Some of the posts show that having a list of criteria isn't full-proof. People can sin, even if they seemed to have everything going for them as far as their background and professed beliefs go before marriage.
But as far as criteria go, let's get back to that. Do any more need to be added to my list? What are some specifically for men and women.
Having criteria really helped me, btw, in choosing a wife. When I went to Indonesia, I could tell that lots of women liked me. I didn't feel like I'd turned heads in the US. Maybe I had just suddenly learned to pick up on cues. But I think part of it was having a bit of that foreign mystique in a country where a certain percentage of the women like white men and where marrying outside of your people-group is okay. And I'd just hit prime age to marry in my mid-20's when I'd arrived.
I could have started a relationship with a less than ideal spouse. Although, it does seem like there are a lot of traditional women in Indonesia, and picking a Christian girl at random and dating and then marrying her seems much more likely to not end in divorce than doing the same thing in the US.
There is also the fact that I really prayed for the Lord to direct me to my wife. She was praying for a husband, too, and we prayed for the Lord to speak to us about it. I found out later that my wife believed the Lord told her I was the one for her right before our first conversation. I'd seen her before and didn't realize it until after that first conversation. I figured out I'd seen her before and thought, "I wonder if the Lord will give me a woman that beautiful to be my wife some day." After our first conversation, I went home and prayed about whether she was going to be my wife.