Sad and tired, wife is incarcerated.

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InGodTrust

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Hi,

I am a father to a 4 year old son. His mother, my wife is incarcerated for being convicted of a scam. She got a 3 year term. After one year we are finding very hard to cope up with the life. I forgave her for what she has done. I know that God has opened her eyes. I am finding it hard to take after our son alone. He is too young to understand. Somedays, I drop off my son at my mother's place. He seems to be happy there.

I don't want to disclose my wife's crime. But, had she spoke of her issues to me, I would her not let her do that. All we can do now is pray. June is our son's birthday and I wish her to by with us. I was thinking about appealing for a parole. I read this article about the rights of the prisoners in Canada What are the Rights of Prisoners? | Kostman & Pyzer Barristers and I hope the Canadian Govt would grant our wish to be together as a family on his 5th birthday. I haven't taken him to see her in the prison because I don't want him to see her like that.

I feel like walking on a blade now. I really miss her. I need your prayers and support to help us get through this hard time. I know that she may have done a sin, but we should hate only the sin and not the sinner. I forgive her as she understands her mistake. It would be another 3 years since we can start over fresh. Till then, I will pray.

Thanks for listening to my grief.
 
maxwel

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1. First, you should change your profile to say you're a man... this is really confusing.

2. You should visit the live chat, and the prayer area in there... I'm sure you'll find some people to talk to, and to pray with you.
 
blue_ladybug

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What Maxwel said. Why did you register as a female, if you're a man? Contact a mod about that so they can fix your profile. :)
Also, welcome to CC and there is a prayer requests forum here..
 
Willie-T

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Personally, I see the excuse you gave for not taking him to see his mother, pretty weak.
 
Fenner

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Willie-T said:
Personally, I see the excuse you gave for not taking him to see his mother, pretty weak.
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To get into an American prison you have to go through searches to get in. My Sons friends Dad is in prison and they skype with him. The prison he is in is two hours away but that isn't why they haven't had a personal visit in a few months and his Mom does go have face to face visits with him.

When my Brother was in prison I had to look at him through plastic glass and talk on a phone. That's currently how it is in Pennsylvania. There's no personal contact at all. When my Sons friend and Brother were brought to visit Dad the little one was in breakdown mode that he couldn't hug him. When they had to leave for the kid's it was like losing him all over again. Why can't he come with us? It was another few weeks of mourning the loss. This man has 8 years left in prison. Grandma discussed the situation with the psychologist these boys who suffered tremendous loss already and they decided that the best way for now is the Skype visits and phone calls. It's improved the life of the boys.

All situations are different and Canada might have a much better way of dealing with children visiting loved ones in prison but prison. I know it's hard for all involved but sometimes it's best not to have face to face, especially for kid's.
 
Fenner

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In God we trust you have my prayers.
 
Utah

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Must have been one heck of a scam. I pray you and your family have peace and that God strengthens you all during this time.
 
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I just wanted to respond to one point you made in your post, because I have personal experience. When I was pregnant my son's father was sent to prison for years. His father and I were never together we split up before he went to prison, but I took my son every week to see his dad because I wanted his dad to bond with his son. His dad did the full years. It would have been wrong of me to not allow them to know each other then just expect a "good" relationship when he got out, on both sides. His wouldn't know his child, but his child wouldn't know him either. A small child understands "good", "bad" and how wonderful our Savior is to take the bad and make good come from from it.


I say this humbly... May I suggest praying about the harm by not taking your child to see their mother and the lessons about G-d maybe that are getting missed out on....
 
Silverwings

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Dear Heavenly Father, I pray for your strength for this family, help them to hold up under the stress and strain of what they are currently experiencing, help them to stay strong, and united, in the face of adversity, give them your wisdom as to how to proceed, each is facing the circumstances, send your grace to help them make it thru. I ask this humbly in your precious Sons name. Amen.
 
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InGodTrust

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blue_ladybug said:
What Maxwel said. Why did you register as a female, if you're a man? Contact a mod about that so they can fix your profile. :)
Also, welcome to CC and there is a prayer requests forum here..
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It must have been a mistake. How can I contact a moderator?
 
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InGodTrust

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Thanks for your prayers.
 
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InGodTrust said:
Hi,

I am a father to a 4 year old son. His mother, my wife is incarcerated for being convicted of a scam. She got a 3 year term. After one year we are finding very hard to cope up with the life. I forgave her for what she has done. I know that God has opened her eyes. I am finding it hard to take after our son alone. He is too young to understand. Somedays, I drop off my son at my mother's place. He seems to be happy there.

I don't want to disclose my wife's crime. But, had she spoke of her issues to me, I would her not let her do that. All we can do now is pray. June is our son's birthday and I wish her to by with us. I was thinking about appealing for a parole. I read this article about the rights of the prisoners in Canada What are the Rights of Prisoners? | Kostman & Pyzer Barristers and I hope the Canadian Govt would grant our wish to be together as a family on his 5th birthday. I haven't taken him to see her in the prison because I don't want him to see her like that.

I feel like walking on a blade now. I really miss her. I need your prayers and support to help us get through this hard time. I know that she may have done a sin, but we should hate only the sin and not the sinner. I forgive her as she understands her mistake. It would be another 3 years since we can start over fresh. Till then, I will pray.

Thanks for listening to my grief.
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If it helps any, kids are more resilient than you think. Mom died when my little brother was 5. He's 49 today. He remembers Mom, but, until I corrected him, he thought he was with her when she died. None of us were. She wouldn't have it.

Your son will remember seeing his mom in prison, but it won't be traumatic, unless you or she make it traumatic. He's going to have to deal with this, and if it just becomes part of life to him now, it is less likely to be a horrible thing later on. No matter what our parents do, we always, always have a love for them. Let him know her now, or she will become a stranger to him in three years.
 
Oncefallen

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InGodTrust said:
It must have been a mistake. How can I contact a moderator?
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I'll get that fixed later on today when I get home. Easy to fix from the computer, not so easy from the phone.
 
AnnieH

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Please love your son as much as you can.
 
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