Why does the enemy attacks seem more frequent as you trt and walk closer to God?

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Ariel82

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This morning I woke to kids screaming and yelling at each other and I admit I yelled back.

My son is eleven and just started middle school, sixth grade.

My daughter is eight and in 3rd grade.

Apparently my son was shooting his dart gun in the hallway and his sister kept screaming for him not to shoot her or something. I thought I heard her screaming about him taking her dress pants.


I don't know. He has a habit of picking and teasing his sister and she has a habit of overreacting to his actions (even when he isn't doing anything she will accuse him of messing with her. I know this because he would be with me in the living room when she starts screaming at him.)


Yeah I know, I should talk to them about screaming. How do you do that without being a hypocrite?

Well they know mom isn't perfect. I hope they know how much both their parents love them. Typically they do good. They do their homework or play games together for hours on Wed when my husband and I participate in our Christcare group.

I don't know it just weighs in my heart. If you would join me in prayer for all children and the schools this morning.
 
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HisHolly

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If you deal with the root screaming won't be the star of the conversation..
Ariel82 said:
This morning I woke to kids screaming and yelling at each other and I admit I yelled back.

My son is eleven and just started middle school, sixth grade.

My daughter is eight and in 3rd grade.

Apparently my son was shooting his dart gun in the hallway and his sister kept screaming for him not to shoot her or something. I thought I heard her screaming about him taking her dress pants.


I don't know. He has a habit of picking and teasing his sister and she has a habit of overreacting to his actions (even when he isn't doing anything she will accuse him of messing with her. I know this because he would be with me in the living room when she starts screaming at him.)


Yeah I know, I should talk to them about screaming. How do you do that without being a hypocrite?

Well they know mom isn't perfect. I hope they know how much both their parents love them. Typically they do good. They do their homework or play games together for hours on Wed when my husband and I participate in our Christcare group.

I don't know it just weighs in my heart. If you would join me in prayer for all children and the schools this morning.
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Dear God, it weighs heavy on our heart. We know our battle is not against flesh and blood but spiritual darkness in high places. Help us to join in unity and love. Send your angels to protect the children, teachers and adminstrators.bless them to speak and act with Your love. Turn back any curses or dark magic witches, warlocks and other minions or generals of the Enemy sends towards our schools and our children.

Lord we know we are powerless without you. In you we place our trust and hope. There are so many things you protect us from we never even know about. Things that would distract or send terror in our hearts if we did.

Lord help us focus on our task. Help us not worry about tomorrow but trust in you and focus on the troubles that attack us today. Help us turn to you in prayer when we are uncertain. Help us lift our hands in praise when we feel blessed....help us feel your blessings. Help us trust and abide in you when we are scared or sad. Comfort us and help us then comfort those around us. Heal us and give us words that will be like living water to those who hear us speak of Your glory.,your majesty.

In Jesus Holy name we pray, Amen.
 
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HisHolly said:
If you deal with the root screaming won't be the star of the conversation..
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And the root would be?

Why do you think screaming is the star?

Typically my house isn't filled with screaming, that's why it shook me this morning. Some what caught unaware before I even had a chance to wake up and do my morning prayers.
 
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the closer you walk with God, the more dangerous and authoritative you become against the enemy. He doesnt like that so he will try every thing to frustrate you and take your attention away from God, or even step back into the old habits. God bless you sister, Ill be praying for you.
 
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You asked how to talk about it without being a hypocrite? I have a way I word things according to my personality, meant nothing by it... The root is the picking.. how is that not obvious?
Ariel82 said:
And the root would be?

Why do you think screaming is the star?

Typically my house isn't filled with screaming, that's why it shook me this morning. Some what caught unaware before I even had a chance to wake up and do my morning prayers.
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You know, one of the reasons I am glad I'm not in a relationship if that I fear I am not calm and collected enough to raise kids without ending up screaming at them more often than I should.

Maybe have a zero- tolerance for picking on others (to avoid that part of the problem)

I never had siblings growing up, but I was bullied in school, and I "blow up over nothing" because the "nothing" happened in evert single break every single day, year after year (and no one noticed / stopped it). I realize it is different at home where they can both probably be equally mean, but sometimes it's the hidden things that cause the explosions.
 
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Let me clarify what happened this morning....I yelled at both kids for fighting and waking me up.

I freely admit that I am probably meaner and less godly in the morning and evening when I am tired. I try not to tell but sometimes speaking quietly just gets you ignored.

My kids typically know to give me some time in the morning. I am better after morning devotiona: prayer & Bible study.

Maybe this is a kick/reminder for me to get up earlier and pray over my kids. Which means try and sleep before midnight.

The most peaceful time for me to study and pray is at night when everyone else is asleep.

I don't know the answer, which is why I asked for prayer....will read responses now.

Main thing is I feel convicted about yelling at my son...two angry women in the morning? I need to apologize for yelling and talk to him. Didn't really get the chance since he had to go to school. Maybe I will have lunch with him Thursday or something.
 
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This is the normal strategy for the devil----as we draw close to God the enemy fights it------tries to "steal the Word"----cares of this life----lust of other things---ect.---seek to steal the Word---- the trying of out faith works patience----- many people want patience and they want it right now-----as you develop this fruit ( families are good for that) you will grow in Grace---- you won't recognize yourself in a few years...
 
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HisHolly said:
You asked how to talk about it without being a hypocrite? I have a way I word things according to my personality, meant nothing by it... The root is the picking.. how is that not obvious?
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Because we have to figure out why he was picking on his sister.

I think he was jealous that she still had her tablet and I took his away yesterday so he lashed out.

