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Hi brothers and sisters,
I'm sorry to barge in here with a question, but I, literally, have no one else to turn to for advice. Our families are 'normal' people who've turned away from my husband and myself because we've told them a few uncomfortable truths and they're happy in the bubble.. They are firm atheists/libertarians and are somewhat ashamed of our family having turned to Christianity. So, in a nutshell:
Two years ago we moved to a new country with a working visa for my husband. At the time of moving I was pregnant with our third child. From the day we landed his boss has been showing an unhealthy interest in our child(ren). He introduced us to a "close friend" of his - a notable surgeon who works in one of the government maternity hospitals, knowing we were unsure where to have our baby. We asked to meet him in his office but they refused and came to our apartment. At the end of the meeting the surgeon casually remarked "you know, it's a standard practice to sterilize the woman after the third child. we can do it under full anesthesia" to which my husband and I politely declined. Afterwards, we sought the opinion of two separate doctors and they were horrified by this and said it was absolutely untrue. Because at that time I was going to a private clinic, the surgeon insisted I stopped, "gathered all my documentation and gave it to him" but that I "immediately stopped going there and started going to him". He claimed that clinic was awful and people "died there". In truth, it was very reputable and everything went perfect.
When they understood our mind was set on giving birth there, both my husband's boss and the surgeon kept calling incessantly for a week, trying to convince us to change our minds.
Time passed and our child was born. Since then every single time my husband sees his boss at work (around once/twice per month) he asks him the following questions:
- When was the child born?
- How big is the child?
- Do you still live there (address of the apartment he found us)?
- Which kindergarten do your children attend? Where is it?
Nothing else. No 'How are you. How's your wife' or small talk - straight to the point. Even my boss' wife, who he's seen once in two years asked him the same questions when she saw him the other day. The latest incident being my husband asking for a leave due to a children feeling unwell and his boss again "politely" insisting we go see a friend doctor of his.
We're horrified.Two clarifications. His boss is a well-known and respected man in the city we live in with ze-ro information about him online. The same goes for the surgeon - he is not present in the list of doctors for the hospital he claims he works at, but in Google he comes up as a co-owner of a company for blood plasma based in Moscow that supplies hospitals in Israel.
One addition: when he came to our apartment and met with us, he gave us his phone to call in case of an emergency. A week later I felt a bit sick and called, but he didn't pick up. We called my husband's boss and he got a hold of him but he told us that "it wasn't a good time" so we called emergency instead and all went well. So, basically, he lied to us that we could count on his help. He casually mentioned his specialization in Israel, which was supposed to impress us, but it sent shivers down my spine. Not to mention that healthy, young women die in childbirth with no actual reason in government hospitals here all the time.
Since our move here, my husband's boss has been giving us small, insignificant but nice-enough presents from "his mother" to our children whom we've never seen but we've kept receiving invitations to "go visit them in the countryside with the kids" (although they live in the same city and have declined our invitations to come visit us in the apartment), signed 'from your foreign grandmother', which, frankly, looked to me like grooming..
Everything is made worse by the fact that, apparently, everyone knows everyone in this city (albeit quite big) and every time my husband goes to meet someone in the sector he works, they're like 'Aaaaa, you work for _______, good man, I didn't see him at the synagogue last week. Tell him ______ sends his regards' or whatever. My husband can stop working in the sector and completely change jobs - that's not a problem.
Now, I am not here to discuss ritual murder of Christian children during (and not only) Passover, blood libel against the jews, the hundreds of thousands of disappearing (without a trace) children annually in the US, Europe, Asia and Latin America. But...my question for you is - how concerned would you be if this were your family and someone was asking these questions. How would you react? Shall we just pack up and leave? The country? The city? The apartment? Should my husband confront him with 'these are very personal questions' or 'are you collecting data or sth'. Should we go to the police? Should he quit without any altercations due to 'personal reasons' and we just lay low for a while?
Are we being paranoid? We tried ignoring a few of these instances despite everything we've read and know..and now...Obviously, we're not staying here at the price of something happening to our children, but I just like to hear your thoughts on handling this situation altogether.
