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My family doesn't like him, they have had fights towards the end of our relationship because they thought he was a liar and they don't think he can provide for me. He has caused a lot of chaos in my family but he's grown a lot closer to god and has apologized to my family but they still don't think he's good for me
So, you already know what you want us to say? In that case, why ask?
 
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He makes me very happy, I feel like we're made to fit together but then I start to overthink and feel like I'm
Blinded by love and I feel bad because it's not what my family wants for me
​So you don't even believe you've heard from God.
 
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Hey guys, I could use all the answers anyone is willing to provide me. Recently god spoke to me about being with my ex again, which goes against my whole family. Now I'm faced with a choice of either him or my family and I don't know what to do.
How does God speak to you? Genuine question...
 
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How does God speak to you? Genuine question...
Well first off, Lynn, why would I ask questions if I genuinely didn't know what to do. And God spoke to me through my ex, he had a seizure and passed out, he had been having seizure for about two weeks, and he started to speak but the thing he was saying was nothing as what he normally says and he began to talk to me about things I struggled with that my ex didn't know about. And ever since then I've been reading verses and I would get a verse of the day and it would go along with exactly what I was struggling with
 
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Well first off, Lynn, why would I ask questions if I genuinely didn't know what to do. And God spoke to me through my ex, he had a seizure and passed out, he had been having seizure for about two weeks, and he started to speak but the thing he was saying was nothing as what he normally says and he began to talk to me about things I struggled with that my ex didn't know about. And ever since then I've been reading verses and I would get a verse of the day and it would go along with exactly what I was struggling with
Because a LOT of people join this site, asking for advice, when all they really want is people to tell them what they want to hear, or reaffirm the decision they already made. It's Very common.

I think it's time for you to stop trying to make some bizarre event into something of God. First your boyfriend had a seizure, now you're saying he's your ex. Then, during his seizures he starts talking to you about things he couldn't know? There is not a single element of anything you have said so far that rings of anything Godly.
Whether you intended it or not, what you're saying is that God is causing your ex, or bf, or whatever he is, to have seizures, so that God can speak audibly to you through this persons serious illness. That is not Godly. The end.
But you're dragging this bizarre situation out, going in circles, changing the story, it is beginning to sound rather trollish. Simple answer, God is not giving him seizures to speak through him in some ghastly verbal prophecy about your life or romantic endeavors. Next time he has a seizure you should be rushing to help him, not listening for Gods voice to come out of him.
 

Tommy379

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God speaks through the bible. Everything God has said is in the bible.
 

Tinkerbell725

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We don't need signs because the truth is clear in God's word. Why do you need to choose between family and your ex? Choose for your self. What do you really want? It's still your decision. No matter what people say, its you who will live with the consequences of your choices. The safest place to be is in the center of God's will not in signs.
 

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Based on your posts I would say that your family has a genuine concern about this person. You are just 19 years old and starting out in your adult life so why burden yourself with this relationship that will probably ending up causing you heartache and stress and with possible adverse consequences for the rest of your life.

I believe that it would benefit you greatly to just focus on developing a spiritual relationship with God and to enjoy the freedom of a single life for a few years until you get bogged down with the hard day to day aspects of life.

Seriously, if your ex boyfriend is your age there has not been enough time for adequate spiritual growth that would give him the knowledge and wisdom to handle a permanent relationship leading to marriage and all that it entails. The same applies to you also.

I hardly think that God was speaking to your ex through his seizures.

You have not explained yet as to why the relationship ended in the first place with your ex. You should consider the reason for the breakup and not to make the same mistake twice.

My counsel to you is to end this needless drama with this guy, cut him loose, give the hurt to God and start moving forward in a new direction on a path that God is leading you on.
 
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Well first off, Lynn, why would I ask questions if I genuinely didn't know what to do. And God spoke to me through my ex, he had a seizure and passed out, he had been having seizure for about two weeks, and he started to speak but the thing he was saying was nothing as what he normally says and he began to talk to me about things I struggled with that my ex didn't know about. And ever since then I've been reading verses and I would get a verse of the day and it would go along with exactly what I was struggling with
Only people who have seizures in the Bible are the demon possessed. There was a girl who followed Paul around and her master's made money because her,demon told,her,the future....

