need to give up on camping dream

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Angela53510

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I've been camping since I was a Girl Guide in Grade 7. I love nothing better than to be in the wilderness, where everything reminds you of the presence, majesty and power of God! Then I started hiking in the Rocky Mountains, near Banff and Jasper AB in the National Parks. I would hitch hike there, and hike up in the mountains. I met lots of people on the trail, but I was happy to be totally alone, too! (Looking back, I was very trusting, but since nothing ever happened, I guess that was ok!)

My husband and I started camping with our kids out of necessity. That means, we didn't have the money to do anything else. Sometimes, we would go to forestry campsites in BC, which were totally free in those days, but don't ask for services.

Our kids grew up camping, and they take their kids camping with them. We moved up to a tent trailer, and then several varieties of trailers. Our current one is self equipped, which means that basically you have all the comforts of home, even lights and a fridge and stove, except electricity if there are no services. Well, if you go to a trailer park, you end up with electricity and wifi these days. In Phoenix, we stopped in a 55+ park, because the state parks were all full. So we talked to our neighbours. But we didn't become firm friends.

Which is all to say, we have never gone camping with other people, (unless you count parking in a field at church camp!) It never really occurred to me anyone would want to go camping with other people, although I guess people do. Except our kids and grandkids, but that is just an extension of what we always did.

I like other people, and if we met someone who liked camping, (provided I could take my trailer) I would go. But I wouldn't look for anyone to do it with. So, why not do it on your own? Why not have fun with your kids and husband, and learn to be independent of people, and what they think of you, or what you imagine they think of you, or not?

Maybe if you learn to like camping for camping's sake, instead of making it into a social occasion, then people will like to come with you. For one, you will be a bit more experienced in things that come up. And for another, you won't have to be clingy if the occasion does come up.

I hope you do have some fun camping with your family, and break free of needing to do it with other families. Happy camping!
 

Roughsoul1991

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Wish i had a camper lol we use tents. Except i no longer can sleep on the ground im slowly transforming into a RV camper.
 
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Ariel82

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Hi,
I have been praying for about 5 years for some fun friends that have kids same ages as ours to go camping with.
I am going camping and my daughter is bringing her friends this summer. I am grateful their parents are allowing their kids to go with us and trust us. I invited the parents but they didn't respond.
But I would like some adult friends that have kids same ages as our that WANT and CAN go with us. I invite people and no one wants to go.
Someone just invited us and I was so excited and then 24 hours later backed out. I think there excuse is because they dont have the money. Well thats hogwash because they go to Las Vegas all the time.

What is wrong with me and my husband that they do not want to have fun with us??

I even went to a camping trip that was advertised on my church website for people to come but when we got there I could tell the leader already had his set of friends and we were not really welcomed. I mean they were polite but they had there own friends and were not interested in meeting any more.

After praying for something so simple and God saying no Please pray I will give up this camping/boating dream. thanks
My son is a part of boy scouts and we meet a lot of families who like to camp with kids in the same age group.

Perhaps you can join a local troop?

They have Venture crew for girls and boys at age 14.
 
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Ariel82

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also, why would a relative ask us to go camping then 24 hours later back out?
did they do that on purpose to mess with me and lead me on then hurt me OR am I reading too much into it
Lots of folks don't like camping. Most of the girl scouts in my daughter troops only "camp" in cabins with electricity and running water.

Might not be you. Might just be they don't like to camp.
 
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Ariel82

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Try creating a facebook community page for local outdoor lovers. Invite your friends list and see if it grows. Then if it grows plan a camping event to help get kids outdoors
My husband joined this forum and they host various camping trips...not sure if anyone is interested but folks 'm probably find websites where people do what you suggest.

Personally find it easier to join an already established site them make a new one.

https://www.hammockforums.net/forum/forumdisplay.php/113-Southeast
 
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Ariel82

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I find the key to deep relationships is to be Christlike: love without strings and expectations....love who they are. Spend time doing things others like without expecting them to do things you like that they don't. If you don't like an activity but do it to spend time with others, then the time spend together is the reward. Don't expect others to do things they don't like just to spend time with you, but most people don't.

Deep relationships develop when you go through hard times and the other person is there for you or they go through a tough time and you are there to pray and encourage them.

It's not something that can be forced and takes time and openness and trust.

Building trust and showing love can be hard at times.
 
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I don't know whats wrong with me other than Im weird I guess
The very first thing to do is quit saying that about yourself and quit believing it.

Everybody is weird, so what?

Don't see yourself as a victim of whatever you think made you odd... say and believe what God says you are from the New Testament. Here's a few to start off with...

[FONT=&quot]1 Peter 5:6,7[/FONT][FONT=&quot][/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God, that he may exalt you in due time:[/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]Casting all your care upon him; for He cares for you.

[/FONT][FONT=&quot][FONT=&quot]1 Corinthians 6:19, 20[/FONT][FONT=&quot]
Your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit which is in you, which you have of God, and you are not your own....for you are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's.

