All of my family are nonbelievers and it is terrible.

[imfinallyfree]

They don't believe in God because of what Christians did to them generations ago and I appreciate that but God's advice is necessary advice just to exist in a functioning society.

It's advice that all people need to live by not just Christians, one of my uncle's just asked me to come out of my room that I've been in for month's to avoid fighting with nonbelievers and talk to him about what's happening because the police were just here so that got his curiosity going.

The main reason that things are bad for me is I'm a believer surrounded by nonbelievers that have a perfectly valid reason for not trusting Christian advice.

I tried to tell him that Christianity isn't just for white indeed not all Christians are white and he almost attacked me if it weren't for my aunt telling him to calm down he probably would have.

I am so lost,in a grown man and haven't cried without being blind drunk for days,but I remember how it relieved some of the pressure when I was a kid so I tried crying but I can't even do that anymore my despair is beyond that point.

I just want the nonbelievers to hurry up and kill me,I've been waiting 21 yrs to leave this world.

 

[michael100]

What you have to remember is that God loves them too, god loves all his children unconditionally, i feel for you i really do , i myself have been in situations where my faith is tested, hold on, you are never alone , you are so precious and life is so precious xxx

 

[blue_ladybug]

You have one of the lousiest, poor me attitudes of anyone I have seen on this site thus far. You moan about being miserable, well no wonder!! You hide in your room 24/7 like a hermit crab. Get out, get some fresh air and companionship. Do you truly believe that you're the only believer in a world full of unbelievers? Because I have a news flash for you: you're not. You say you're a believer, well come out of your crab shell and prove it. Get out among society and try telling others of God.

Another newsflash: you're gonna keep on waiting to die. God isn't gonna send someone to kill you, just because you selfishly wish He would. I've been wanting to die since I was about 12 years old. Guess what, I'm 46 and still alive so that's 34 years of ministry that I couldn't have done if I were dead. God gave you your life, and you want it to end? Get on your knees, and thank Him for all the years of ministry He has given you, and will continue to give you, for as long as you are alive and breathing..

 

[Miri]

Just a question, why do you feel the need to stay in your room?

If it's because your family are non Christians then you need to take a closer look
at the example of Jesus. He ate with sinners, mixed with prostitues and tax collectors,
healed the untouchables.

If its due to other family problems, why not look for your own place to live.

 

[MultilingualMessenger]

They don't believe in God because of what Christians did to them generations ago and I appreciate that but God's advice is necessary advice just to exist in a functioning society.

It's advice that all people need to live by not just Christians, one of my uncle's just asked me to come out of my room that I've been in for month's to avoid fighting with nonbelievers and talk to him about what's happening because the police were just here so that got his curiosity going.

The main reason that things are bad for me is I'm a believer surrounded by nonbelievers that have a perfectly valid reason for not trusting Christian advice.

I tried to tell him that Christianity isn't just for white indeed not all Christians are white and he almost attacked me if it weren't for my aunt telling him to calm down he probably would have.

I am so lost,in a grown man and haven't cried without being blind drunk for days,but I remember how it relieved some of the pressure when I was a kid so I tried crying but I can't even do that anymore my despair is beyond that point.

I just want the nonbelievers to hurry up and kill me,I've been waiting 21 yrs to leave this world.

Okay...show them different. But that entails staying alive, getting out of your room and interacting with them. It also helps if you find some believers and make some Christian friends to introduce your family to.

If you're afraid of fighting, I have three pieces of advice for you: 1) know your Bible and be ready to respond, 2) learn some apologetics and be ready to respond, and/or 3) decide not to engage any argumentativeness or troll-ish behavior and be ready to respond. All three require being ready to respond, so bone up on your strategy, put on some armor, and stand firm in your faith.

Is your family black? I ask because I'm black and have some family members (but one in particular) that think that Christianity is a white man's religion. I know their line of thinking and might be able to help you out.

 

[Ariel82]

I would advise going for a walk in the reservation and enjoying God's beautiful creation.

I always feel closer to God and more at peace after looking at the beauty of nature.

Then I would learn a useful skill or figure out what gifts God has given you.

Can you fix things? Are you an artist?

Find out what kind of ministry you can do to show God's love to others. You will spread more of the gospel by serving and loving others then by judging and condemning them.

Is there a local church you can attend? Maybe reach out and see if they will send a pastor once a month and tell people about it.

Maybe see if their mission team will collect food or gifts to give out after they hear a sermon?

