Sometimes one has to bring the marriage not only to god, but also to other people.
People who have a christian opinion.
It is not easy to deal with problems in a relationship and it helps to unload the happening
to other christian people, who may have been in a similar place.
Especially to strangers, who will have a new perspective. And because we are strangers,
one can ask but does not have to act on the advice.
And there are many instances of talk about struggling mariages, it is not always "I want divorce", often
the question asked is "Look at my situation. I do not want to separate, but what can I do ? can
you give me new things to try."
And it helps to answer other peoples needs and to experience, that one is not alone.
And to pray together, for betterment in the situation.
sandigeress, who joined here in the middle of a big relationship crisis