I,would listen,to,your family and avoid the, ex....
 

blue_ladybug

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Speaking as a person who has a life-long, frequent history of seizures, I can say that I've NEVER had a seizure in which God, or anyone else, spoke through me.. Your ex most likely has a seizure disorder, and when he tries to speak, it comes out sounding garbled. That is because the brain is suffering a sort of "crossed wires" during the seizure and it takes quite awhile for the speech pattern to go back to normal. Sometimes I can't speak a coherent sentence for a full hour after some of my seizures, depending on how bad they are.. :/ God doesn't use seizures to speak through someone, I guarantee that. :)

You need to leave your ex alone, you need to get all this doubt out of your head or you'll NEVER hear God's voice. Tell your ex to go to a doctor and get diagnosed, and then take yourself to church and talk to a pastor.
 

Dan_473

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He makes me very happy, I feel like we're made to fit together but then I start to overthink and feel like I'm
Blinded by love and I feel bad because it's not what my family wants for me
if you're very happy when you're with him, that sounds to me like your answer right there


family is a good place to get advice (hopefully)

but in the end, you have to pick your boyfriends/husband yourself
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Speaking as a person who has a life-long, frequent history of seizures, I can say that I've NEVER had a seizure in which God, or anyone else, spoke through me.. Your ex most likely has a seizure disorder, and when he tries to speak, it comes out sounding garbled. That is because the brain is suffering a sort of "crossed wires" during the seizure and it takes quite awhile for the speech pattern to go back to normal. Sometimes I can't speak a coherent sentence for a full hour after some of my seizures, depending on how bad they are.. :/ God doesn't use seizures to speak through someone, I guarantee that. :)

You need to leave your ex alone, you need to get all this doubt out of your head or you'll NEVER hear God's voice. Tell your ex to go to a doctor and get diagnosed, and then take yourself to church and talk to a pastor.
Wait! Did you just tell us that Ladybug is quiet for a whole hour? :eek:

That's up there with Lynn being quiet for half an hour. lol



Seriously, that must be extremely frustrating! I kept seeing John's expressions when he'd try to say something and I couldn't get close to guessing it. I'd have to get a sign and keep it in my pocket. When left in that situation I'd pull out the sing.

And what would the sign say?

Arggggghhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!
 
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if you're very happy when you're with him, that sounds to me like your answer right there


family is a good place to get advice (hopefully)

but in the end, you have to pick your boyfriends/husband yourself
:)
What becomes of honor your father and mother? What becomes of submitting? For a woman, it begins with family. If she won't submit to family now, she'll never submit to hubby later.
 

blue_ladybug

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Heeheehee.. :)


Wait! Did you just tell us that Ladybug is quiet for a whole hour? :eek:

That's up there with Lynn being quiet for half an hour. lol



Seriously, that must be extremely frustrating! I kept seeing John's expressions when he'd try to say something and I couldn't get close to guessing it. I'd have to get a sign and keep it in my pocket. When left in that situation I'd pull out the sing.

And what would the sign say?

Arggggghhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!
 

Dan_473

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What becomes of honor your father and mother? What becomes of submitting? For a woman, it begins with family. If she won't submit to family now, she'll never submit to hubby later.
well, myself, I don't think honor your father and mother means let someone else pick out your spouse for you.
 

Tommy379

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well, myself, I don't think honor your father and mother means let someone else pick out your spouse for you.
You should honor them by seaking and considering their council.
 

presidente

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How about respect the father's role in giving the daughter in marriage.

Here is an example of that.
Exodux 22
[FONT=&quot]16 And if a man entice a maid that is not betrothed, and lie with her, he shall surely endow her to be his wife.[/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]17 If her father utterly refuse to give her unto him, he shall pay money according to the dowry of virgins.[/FONT]
 

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How about respect the father's role in giving the daughter in marriage.

Here is an example of that.
Exodux 22
16 And if a man entice a maid that is not betrothed, and lie with her, he shall surely endow her to be his wife.
17 If her father utterly refuse to give her unto him, he shall pay money according to the dowry of virgins.
This could get expensive.