Losing battle

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some great Posts here!

often we will discover that 'losing' will lead us onto a brighter path and strengthened future...
 
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I have too many obligations to "just rest". Too many people count on me to do things. The Christian people I know are very judgemental of me. That's not a shot against Christianity - just a fact about the people I know. Which kinda makes me believe it's not them, it's me. I'm so screwed up, I must me judged and ostracized.
Counselors just want to put me on meds or have me locked away. More humiliation in my past with that. I'm not supposed to hate myself, but I do. I guess that makes me a failure as a Christian person. Maybe I don't even deserve to be on this site because of that.
I know it's hard to find time to take a break and rest.

I used to keep busy because then I could avoid thinking.

It makes me feel better to feel needed.

However God wants us to rest. Rest and trust Him to handle our lives. Even if it's only for 15 minutes a day.

Find something that gives you joy.

I love to paint and take walks in nature. My friend is into pottery. Others will just sit on the beach. Anything that allows you to relax and enjoy the blessings God has given you.

It's not a waste of time because it refreshes your would with peace and joy.

You are worthy because GOD says you are worthy.

You are beloved because you are our brother.

Will keep you in prayer.

May you learn to love yourself as much as God loves you.

I have felt broken and angry at myself at points in my life too, but God lifts me up and tells me. He forgives me, am I more powerful or wise that I don't forgive myself?
 
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I have too many obligations to "just rest". Too many people count on me to do things. The Christian people I know are very judgemental of me. That's not a shot against Christianity - just a fact about the people I know. Which kinda makes me believe it's not them, it's me. I'm so screwed up, I must me judged and ostracized.
Counselors just want to put me on meds or have me locked away. More humiliation in my past with that. I'm not supposed to hate myself, but I do. I guess that makes me a failure as a Christian person. Maybe I don't even deserve to be on this site because of that.
The world measures you by your success. Money,job,position,property.

You are not called to that. You are called to the eternal.

Once you get to heaven,as say,an engineer,you will not get an audience to your accomplishments.

Those things don't matter there.

The eternal things matter.

What you are experiencing is called " fear of man".

Divorce this world. Get white hot for Jesus,and lets get some souls. Get eternal.

Let all that mess fall off you. None of it matters
 
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some great Posts here!

often we will discover that 'losing' will lead us onto a brighter path and strengthened future...
Bingo !!!!!!!

A million amens to that
 
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Let your mind be renewed with God's word. The book of psalms is very encouraging during depressing times. Shift the focus from yourself to God.

Psalms 100:4-5 NASB

Enter His gates with thanksgiving And His courts with praise. Give thanks to Him, bless His name. For the L ord is good; His lovingkindness is everlasting And His faithfulness to all generations.

Psalms 146:1-2, 7-8 NASB

Praise the L ord ! Praise the L ord , O my soul! I will praise the L ord while I live; I will sing praises to my God while I have my being. Who executes justice for the oppressed;

Who gives food to the hungry. The L ord sets the prisoners free. The L ord opens the eyes of the blind; The L ord raises up those who are bowed down; The L ord loves the righteous;
Amen,amen,amen

Get blown out for Jesus and let this old world be damned
 
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popeye

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I love reading you guys posts.

Such concern,and hope for the hopeless.
Truly the body of Christ.
 

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My mistakes. My missed opportunities. Most of all, the hurt I've caused other people.
You can't change the past. You only have today. With God's help it will be a good day. Most of us occasionally have regret about previous mistakes and loss opportunities. Learn from the mistakes and get prepared for the next opportunity that comes your way. You have to let the past go so you can get on with the future.
 

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some great Posts here!

often we will discover that 'losing' will lead us onto a brighter path and strengthened future...
Losing is not that bad, it will lead to surrender and humility before God. When you hit the bottom, there is no other way to go but up. God exhalts the humble.
 
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I have apologized to those people. No difference. I can't forgive myself because the feelings never go away. There's no moving on because my past has made me the person I am now. I am fubar. Things don't get better. Things don't get fixed.
Neither of these statements are true. The past is merely the history of what you have done.
It never provides the why you future will be different.

Question 1
a) Is there a time in your life when things went well?
b) Can you remember how you felt and how you behaved at that point?
c) Can you bring that back into the present?

Often our unpredictable behaviour is triggered by things outside our control
which start to destroy our out look and focus.

The first step is regrounding oneself back to a point when it made sense and
worked. This is most likely the real you, with all its ups and downs.

Finding that person is the key finding your own language of life.
We all have one, wherever we are. And we always have options.
 

Dan58

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I had the American dream and lost it. The more I try to get it back, the more I keep screwing up.
I have too many obligations to "just rest". Too many people count on me to do things.
Counselors just want to put me on meds or have me locked away. More humiliation in my past with that.

What's the American dream that you lost? If not having it now is causing you this much anxiety, maybe your better off without it? Your biggest battle now would seem to be your self-condemning attitude. You can't keep living and dwelling in the past, let go and let God.

If you can't rest because too many people count on you to do things, then you obviously have a constructive purpose. Stop wanting what you had, stop trying to get back what you lost, your only depressing yourself. A few years ago, I lost over $300,000.00 in the future and stock markets. I'd love to get back what I lost, but in the meantime, life goes on. Learn from the past but live for the future. Put your past on a shelf and start over. Life is not what happened in the past, its what your doing now.

