinking it must be about you, meaning you know part of the way you responded to her was condescending. and you did offer good advice but it was a moot point after you and others made her feel like she was over reacting, by saying "you have it alot better than me" you did it in a way that fostered offense in her and made it so any positive Godly encouragement was rendered useless. let me ask you, why on earth would you think what you are going through matters in a response to someone
showing signs of emotional distress, let alone compare yourself to her?

Why does everything pass us by? Why does prayer do nothing? Why does it feel like God doesn't care? I don't lnow how much longer I can live like this without having a breakdown!

and here to help you understand ill post what you said to here and in red ill put the offensive stuff.

15 years, so far. I'll be sure to let you know when we both die, so you can find out how long people can live like that. (Well, okay, our mortgage isn't free and neither of us can work, so about as close to you as possible.)

Really? Reallyreally? You have free rent, enough to pay your bills, a husband that can work, enough to live on, and you're bemoaning how tough your life is?

When does God even get into your picture? Seems to me your spending so much time getting jealous over everybody else, not enough time to go passed what you think you deserve.

Want to know what you deserve? Separation from God. Death. Eternity in hell.

Now do you really want what you deserve?

Get over yourself. Are you even aware you've got it good? Did God miss something? Are you homeless? Are you starving? Are you dehydrated? Exactly what is missing out of your needs, becauses that's them, babe! A place to live, food, and liquid. Everything else is icing on the cake.

Your two kids? Icing on the cake. A family? Icing on the cake. Healthy? Dang! Healthy is icing on the cake, sprinkles and decorations. Your husband's job? Icing on the cake. A free place to live? Icing AND sprinkles on the cake!

You "feel" God ignores you? Exactly who is ignoring whom here?

And where did you ever learn the only way to make money is to work for someone else to begin with? If no one is hiring workers, then do work to make money.

its not about what you said but how you said it...

and just because your "older" physicality, does not mean you are mature spiritually. so you are and offensive person, you were not "giving her a hard truth in a loving way" you just saw what she had and thought less of her problem, then responded to her in a insulting way.

 

[wanderer6059]

Whether you realise it or not, she did get encouragement via tough love,
A whole bunch of people who have been through difficult times and are coming
through it, are saying to her ya know what, life's not as bad as you think.

There is a reason we should count our blessings, its biblical.
The children of Isreal did nothing but moan and complain this angered God.
Only one of the 10 lepers returned to say thank you to Jesus, this saddened Jesus.
WOF people don't understand the value of adversity and spiritual growth, they are
too busy telling people they lack faith or they would have everything they could ever wish
for.

you know nothing of who i am sister. try that tough love approach; when you have to take the lifeless body of a one year old and tell the mother she smothered her child in her sleep, or tell a parent there kid died answering there text. i am not disagreeing with you on telling her the truth, or telling someone to count there blessings. and trust me you got me and my faith wrong, its my faith that leads me through that and gives me the strength and wisdom to carry on.

last thing why i hate the "tough Love" thing. people, there mind, its fragile. i seen to many body removals of people who had to much, of the "tough love" with the note that says "nobody understands me, evey one hates me" stop adding to love and just love,

 

[wanderer6059]

I do not see any encouragement for the OP in that post

Here it is again:

Could you highlight the encouragement to the OP for me? I have missed it entirely because in fact it is entirely missing from his post while he lambastes everyone who offered assistance, which was criticized and rejected ungraciously. He defined his own post as sarcasm, with very poor spelling, while giving lessons in English no less, and you praise him for it.

its on her other thread.

 

[wanderer6059]

Oh and Wanderer, just to say the people who replied to this thread are
still going through difficult times. So where is your encouragement for them.
Oh sorry I forgot you are a WOF person and would rather rejoice with people
who have everything after all and express sympathy to them when they say they
need still more after all they must have great limitless faith to have everything.
While people who have very little, dont have sufficient faith so we will just be sarcastic
with them as they must be doing something wrong.


To the OP, the above was directed at Wanderer and is not a back handed swipe at
yourself.

why show sympathy or encouragement to a bunch of people acting like some pharisees, ready to stone someone with there words. look at her other thread and you'll see how to encourage someone the right way. you feel since your time is harder you have a right to belittle the op and the time they are going through. and my faith says it doesn't matter what i'm going through this sister need what the Word says. and you don't know what faith is apparently to think of it like that.

 

[Depleted]

i did give it to her in another thread, but people who think they can give tough love to someone they don't personally know are acting ignorantly, there is actually biblical support for being sarcastic to stupid people.

Soooo, ummm, you're "acting ignorantly?" And...?

