I hope this is the right place to post this, but I am looking for some advice about my family.
I am a mother of six, which used to give me great gratification. When they were younger my kids were my joy, but as they grew some of my children became very wayward. For their sake and yours, I’ll use their middle names here.
My oldest son (James) and oldest daughter (Jane) are model children, perfect christians, and married with children. My youngest daughter (Abigail) seems to be following in their footsteps and is a model student at her school, where she is about to graduate.
My middle daughter (Lynn) had to be sent to boarding school, as her behavior became out of control. After she graduated, she moved away, and has not had much contact with us.
My middle son (Jonathan) told us he was gay several years ago, and moved away.
My youngest boy (Ross) was very disrespectful to his father, and left home as soon as he graduated high school, moving to live with Jonathan.
As hard as my husband and I tried, through both prayer and discipline, half of our children are gone. My husband is still very bitter about this. He never got along with Lynn or Ross in their teenage years but them leaving still frustrates him. Jonathan’s homosexual life upsets my husband and I very much as well.
A few months ago was my youngest daughter’s eighteenth birthday, and she told me that her brother Ross had texted her a happy birthday message. I asked her for Ross’s phone number and called him on a whim. It was the first time we had talked in five years. Ross updated me on many things in his life, as well as telling me a bit about Lynn and Jonathan that he could.
When I told my husband that Ross had texted Abigail, he was not very happy. He told both her and I not to talk with Ross, or the “other two”. I didn’t tell him i had talked to Ross.
But Ross and I have kept talking for the last few months. And just a week ago he told me that his girlfriend was pregnant.
And now I’m not sure what I should do. I already disobeyed his request, and I hid the phone calls from him. I am worried considering any mention of Ross, Lynn, and Jonathan makes my husband very unhappy. Should I tell my husband he will have another grandchild soon?
If anyone has any advice (and prayers) please share it with me.