My life is falling apart before my eyes

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abelsdaddy9115

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Dec 6, 2016
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On September 20, 2015, I was charged with burglary on my own home 2 weeks after my wife gave birth to our first born a little boy. November 9, 2015, I pled guilty to trespassing in a habitation again in my own home. I was sentenced to probation on December 14, 2015. Fast forward to May 22, 2016, my mother in law and her boyfriend was living with my wife son and our unborn child. That morning though, will forever scar me. My mother in law passed away from a massive heart attack. Another month later, on June 15, 2016, my wife who was 18 weeks pregnant starts to feel something weird and we rush her to the hospital come to find out the baby is coming wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy too early. June 16, 2016, she gives birth to a beautiful. Baby girl Annalissa Lynn. Anyways, Annalissa wasn't supposed to be alive long as she only lived 16 minutes before breathing her last breath. Now that's when my marriage really began to go down hill quickly. My wife started to drink to deal with the post partum depression and losing her mom. I was stuck staying inside at night with our other child Abel. Which is no problem at all I love my son with my whole heart. But on July 26, 2016 my father was called home. I thought things were starting to get back on track with my wife but July 29, 2016 came and it will forever change my life. She said "I want out" I'm not going to lie and say I didn't flip out when I did. But she called the police on me stating I threatened to slit her throat which I would never do. Anyways while incarcerated for 30 days I got word that she was cheating on me already. I got out things began going good again. I got to see my kid for his birthday and even got to keep him over night 3 total nights in October. But now she won't return my calls texts or anything. That's my prayer request that God softens her heart to at least let me see my son.
 
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NewWine

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Wow, what a mess. Praying for y'all.
Prayer is powerful.
I am curious though, when you "flipped out" did you actually tell her you'd cut her throat? If so, own up to that, and then do your time and then get back on track and sincerely work on how to better handle things in the future.....although it being a couple days after your daddy passed, a few months after her mama and the loss of a child.....I'm impressed actually that y'all are still standing at all. That was a lot to handle for anyone. Breaking down and handling it poorly is just proof that we're human and He's God...it doesn't mean you're a bad person or anything. Hear that again.....Breaking down and handling things poorly doesn't mean you're a bad person, it simply means that we are HUMAN and He is GOD.
God has plans for y'all....keep focused on His plan instead of your plan or her plan, and let Him work the rest out through you.
Peace
 

abelsdaddy9115

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Dec 6, 2016
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No i really didn't I know what i said i called her a bunch of names too inappropriate for CC but anyway that's it i already plead no contest to this just to get it over with plus with my prior record I didn't stand still chance
 
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NewWine

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Keep praying and focusing your life on God. Staying focused on God will change you in ways you may not even realize you need. It will make you a better husband, a better father, a better employee, a better friend, a better son.....a better person. It can make you a person others are drawn near....even your wife and children.
I am sure others who might have more experience in this situation can give you more direct advice on this particular situation, but my advice works in general. :)
Peace!!
 

karen0123

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On September 20, 2015, I was charged with burglary on my own home 2 weeks after my wife gave birth to our first born a little boy. November 9, 2015, I pled guilty to trespassing in a habitation again in my own home. I was sentenced to probation on December 14, 2015. Fast forward to May 22, 2016, my mother in law and her boyfriend was living with my wife son and our unborn child. That morning though, will forever scar me. My mother in law passed away from a massive heart attack. Another month later, on June 15, 2016, my wife who was 18 weeks pregnant starts to feel something weird and we rush her to the hospital come to find out the baby is coming wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy too early. June 16, 2016, she gives birth to a beautiful. Baby girl Annalissa Lynn. Anyways, Annalissa wasn't supposed to be alive long as she only lived 16 minutes before breathing her last breath. Now that's when my marriage really began to go down hill quickly. My wife started to drink to deal with the post partum depression and losing her mom. I was stuck staying inside at night with our other child Abel. Which is no problem at all I love my son with my whole heart. But on July 26, 2016 my father was called home. I thought things were starting to get back on track with my wife but July 29, 2016 came and it will forever change my life. She said "I want out" I'm not going to lie and say I didn't flip out when I did. But she called the police on me stating I threatened to slit her throat which I would never do. Anyways while incarcerated for 30 days I got word that she was cheating on me already. I got out things began going good again. I got to see my kid for his birthday and even got to keep him over night 3 total nights in October. But now she won't return my calls texts or anything. That's my prayer request that God softens her heart to at least let me see my son.