 

[Depleted]

you know nothing of who i am sister. try that tough love approach; when you have to take the lifeless body of a one year old and tell the mother she smothered her child in her sleep, or tell a parent there kid died answering there text. i am not disagreeing with you on telling her the truth, or telling someone to count there blessings. and trust me you got me and my faith wrong, its my faith that leads me through that and gives me the strength and wisdom to carry on.

last thing why i hate the "tough Love" thing. people, there mind, its fragile. i seen to many body removals of people who had to much, of the "tough love" with the note that says "nobody understands me, evey one hates me" stop adding to love and just love,

Let me respond to this by using YOUR words.

your funny, one i didn't mention you by name so for some reason you took offense to my post thinking it must be about you, meaning you know part of the way you responded to her was condescending. and you did offer good advice but it was a moot point after you and others made her feel like she was over reacting, by saying "you have it alot better than me" you did it in a way that fostered offense in her and made it so any positive Godly encouragement was rendered useless. let me ask you, why on earth would you think what you are going through matters in a response to someone
showing signs of emotional distress, let alone compare yourself to her?

And again? And...?

(BTW, had you bothered reading what I wrote, you would have noticed, I never said she had it better. Instead I started off with we're about even.)

 

[wanderer6059]

Soooo, ummm, you're "acting ignorantly?" And...?

not at all, i'm not giving you tough love but i'm just convening that what you said to OP was worthless, or stupid.

 

[wanderer6059]

(BTW, had you bothered reading what I wrote, you would have noticed, I never said she had it better. Instead I started off with we're about even.)

15 years, so far. I'll be sure to let you know when we both die, so you can find out how long people can live like that. (Well, okay, our mortgage isn't free and neither of us can work, so about as close to you as possible.)

LOL yeah that implies you are even.... and using my own words out of context because you can't even think of how to respond to me, you are so silly its almost cute. come at me with something with a little more substance next time.

 

[blue_ladybug]

What she said to the OP is neither worthless or stupid. Her post was meant to make the OP realize that her situation isn't as bad as she feels it is. Sometimes it takes straight talk, and not sugar-coated, to get through to people. No one here is trying to belittle the OP, they're trying to make her see that she DOES have some good things right now: healthy kids, rent-free house, enough $$$ to pay their bills, etc. Just because she's having a rough time does NOT mean that it won't get better. We are trying to remind her that God is providing for her and her family, even if SHE can't see it right now..

not at all, i'm not giving you tough love but i'm just convening that what you said to OP was worthless, or stupid.

 

[Miri]

Wanderer wow just wow, stop and engage brain will you.
It really does work wonders.

 

[wanderer6059]

Wanderer wow just wow, stop and engage brain will you.
It really does work wonders.

Grammar what? and yeah it really does work when you stop and think....

 

[wanderer6059]

What she said to the OP is neither worthless or stupid. Her post was meant to make the OP realize that her situation isn't as bad as she feels it is. Sometimes it takes straight talk, and not sugar-coated, to get through to people. No one here is trying to belittle the OP, they're trying to make her see that she DOES have some good things right now: healthy kids, rent-free house, enough $$$ to pay their bills, etc. Just because she's having a rough time does NOT mean that it won't get better. We are trying to remind her that God is providing for her and her family, even if SHE can't see it right now..

so said person post an emotional charged post.... a good response is to say 1.) I'm worse than you (makeing her feel even worse) 2.) you don't have it that bad(belittling her) and 3.) most important, you do it in a condescending way. (offending her and making any good point moot.)

 

[melita916]

well, this escalated quickly.

we need to remember that tone gets lost in the writing too often.

 

[blue_ladybug]

Go read my response on her other thread. I think the MOST emotional one here, is YOU. And you don't know the stuff Depleted has been through in the last few years. I DO, and so do many others here. And only recently, have things gotten better for her and hubby, who had a heart attack and was in hospital and care facilities with multiple complications, over the span of a year and a half before he was even allowed to go home. EVERYTHING fell on HER shoulders, from what care facility he went to, to simple decisions at home that hubby had always tended to. And through it all, she trusted God to get her through it. And YES, she had SEVERAL "God why me" moments. I know it may sound trite or dismissive, but for every problem one person has, another person has it even worse.

Read my threads. All those events, I felt sure that during each one, I wouldn't make it. Why did God let me get raped? Why did he give me lifelong depression that still rages on even today? Why did God give ME cancer, when I don't even smoke? Why does God let me get suicidal thoughts every now and then? I've asked that question, so has Depleted, so has just about everyone on this site. God gave me these trials to make me stronger, so I could share my experiences with others. Just as he did with alot of other people here. The OP here WILL get through this, once she calms down and has a clearer head.

