What advantage would someone have having siblings as opposed to being an only child?
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Well, when you have siblings, they are more like you than any other people on Earth. You have shared DNA, and shared environmental experiences growing up. No one else shares your childhood experience in the same manner. Even though siblings argue growing up, when they become adults, they are often best friends. This has been my experience, anyway. I don't think you can rely on anyone like you can rely on siblings.
Well one of the advantages of having siblings is you can blame the other to avoid getting into trouble. lol. But seriously it depends, there is jealously / rivalry amongst some & then theres love / close bond amongst others. Having a sibling is like have a life time friend & you can be there for one another lifting eachoher up.
I think being a only child has advantages and disadvantages. I know I have sisters and my youngest sister is my best bud. My older sister us very reserved and kind of off doing her own things and is more of a stay away from the family type person. I think it must have been lonely for you to have no siblings . On the other hand you probably got a lot of attention from your parents and probably were cared for better then a person who has to dish out funds to take care of multiple kids. There is give and take siblings are great to fall back on when you need help but so are great friends that you would consider a sister or brother. I really dont know which is better..
I have 2 sisters and a brother. They are 9, 11, and 13 years older than me. I pretty much grew up as an only child. By the time I was 9 or so, they had all moved out. My brother is definitely my mom's favorite, always has been and still is. She loves us girls but definitely favors my brother. I had a fairly solitary childhood, played by myself mostly. Played in the brook, went for walks, went berry picking, or sliding, etc. My first oldest sister went to Germany when she moved out of my parents' home, and my brother moved to Utah. My other sister moved out and onto a farm to take care of an old woman. My sister was a nurse back then. Sooo, I grew up alone for the most part. I had a curfew, had to do chores, etc. The only difference between how I got treated, and how my sisters got treated is, my mom didn't hit me, like she did to them. My oldest sister says I got handed everything on a silver platter. Well no, I didn't. Unless you count getting stuff done for me more often, because I had epilepsy (still do) and seizures back then, as special treatment. 
Anyhoo, back then, I was too young to get taken anywhere with my sisters. They were very close, and didn't want me tagging along many times. But in later years, I'm glad I have siblings because they have helped me many times with different things.
Though if I could give away my oldest sister, I would. lol... Only because she's a very negative, nasty, rude person and I can't stand being around her..
Anyhoo, back then, I was too young to get taken anywhere with my sisters. They were very close, and didn't want me tagging along many times. But in later years, I'm glad I have siblings because they have helped me many times with different things.
Though if I could give away my oldest sister, I would. lol... Only because she's a very negative, nasty, rude person and I can't stand being around her..
I have 2 sisters and a brother. They are 9, 11, and 13 years older than me. I pretty much grew up as an only child. By the time I was 9 or so, they had all moved out. My brother is definitely my mom's favorite, always has been and still is. She loves us girls but definitely favors my brother. I had a fairly solitary childhood, played by myself mostly. Played in the brook, went for walks, went berry picking, or sliding, etc. My first oldest sister went to Germany when she moved out of my parents' home, and my brother moved to Utah. My other sister moved out and onto a farm to take care of an old woman. My sister was a nurse back then. Sooo, I grew up alone for the most part. I had a curfew, had to do chores, etc. The only difference between how I got treated, and how my sisters got treated is, my mom didn't hit me, like she did to them. My oldest sister says I got handed everything on a silver platter. Well no, I didn't. Unless you count getting stuff done for me more often, because I had epilepsy (still do) and seizures back then, as special treatment.
Anyhoo, back then, I was too young to get taken anywhere with my sisters. They were very close, and didn't want me tagging along many times. But in later years, I'm glad I have siblings because they have helped me many times with different things.
Though if I could give away my oldest sister, I would. lol... Only because she's a very negative, nasty, rude person and I can't stand being around her..
Anyhoo, back then, I was too young to get taken anywhere with my sisters. They were very close, and didn't want me tagging along many times. But in later years, I'm glad I have siblings because they have helped me many times with different things.
Though if I could give away my oldest sister, I would. lol... Only because she's a very negative, nasty, rude person and I can't stand being around her..
You have almost the same solitary childhood as me, except I didn't have siblings much older. Btw your brother the oldest?