That touched me what you written, I met somebody at church and this person I really loved, I prayed to God that we will become a couple, God heard my prayer and the Holy Spirit said to me, that person would make you ill in your mind? I walked away I found it so hard to do this, I loved this person, years later this person murdered her mother with an axe, if I never walked away that could have been my head on the chopping block.Everybody please pray for him always Amen.
 
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On September 20, 2015, I was charged with burglary on my own home 2 weeks after my wife gave birth to our first born a little boy. November 9, 2015, I pled guilty to trespassing in a habitation again in my own home. I was sentenced to probation on December 14, 2015. Fast forward to May 22, 2016, my mother in law and her boyfriend was living with my wife son and our unborn child. That morning though, will forever scar me. My mother in law passed away from a massive heart attack. Another month later, on June 15, 2016, my wife who was 18 weeks pregnant starts to feel something weird and we rush her to the hospital come to find out the baby is coming wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy too early. June 16, 2016, she gives birth to a beautiful. Baby girl Annalissa Lynn. Anyways, Annalissa wasn't supposed to be alive long as she only lived 16 minutes before breathing her last breath. Now that's when my marriage really began to go down hill quickly. My wife started to drink to deal with the post partum depression and losing her mom. I was stuck staying inside at night with our other child Abel. Which is no problem at all I love my son with my whole heart. But on July 26, 2016 my father was called home. I thought things were starting to get back on track with my wife but July 29, 2016 came and it will forever change my life. She said "I want out" I'm not going to lie and say I didn't flip out when I did. But she called the police on me stating I threatened to slit her throat which I would never do. Anyways while incarcerated for 30 days I got word that she was cheating on me already. I got out things began going good again. I got to see my kid for his birthday and even got to keep him over night 3 total nights in October. But now she won't return my calls texts or anything. That's my prayer request that God softens her heart to at least let me see my son.
Prayer is powerful, often when we want others to change, God ends up changing us just a thought, awesome that you turn to prayer, Let Gods will be done, and may He comfort you in your trials
 
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On September 20, 2015, I was charged with burglary on my own home 2 weeks after my wife gave birth to our first born a little boy. November 9, 2015, I pled guilty to trespassing in a habitation again in my own home. I was sentenced to probation on December 14, 2015. Fast forward to May 22, 2016, my mother in law and her boyfriend was living with my wife son and our unborn child. That morning though, will forever scar me. My mother in law passed away from a massive heart attack. Another month later, on June 15, 2016, my wife who was 18 weeks pregnant starts to feel something weird and we rush her to the hospital come to find out the baby is coming wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy too early. June 16, 2016, she gives birth to a beautiful. Baby girl Annalissa Lynn. Anyways, Annalissa wasn't supposed to be alive long as she only lived 16 minutes before breathing her last breath. Now that's when my marriage really began to go down hill quickly. My wife started to drink to deal with the post partum depression and losing her mom. I was stuck staying inside at night with our other child Abel. Which is no problem at all I love my son with my whole heart. But on July 26, 2016 my father was called home. I thought things were starting to get back on track with my wife but July 29, 2016 came and it will forever change my life. She said "I want out" I'm not going to lie and say I didn't flip out when I did. But she called the police on me stating I threatened to slit her throat which I would never do. Anyways while incarcerated for 30 days I got word that she was cheating on me already. I got out things began going good again. I got to see my kid for his birthday and even got to keep him over night 3 total nights in October. But now she won't return my calls texts or anything. That's my prayer request that God softens her heart to at least let me see my son.
A mess indeed but God can clean it up..
Will pray for a break through in u your life!!!
 

pumaqueen

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Jan 5, 2017
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Thats a hard place to be in when you really want your family life to be on point,but in some cases it just does not work out the way we invision it to be. One thing we can count on that God will always be there and will never leave you. We just have to learn how to rest in him totally which I have to admit thats hard to do sometimes.