As the person who seems to give the most punishment around my house - here are some things Iv'e used
Of course talking to them honestly and telling them how what they did hurt me or someone else
*This was used when my brother told me he hated me and I was trying to make him into an awful person
*This repaired the relationship and made him think next time before he said something like that but it does not work for every child, my other brother could care less if he made anyone feel anyway
Taking away technology
*This is good for the time being, but if you say you are going to give it back in a week they will only behave for a week, tell them you will give it back when you see an improvement, and be fair don't make it impossible for them to reach, your children can't think you want them to be perfect (Do remind them that it will be taken away if they act up again and do not let one incident pass or they won't take you seriously when you say that)
Time Outs
*This is okay for younger children - older kids would love to be in time out, especially sitting, it's a nice break
Have your child help pick their punishment
* it shows them how hard it is on you to decide a punishment
* Make sure the punishment is fair and fits the crime, you have the right ot tell them no. try again
More Homework
*What kid likes homework? Get a workbook for just about every subject, and add that on to work they have at night
More Chores
*Now, this is up to you if you take it to the extreme or not, a few extra chores or chores all day every day
I usually use this if they half --- their chores, but it can work for anything (for every time you act up in front of company we add on one chore)
Write 100 sentences about what you did wrong or write an apology letter to who it should be given to
*Not a bad punishment, this worked for me, and it's what they use in in school suspension lol