Without the specifics of what's gotten you down, its impossible to give helpful advice. But if you keep defining yourself as a loser and failure, it will be a self-fulfilling prophecy. Stop being your own worst enemy, imagine you have no past and start living tomorrow with a positive outlook. When your at rock bottom, there's just one direction to go :)
 
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Fub,

I read a devotional from a Man of God of old, who spent most of his life in chronic depression. His name was Charles Spurgeon. I think his words will help you. (I think reading 2 Cor. 4 will help you too.) And this is what he wrote for January 29.

Morning


“The things which are not seen.”
- 2Cor. 4:18


In our Christian pilgrimage it is well, for the most part, to be looking forward. Forward lies the crown, and onward is the goal. Whether it be for hope, for joy, for consolation, or for the inspiring of our love, the future must, after all, be the grand object of the eye of faith. Looking into the future we see sin cast out, the body of sin and death destroyed, the soul made perfect, and fit to be a partaker of the inheritance of the saints in light. Looking further yet, the believer’s enlightened eye can see death’s river passed, the gloomy stream forded, and the hills of light attained on which standeth the celestial city; he seeth himself enter within the pearly gates, hailed as more than conqueror, crowned by the hand of Christ, embraced in the arms of Jesus, glorified with him, and made to sit together with him on his throne, even as he has overcome and has sat down with the Father on his throne. The thought of this future may well relieve the darkness of the past and the gloom of the present. The joys of heaven will surely compensate for the sorrows of earth. Hush, hush, my doubts! death is but a narrow stream, and thou shalt soon have forded it. Time, how short-eternity, how long! Death, how brief-immortality, how endless! Methinks I even now eat of Eshcol’s clusters, and sip of the well which is within the gate. The road is so, so short! I shall soon be there.


“When the world my heart is rending
With its heaviest storm of care,
My glad thoughts to heaven ascending,
Find a refuge from despair.


Faith’s bright vision shall sustain me
Till life’s pilgrimage is past;
Fears may vex and troubles pain me,
I shall reach my home at last.”
 
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Galatea

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Hi Galatea,

Sorry I repeated the same prayer in my post. I didn't mean to do a repeat. :). Great advice!
It's a beautiful psalm and bears repeating. :) Your words to him are very kind.
 
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Thank you all. Last night when I prayed and this morning when I prayed at Church, I prayed that I would "get it". I'm missing something. I don't know how I can read all these wise and caring messages and not figure this out. But I can't. I can't rest - I can't even get a decent nights sleep. I live in a small town and can't afford to leave, so I'm stuck with everyone knowing how much of a loser I am and treating me as such. I have no friends - except for you all here. I don't have much in the way of skills or talents. And this old dog isn't up to learning new tricks. I'm so used to who I am that I've grown numb to so much pain. It's not that I can't let go of the past as that it's the past is who I am now. And it sucks. Bad. I really hope that someday I can be writing a "success story" as many of you have here.
 

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Hi,

My advice would be to focus on the Lord and not on your shortcomings. When you start thinking of your own short-comings, praise the Lord instead. Psalm 42 is a good passage about depression. Praise the Lord like David did and put your hope in Him.

Do you think Moses just might have felt bad about himself, who probably had a great education and everything going for him, but killed a man and had to run to the desert and be a shepherd. Do you think he might have felt like a failure? What about Paul when he realized he had been persecuting the Messiah's people?

God used them, and made something good out of their lives.

God's ability to do something great with your life is a lot greater than all your past failures. Just think of the glory He can receive with what He does with and through you in spite of your past failures.

Success is not having a great house and nice stuff. Success is found in obedience to the Lord and His purposes for your life. From this day forward, bring glory to God.
 
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At this point, I'd be satisfied to consider success being able to look at myself in the mirror. I really believe He has ALREADY done something great with my life. My time has passed.
 

presidente

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At this point, I'd be satisfied to consider success being able to look at myself in the mirror. I really believe He has ALREADY done something great with my life. My time has passed.
Don't talk like that. You make yourself sound so old. According to the information on the left, you are one year older than me. Why not believe God for great things ahead for both of us. Let's be fruitful while we are hear.

“Expect great things from God. Attempt great things for God.”
- William Carey.
 
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Thank you all. Last night when I prayed and this morning when I prayed at Church, I prayed that I would "get it". I'm missing something. I don't know how I can read all these wise and caring messages and not figure this out. But I can't. I can't rest - I can't even get a decent nights sleep. I live in a small town and can't afford to leave, so I'm stuck with everyone knowing how much of a loser I am and treating me as such. I have no friends - except for you all here. I don't have much in the way of skills or talents. And this old dog isn't up to learning new tricks. I'm so used to who I am that I've grown numb to so much pain. It's not that I can't let go of the past as that it's the past is who I am now. And it sucks. Bad. I really hope that someday I can be writing a "success story" as many of you have here.
God willing, you're only halfway through your working life. If I can be 15 years older you and capable of learning new tricks, you can too.
 
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At this point, I'd be satisfied to consider success being able to look at myself in the mirror. I really believe He has ALREADY done something great with my life. My time has passed.
And yet you live.

You never know what God will lead you to that will have an impact, even if it's not something that is significant to you.

God says you are far more valuable than you have stated that you are. I pray that he'd reveal that to you.
 
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Than what is keeping me from figuring this out? I'm frustrated by my past. It keeps me from moving forward to my future. Everyday gets worse. Now I'm starting to think I'm wasting everyone's time. I know it's Jesus who sent all of you to help me. And I really do appreciate it. But why isnt it working?