I've told the OP to read certain member's testimonies. If she does, she will see that people who have had a much more difficult time, such as TemporaryCircumstances, who at 14 has dealt with cancer twice, sexual and physical abuse, and other stuff I won't even mention. Yet HER attitude about her hardships is better than mine, or Depleted's or even the OP's. The OP could learn alot from people like TC, Blain, Angela, and others.

so said person post an emotional charged post.... a good response is to say 1.) I'm worse than you (makeing her feel even worse) 2.) you don't have it that bad(belittling her) and 3.) most important, you do it in a condescending way. (offending her and making any good point moot.)

 

[wanderer6059]

Go read my response on her other thread. I think the MOST emotional one here, is YOU. And you don't know the stuff Depleted has been through in the last few years. I DO, and so do many others here. And only recently, have things gotten better for her and hubby, who had a heart attack and was in hospital and care facilities with multiple complications, over the span of a year and a half before he was even allowed to go home. EVERYTHING fell on HER shoulders, from what care facility he went to, to simple decisions at home that hubby had always tended to. And through it all, she trusted God to get her through it. And YES, she had SEVERAL "God why me" moments. I know it may sound trite or dismissive, but for every problem one person has, another person has it even worse.

Read my threads. All those events, I felt sure that during each one, I wouldn't make it. Why did God let me get raped? Why did he give me lifelong depression that still rages on even today? Why did God give ME cancer, when I don't even smoke? Why does God let me get suicidal thoughts every now and then? I've asked that question, so has Depleted, so has just about everyone on this site. God gave me these trials to make me stronger, so I could share my experiences with others. Just as he did with alot of other people here. The OP here WILL get through this, once she calms down and has a clearer head.

I've told the OP to read certain member's testimonies. If she does, she will see that people who have had a much more difficult time, such as TemporaryCircumstances, who at 14 has dealt with cancer twice, sexual and physical abuse, and other stuff I won't even mention. Yet HER attitude about her hardships is better than mine, or Depleted's or even the OP's. The OP could learn alot from people like TC, Blain, Angela, and others.

i don't care about what you or the others went through, this post was about what the OP was going through. you don't bring up your problems to help someone else, that doesn't work, especially in the beginning, if you went to a psychologist and they did that you would never go back. its not how you help people.

 

[blue_ladybug]

Yes, sometimes you DO bring up your own problems to help someone else. Go ask Blain or Angela or TC how many people have contacted them and said thanks for posting their testimonies for all to see. I guarantee the people who have thanked them are in the dozens, if not hundreds. Now let's stop derailing this thread so when the OP returns, she doesn't have to read through unrelated posts..

i don't care about what you or the others went through, this post was about what the OP was going through. you don't bring up your problems to help someone else, that doesn't work, especially in the beginning, if you went to a psychologist and they did that you would never go back. its not how you help people.

 

[Depleted]

not at all, i'm not giving you tough love but i'm just convening that what you said to OP was worthless, or stupid.

Nevermind. Not worth the headache to try and make sense out of you.

 

[Depleted]

i don't care about what you or the others went through, this post was about what the OP was going through. you don't bring up your problems to help someone else, that doesn't work, especially in the beginning, if you went to a psychologist and they did that you would never go back. its not how you help people.

Wanderer?
You're wrong on so many counts.
1. I have gone to shirnks that did that.
2. It did work.
3. I kept going back until I was better.
4. I went on to counsel others. First through drug rehab, then at a runaway shelter, and finally at a group home. (None were volunteer jobs either.)

You're right. You really shouldn't "acting ignorantly," if you don't know a person. You've proved your point twice today. May you grow from the experience.

 

[PrynceNY]

WOW just read this thread and all there encouragement is amazing! (for those who lack understanding that's sarcasm) i relized that word maybee to big for some of you too so i have the definition. sar·casm ˈsärˌkazəm noun [COLOR=#878787 !important][/COLOR]

• the use of irony to mock or convey contempt.

you all need to learn to read you bibles more, especially on love. i doesn't matter if she is having a hard time, and yours is worse, or she is a little better off. right now she is a sister in need and if you are soo much worse off yet dealing with it sooo much better, why don't you post what God has done for you helping you carry on, the word of scripture you stand on! instead you belittle her... SMH just a bunch of babes in Christ!

I sense pride & arrogance, that is not of God. I suggest you go to Lord to help you with that otherwise you will be judged for it. It's interesting you proclaim others need to read their bibles more when in actuality it's you who needs to be more in the word.