Not sure, haven't had a chance to talk to him. Still annoyed he didn't make his bed (which I told him he had to clean his room before he could get his tablet back) but he did take out the trash (without being asked) before he had to get on the bus.

His sister wasn't suppose to be on her tablet either, so he was probably "punishing" her for disobeying the rules. Though middle schoolers are less likely to rat out folks.

They start the whole playground code thing.
 
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Well Ill give you my moms advice on this. She raised me (which you know me) and my brother. Perhaps thatll help you

You need to change your tactics and find something that both kids hate to do. It has to be something that they dont expect.

My moms choice was taking a thick Henry the 8th biography and if my brother picked on me and she witnessed it, he had to sit down and read out loud out of the book about 3 pages and start over if he messed up. If she caught me picking on him Id had to write it as I had a writing problem and he had a reading problem.
If we both picked at each other we both had to do it. If she couldnt find out who started it and who lied, we didnt do it BUT because no one had the courage to say who started (truly) my mom would punish us by telling us ''I do not accept lies in my house, nor do I talk to liars" and she would ignore us till the next morning. Which made us feel very uncomfortable because we were seperated and reflected on our actions and had to apologize and tell the truth. Then it was okay and there was no punishment.
 
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So you probably know a lot about Henry...
 
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yes...very much..too much XD divorced beheaded and died, divorced beheaded survived XD
once my brother came for a visit and we were bickering and my mom just said'' hey when your old some day you can meet, drink some coffee and talk about Henry the 8th.. you have something in common there"
in that moment my brother went " oh i still gotta do something" and left one way
and I went "oh i gotta go clean my room" and went the other way...
her tactic still works today.. hes 26 and im 16



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So you probably know a lot about Henry...
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I would have been "good" after I found out he had 6 wives ( scary)...
 
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Well she also did that when I didnt do my homework or was being a pain in school.. and ended up watching some doumentaries (lateron not as punishment..but mom wanted me to) and the series ''the tutors'' and stuff lol. by now everytime it cam up in school I had a big '+' LOL

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I would have been "good" after I found out he had 6 wives ( scary)...
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We have too much going on to do a Henry the 8th book reading.

Plus my kids love school and enjoy reading and writing. We do both as a family activity and I wouldn't want them to associate it with punishment.

I decided in this case I would humble myself and wrote a thank you note to my son for taking out the trash, apology for yelling him (didn't want him to be distracted and hurt all day by it.) and these Bible verses:

Psalm 103
Bless the Lord, O my soul,
And forget not all His benefits:
Who forgives all your iniquities,
Who heals all your diseases,
Who redeems your life from destruction,
Who crowns you with lovingkindness and tender mercies,

Then I dropped it off at the front office of the school to,be delivered to him.

We will see what happens.

Kids get privileges taken away when they are caught picking on each other. They have a lot and I make sure they realize the difference between a need and a want.
 
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Ariel82 said:
Let me clarify what happened this morning....I yelled at both kids for fighting and waking me up.

I freely admit that I am probably meaner and less godly in the morning and evening when I am tired. I try not to tell but sometimes speaking quietly just gets you ignored.

My kids typically know to give me some time in the morning. I am better after morning devotional prayer & Bible study.

Maybe this is a kick/reminder for me to get up earlier and pray over my kids. Which means try and sleep before midnight.

The most peaceful time for me to study and pray is at night when everyone else is asleep.

I don't know the answer, which is why I asked for prayer....will read responses now.

Main thing is I feel convicted about yelling at my son...two angry women in the morning? I need to apologize for yelling and talk to him. Didn't really get the chance since he had to go to school. Maybe I will have lunch with him Thursday or something.
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Don't just pray over your kids, pray WITH THEM.You probably already do.I am just making a confirmational comment.:cool:
 
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I am raising two girls on my own. One is 8, the other is 10. Two strong personalities like there deceased mom.
It's getting interesting watching them interact as they mature.
Sometimes i have to apologize to them.
Sometimes I literally use breathing techniques, count to 10, and/or prayer. And that does not always work, though it does most of the time.
 
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Ariel82

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Consequences:

No tablets or electronics
Extra chores
Letters of apology
Grounded to separate rooms
No play dates with friends

I have threatened but they havent push enough: no scouts, karate...just stay home and clean on the weekends, no aquarium, beach, lake, hiking trips, etc.

We do a lot with our kids and if they don't know how to behave, they know mom can cut out lots of fun activities.
 
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oh sis... if they gotta read and write a biography thats small written and old school like that...it will become hell to them LOL!
Wait.. your son does a chore and you write him a thank you note?
of course apologizing is okay but they should apologize to each other and you gotta get em under control sister (please dont get offended by that. Im not trying to tell you how to raise your children. I am just worried about future consequences if it may not get under control)

Ariel82 said:
We have too much going on to do a Henry the 8th book reading.

Plus my kids love school and enjoy reading and writing. We do both as a family activity and I wouldn't want them to associate it with punishment.

I decided in this case I would humble myself and wrote a thank you note to my son for taking out the trash, apology for yelling him (didn't want him to be distracted and hurt all day by it.) and these Bible verses:

Psalm 103
Bless the Lord, O my soul,
And forget not all His benefits:
Who forgives all your iniquities,
Who heals all your diseases,
Who redeems your life from destruction,
Who crowns you with lovingkindness and tender mercies,

Then I dropped it off at the front office of the school to,be delivered to him.

We will see what happens.

Kids get privileges taken away when they are caught picking on each other. They have a lot and I make sure they realize the difference between a need and a want.
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