I am the only child from both of my parents’ but I have 6 sisters and a brother; my parents were married but not to each other. So, in a “funny” way I am both. I am not close to any of them. My father’s children did not know I existed until I was late teens. I grew up with my mother’s children. But was rejected because I became Messianic at 18. My life is different because of my dad’s guilt and well just to whom I was born. So, there is no strait forward answer to this question.
I am grateful for how I was born because if it would have been different I may not have been a rebellious teenager and accepted Y-shua as Messiah.
The point is I, you were created in our mother’s womb with all the pages of our life already written in G-d’s Book. I trust and believe G-d know what He was doing when He formed us in the inter most parts of our mother’s wombs. Life could have been better if I was born to two parents married to each other, at the time, (although they were never married) but it could have been worse, I may have never come to know Messiah, Y-shua as Lord. Yeah, your life would be different if you had siblings, but you don’t; so, it is what it is. What if it would have been a life that did not lead to salvation…. If you and your siblings would have become best friends but you would not have come to know Him, it would not have been worth it. Or if you were saved but they weren’t that would suck, or if all of you were saved that would be great, or you could have been an only child/ sibling like me….(that is a big lol).. So many “OR’s” let’s just assume G-d know what He was doing when He created you an only child.
I am grateful for how I was born because if it would have been different I may not have been a rebellious teenager and accepted Y-shua as Messiah.
The point is I, you were created in our mother’s womb with all the pages of our life already written in G-d’s Book. I trust and believe G-d know what He was doing when He formed us in the inter most parts of our mother’s wombs. Life could have been better if I was born to two parents married to each other, at the time, (although they were never married) but it could have been worse, I may have never come to know Messiah, Y-shua as Lord. Yeah, your life would be different if you had siblings, but you don’t; so, it is what it is. What if it would have been a life that did not lead to salvation…. If you and your siblings would have become best friends but you would not have come to know Him, it would not have been worth it. Or if you were saved but they weren’t that would suck, or if all of you were saved that would be great, or you could have been an only child/ sibling like me….(that is a big lol).. So many “OR’s” let’s just assume G-d know what He was doing when He created you an only child.
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You do learn a lot of social skills from having siblings. I mean, you learn them otherwise, as well, through interactions with friends and classmates, but I probably wouldn't have learned to be nice and share as soon as I did if I hadn't known that my sister or brother would hit me if I stole their toy. You learn to realize that other people have a different point of view a lot sooner if you grow up with siblings (although that depends on what age you have them at; I never had a time when I didn't have a sibling so I probably learned more than someone who didn't have a sister or brother until they were 12 would have).
I guess you also have a playmate and/or friend, but it's not like sibling=constant friend. My brother, sister, and I got along reasonably well, but it's not like we were super close. It wasn't like I felt I could confide in my sister or brother or vice versa. Often, we argued. We played together when we were younger but as we got older not so much. A lot of times it's like this situation (although sadly I cannot take credit for the comparison; forget where, but I saw it on the internet where someone pointed out how having siblings is like and it stuck with me because it's so true.)
https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/originals/a4/46/77/a44677dcdbc3f2b2cc6b18e73e99a1ae.jpg
Don't get me wrong. I love my sister and brother and always have. We never fought to the degree where some siblings do (at one point, I heard that my cousin had said his sister never said she loved him; I couldn't understand that because my siblings and I fought, but we always loved each other and I never doubted that)., but now that we're older we have much more peaceful relationships. But sometimes people think siblings=closest friend who you can always go to and will never let you down, and that's often just not true.
I guess you also have a playmate and/or friend, but it's not like sibling=constant friend. My brother, sister, and I got along reasonably well, but it's not like we were super close. It wasn't like I felt I could confide in my sister or brother or vice versa. Often, we argued. We played together when we were younger but as we got older not so much. A lot of times it's like this situation (although sadly I cannot take credit for the comparison; forget where, but I saw it on the internet where someone pointed out how having siblings is like and it stuck with me because it's so true.)
https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/originals/a4/46/77/a44677dcdbc3f2b2cc6b18e73e99a1ae.jpg
Don't get me wrong. I love my sister and brother and always have. We never fought to the degree where some siblings do (at one point, I heard that my cousin had said his sister never said she loved him; I couldn't understand that because my siblings and I fought, but we always loved each other and I never doubted that)., but now that we're older we have much more peaceful relationships. But sometimes people think siblings=closest friend who you can always go to and will never let you down, and that's often just not true.