Thank you and God Bless.
I'm sorry to barge in here with a question, but I, literally, have no one else to turn to for advice. Our families are 'normal' people who've turned away from my husband and myself because we've told them a few uncomfortable truths and they're happy in the bubble.. They are firm atheists/libertarians and are somewhat ashamed of our family having turned to Christianity. So, in a nutshell:
Two years ago we moved to a new country with a working visa for my husband. At the time of moving I was pregnant with our third child. From the day we landed his boss has been showing an unhealthy interest in our child(ren). He introduced us to a "close friend" of his - a notable surgeon who works in one of the government maternity hospitals, knowing we were unsure where to have our baby. We asked to meet him in his office but they refused and came to our apartment. At the end of the meeting the surgeon casually remarked "you know, it's a standard practice to sterilize the woman after the third child. we can do it under full anesthesia" to which my husband and I politely declined. Afterwards, we sought the opinion of two separate doctors and they were horrified by this and said it was absolutely untrue. Because at that time I was going to a private clinic, the surgeon insisted I stopped, "gathered all my documentation and gave it to him" but that I "immediately stopped going there and started going to him". He claimed that clinic was awful and people "died there". In truth, it was very reputable and everything went perfect.
When they understood our mind was set on giving birth there, both my husband's boss and the surgeon kept calling incessantly for a week, trying to convince us to change our minds.
Time passed and our child was born. Since then every single time my husband sees his boss at work (around once/twice per month) he asks him the following questions:
- When was the child born?
- How big is the child?
- Do you still live there (address of the apartment he found us)?
- Which kindergarten do your children attend? Where is it?
Nothing else. No 'How are you. How's your wife' or small talk - straight to the point. Even my boss' wife, who he's seen once in two years asked him the same questions when she saw him the other day. The latest incident being my husband asking for a leave due to a children feeling unwell and his boss again "politely" insisting we go see a friend doctor of his.
We're horrified.Two clarifications. His boss is a well-known and respected man in the city we live in with ze-ro information about him online. The same goes for the surgeon - he is not present in the list of doctors for the hospital he claims he works at, but in Google he comes up as a co-owner of a company for blood plasma based in Moscow that supplies hospitals in Israel.
One addition: when he came to our apartment and met with us, he gave us his phone to call in case of an emergency. A week later I felt a bit sick and called, but he didn't pick up. We called my husband's boss and he got a hold of him but he told us that "it wasn't a good time" so we called emergency instead and all went well. So, basically, he lied to us that we could count on his help. He casually mentioned his specialization in Israel, which was supposed to impress us, but it sent shivers down my spine. Not to mention that healthy, young women die in childbirth with no actual reason in government hospitals here all the time.
Since our move here, my husband's boss has been giving us small, insignificant but nice-enough presents from "his mother" to our children whom we've never seen but we've kept receiving invitations to "go visit them in the countryside with the kids" (although they live in the same city and have declined our invitations to come visit us in the apartment), signed 'from your foreign grandmother', which, frankly, looked to me like grooming..
Everything is made worse by the fact that, apparently, everyone knows everyone in this city (albeit quite big) and every time my husband goes to meet someone in the sector he works, they're like 'Aaaaa, you work for _______, good man, I didn't see him at the synagogue last week. Tell him ______ sends his regards' or whatever. My husband can stop working in the sector and completely change jobs - that's not a problem.
Now, I am not here to discuss ritual murder of Christian children during (and not only) Passover, blood libel against the jews, the hundreds of thousands of disappearing (without a trace) children annually in the US, Europe, Asia and Latin America. But...my question for you is - how concerned would you be if this were your family and someone was asking these questions. How would you react? Shall we just pack up and leave? The country? The city? The apartment? Should my husband confront him with 'these are very personal questions' or 'are you collecting data or sth'. Should we go to the police? Should he quit without any altercations due to 'personal reasons' and we just lay low for a while?
Are we being paranoid? We tried ignoring a few of these instances despite everything we've read and know..and now...Obviously, we're not staying here at the price of something happening to our children, but I just like to hear your thoughts on handling this situation altogether.
Thank you and God Bless.