2 Corinthians 6:16,17
And what agreement has the temple of God with idols? For you are the temple of the living God; as God has said, [/FONT][FONT=&quot]I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be My people[/FONT][FONT=&quot]....Therefore come out from among them, and be separate, says the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you. (in the OT see: Exodus 29:45-46, Ezekiel 37:27)

[/FONT][FONT=&quot]The Father's purpose for creating mankind was / is to be with us, and share Himself with us![/FONT][FONT=&quot] [/FONT][FONT=&quot]
(see: 2 Corinthians 6:16,17, Ezekiel 37:27, Leviticus 26:12, Zechariah 2:10-11, Psalms 68:17-18, Isaiah 12:6, Psalm 46:4-7, Revelations 21:3, Luke 1:68, John 1:10-14, Ephesians 2:7)

[/FONT][/FONT][FONT=&quot][FONT=&quot] [FONT=&quot]Hebrews 12:14[/FONT][FONT=&quot][/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]Follow peace with all men (Matthew 5:9), and holiness (1 Peter 1:15,16),
without which no man shall see the Lord

Philippians 2:13[/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]For it is God which works in you both to will and to do of His good pleasure.

[/FONT][/FONT][/FONT][FONT=&quot][FONT=&quot][FONT=&quot] [FONT=&quot]2 Corinthians 5:17-21[/FONT][FONT=&quot][/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]If any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; L00K, all things are become new.[/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]And all things are of God, Who hath reconciled us to Himself by Jesus Christ, and has given to us the ministry of reconciliation;[/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]To know, that God was in Christ, reconciling the world unto Himself, not imputing their trespasses unto them; and hath committed unto us the word of reconciliation.[/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]Now then we are ambassadors for Christ, as though God did beseech you by us: we pray you in Christ's stead, be reconciled to God.[/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]For He hath made Him to be sin for us, who knew no sin; that we might be made the righteousness of God in Him.

[/FONT][/FONT][/FONT][/FONT][FONT=&quot][FONT=&quot][FONT=&quot][FONT=&quot] [FONT=&quot]Romans 8:11-15[/FONT][FONT=&quot][/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]If the Spirit of Him that raised up Jesus from the dead dwell in you, He that raised up Christ from the dead shall also quicken (make ALIVE) your mortal bodies by his Spirit that dwells in you.[/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]Therefore, brethren, we are debtors, not to the flesh, to live after the flesh.[/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]For if you live after the flesh, ye shall die: but if you through the Spirit do mortify (put to death) the deeds of the body, you shall live.[/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God.[/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]For you have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear; but you have received the Spirit of adoption, whereby we cry, Abba, Father. (Daddy God, my Daddy, my Father).

[/FONT][/FONT][/FONT][/FONT][/FONT][FONT=&quot][FONT=&quot][FONT=&quot][FONT=&quot][FONT=&quot][FONT=&quot]Ephesians 1:17-19[/FONT][FONT=&quot]
The God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of glory, may give unto you the Spirit of wisdom and revelation in the knowledge of Him....the eyes of your understanding being enlightened; that you may know what is the hope of His calling, and what the riches of the glory of His inheritance is in the Saints....and what is the exceeding greatness of His power to us who believe, according to the working of His mighty power.

Ephesians 3:17-20
Christ may dwell in your hearts by faith; that you, being rooted and grounded in love....may be able to comprehend with all Saints what is the breadth, and length, and depth, and height....and to know the love of Christ, which passes knowledge to you, that you might be filled with all the fullness of God....Glory unto Him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us,

Colossians 1:9-14
For this cause we also, since the day we heard it, do not cease to pray for you, and to desire that you might be filled with the knowledge of His will in all wisdom and spiritual understanding....that you might walk worthy of the Lord unto all pleasing, being fruitful in every good work, and increasing in the knowledge of God....strengthened with all might, according to His glorious power, unto all patience and longsuffering with joyfulness....giving thanks unto the Father, which has made us able to be partakers of the inheritance of the Saints in light (Glory)....Who has delivered us from the power of darkness, and has translated us into the Kingdom of His dear Son....in Whom we have redemption through His Blood, even the forgiveness (destruction, removal) of sin.

[/FONT][/FONT][/FONT][/FONT][/FONT][/FONT][FONT=&quot][FONT=&quot][FONT=&quot][FONT=&quot][FONT=&quot][FONT=&quot] [FONT=&quot]2 Peter 1:3,4[/FONT][FONT=&quot][/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]According as his divine power hath given unto us all things that pertain unto life and godliness, through the knowledge of him that hath called us to glory and virtue:[/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]Whereby are given unto us exceeding great and precious promises: that by these ye might be partakers of the divine nature, having escaped the corruption that is in the world through lust.

People will come and go... they'll always both fail and succeed... so your first relationship is always with the Lord.[/FONT][/FONT][/FONT][/FONT][/FONT][/FONT]
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Dino246

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No, I don't have friends in general. yes I struggle to form meaningful relationships.
I don't know whats wrong with me other than Im weird I guess
Hello kim12345...
This post and some of your other comments in this thread resonate with me. I have been socially awkward for most of my life. I struggled to make significant friendships, and for years I had no idea why. Through some personal relational trauma I learned that I was controlling and critical, and that I have fairly low "emotional intelligence". I'm not "weird"; rather, I'm not gifted in those areas, so I have to work harder to make and maintain friendships.

I also had a problem with unresolved anger, such that it would come pouring out whenever I had intense feelings about anything. I realized that I didn't like the person I had become, so I put effort into learning, changing, and getting help. The Lord guided me to good people and resources, identified some unhealthy patterns and beliefs, and healed me of some deep hurts. The anger is mostly gone, I am far more aware of the impact I have on others, and I now find it easier to maintain friendships.

Allow me to encourage you to dig a little deeper on this. Don't just accept something less than what God has for you. Ask Him, and keep asking, until He reveals any deep issues. Get His help to resolve them. :)