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    I have been praying for years for some friends and still no one.
    About 8 years ago I introduce 2 friends of mine because I thought we would all get along and have fun.
    Well now those 2 ladies are best friends and go on trips together and their husbands and families do stuff together and they Never invite us. So I was sad but thought I would pray for some special friends for me and my family and years later still No one. Then I hear about all the fun things the other 2 ladies are doing together.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kim12345 View Post
    I have been praying for years for some friends and still no one.
    About 8 years ago I introduce 2 friends of mine because I thought we would all get along and have fun.
    Well now those 2 ladies are best friends and go on trips together and their husbands and families do stuff together and they Never invite us. So I was sad but thought I would pray for some special friends for me and my family and years later still No one. Then I hear about all the fun things the other 2 ladies are doing together.
    ***it is weird how things work out sometimes---continue to pray that God will meet that need in your life---(praying)...

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    Hi Kim,

    So sorry to hear your sad friendship story. For whatever reason it sounds like they hit it off so well, but that's no excuse to leave you behind.

    What I do is look for others who need a friend. Those that others seem to pass over and overlook. There are so many people out there that really need a friend and don't seem to be able to find one.


    I heard a teaching that said if you want to find a friend to be a friend.

    One of the problems I see in churches and maybe it happens without people realizing it, but some people make friends so easily and clicks begin to take place which always leaves others outside of their circle of friends.

    Sometimes the best friends are those who need a friend and don't know how to reach out. Look around and watch others. See if you can detect someone who is a loner.

    One of the things you could begin doing is
    inviting couples over for dessert and coffee or a meal. If you're looking for just a girlfriend, start inviting women from your church out for lunch.

    Or maybe go and walk at the mall together, go shopping together or share a beverage at a coffee shop. Joining a volunteer group might be a way to also meet new friends.

    I will pray that God helps you to find a good friend that sticks closer than a brother.
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    Quote Originally Posted by kim12345 View Post
    I have been praying for years for some friends and still no one.
    About 8 years ago I introduce 2 friends of mine because I thought we would all get along and have fun.
    Well now those 2 ladies are best friends and go on trips together and their husbands and families do stuff together and they Never invite us. So I was sad but thought I would pray for some special friends for me and my family and years later still No one. Then I hear about all the fun things the other 2 ladies are doing together.
    I am a bit of a loner. I am active in my church, and I'm in contact with my brother a lot, but I live alone. I like it this way. I have a lot of time to talk to the Lord.

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    Thank you for all your loving advice I will keep praying and trying. I would like a close lady friend and some couple friends. I do have a neighbor I might ask over. Im a little nervous.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kim12345 View Post
    Thank you for all your loving advice I will keep praying and trying. I would like a close lady friend and some couple friends. I do have a neighbor I might ask over. Im a little nervous.
    Nervous is expected. So be nervous and do it anyway.
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    And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose. Rom. 8:28

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    Nervous is expected. So be nervous and do it anyway.

    LOL Lynn!!!


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    Quote Originally Posted by kim12345 View Post
    Thank you for all your loving advice I will keep praying and trying. I would like a close lady friend and some couple friends. I do have a neighbor I might ask over. Im a little nervous.

    Hey Kim, that would be great! Ask God for courage before you go.

    I thought of something else. I met friends by joining a bible study. It was a Kay Arthur study and it was at a different church than mine.

    The neat thing about that is that we would go to lunch afterwards.....anyone that wanted to go. And if no one mentioned lunch, I asked if anyone wanted to and there was always one or two that could.
    Ezekiel 18:23 Do I have any pleasure in the death of the wicked,” declares the Lord God, “rather than that he should turn from his ways and live?

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    I'm so sorry that happened to you. It is hard for me to make friends too. I have two gals that I go walking with and thank God for that. You can feel free private message me anytime you like.


    Quote Originally Posted by kim12345 View Post
    I have been praying for years for some friends and still no one.
    About 8 years ago I introduce 2 friends of mine because I thought we would all get along and have fun.
    Well now those 2 ladies are best friends and go on trips together and their husbands and families do stuff together and they Never invite us. So I was sad but thought I would pray for some special friends for me and my family and years later still No one. Then I hear about all the fun things the other 2 ladies are doing together.

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    i just don't know how to be friendly, been in seclusion so long. My wife understands, thank God. Sometimes in life a person has been hurt so many times, that they put up a shield. Its easy to be alone, being away from city, not much but corn fields, but it still hurts at times. i have tried to be friendly on this site, forgive me for not knowing how. i sit in the shadows watching others be friendly trying to learn from them.

    Who would want to be friends with a guy that seems so grumpy all the time? Not me. To some it may come off as grumpy, but i'm just tired, sick and tired, feeling that this must just be the way it is, and one day it will all come together. i'm so sorry for blurting out in a brothers thread yesterday, forgive me if you see this sparkman.

    Maybe if someone does not seem to friendly, maybe trying to teach them how to be friendly is better than just shunning them. i'm so sorry to those that i have offended, and made bitter towards me. i'm a social missfit and know it. Please forgive me for not knowing how to be friendly, in Christ Jesus name i ask. Thankyou.

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