I don't know, but will pray God will surround you with Holy Spirit filled people and you will come back and tell us how God changed the hearts and minds of all around you for His glory.

 

[Monnieloves]

My heart goes out to you for the pain you are going through. As a believer, I know what it's like being around nonbelievers. I would try to convince them that following GOD is the best way to live. I realized that nonbelievers can sometimes believe in their non believe with just as much passion as a believer believing. My experience has taught me to just show the love of GOD by the life I live. When I am tempted to get depressed, I am reminded that GOD has a plan for my life. GOD has a wonderful plan for your life. His plan is that you live out the full number of your days walking with him. Jeremiah 29:11 'For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future. Have you considered opening up to someone at your local church? I know Focus on the Family has counselors you can talk to free of charge (855-382-5433). I hope this helps.

 

[santuzza]

I really don't understand your post. You're 41 years old. You're an adult. Get out on your own and live your own life. Unless there are serious physical constraints whereby you can't live alone, I don't understand why you're not living as an adult in an adult world. Your family will always be your family, but you don't have to let them dictate how you live your life.

And get out among some other believers! Are you going to church? Are you in a Bible study with other strong Christians? That's the fellowship you need. Don't be hanging around your family who clearly don't understand your decision for Christ. You're in such a hostile environment, I don't believe you can really effectively point them to Christ -- at least not at this point.

So go out on your own and live a good, Christian walk -- that will be the best way to soften their hearts towards Christ. And it will help you grow in your walk with the Lord.

 

[bestbefore1973]

They don't believe in God because of what Christians did to them generations ago and I appreciate that but God's advice is necessary advice just to exist in a functioning society.

It's advice that all people need to live by not just Christians, one of my uncle's just asked me to come out of my room that I've been in for month's to avoid fighting with nonbelievers and talk to him about what's happening because the police were just here so that got his curiosity going.

The main reason that things are bad for me is I'm a believer surrounded by nonbelievers that have a perfectly valid reason for not trusting Christian advice.

I tried to tell him that Christianity isn't just for white indeed not all Christians are white and he almost attacked me if it weren't for my aunt telling him to calm down he probably would have.

I am so lost,in a grown man and haven't cried without being blind drunk for days,but I remember how it relieved some of the pressure when I was a kid so I tried crying but I can't even do that anymore my despair is beyond that point.

I just want the nonbelievers to hurry up and kill me,I've been waiting 21 yrs to leave this world.

What is going on with you my friend, your like a drunk man tossed by the waves of the sea.

James 1:6[SUP]6 [/SUP]But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering. For he that wavereth is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed.

 

[88]

They don't believe in God because of what Christians did to them generations ago and I appreciate that but God's advice is necessary advice just to exist in a functioning society.

It's advice that all people need to live by not just Christians, one of my uncle's just asked me to come out of my room that I've been in for month's to avoid fighting with nonbelievers and talk to him about what's happening because the police were just here so that got his curiosity going.

The main reason that things are bad for me is I'm a believer surrounded by nonbelievers that have a perfectly valid reason for not trusting Christian advice.

I tried to tell him that Christianity isn't just for white indeed not all Christians are white and he almost attacked me if it weren't for my aunt telling him to calm down he probably would have.

I am so lost,in a grown man and haven't cried without being blind drunk for days,but I remember how it relieved some of the pressure when I was a kid so I tried crying but I can't even do that anymore my despair is beyond that point.

I just want the nonbelievers to hurry up and kill me,I've been waiting 21 yrs to leave this world.

***(praying)...

 

[Angela53510]

In what way are you a Christian? I'm not being mean, just trying to establish some definitions here.

You will not associate with unbelievers. Is that not the definition of a Pharisee?

You will not forgive anyone. Not your family or anyone else! Forgiving is the definition of being a Christian. No matter what has been done to you. If you were abused, then do get away from this person or persons, but you have to forgive them, because God will not forgive you, if you do not forgive those who have sinned against you. To say nothing of what the bitterness and anger is doing to your heart!

Then there is the "getting blind drunk." Hmm, I think you need to give up drinking totally. This sounds like alcoholism or binge drinking, not moderation with meals. The Holy Spirit is the one who touches our hearts and heals us. "Spirits" or alcohol are false Holy Spirits, who come to destroy and to kill lying and saying they are comforting you The Holy Spirit is the Comforter! You need to stop drinking now!

Then there is the self-righteousness you display in almost every post in every forum. You think you alone have God's truth. Well, I have yet to see any truth in you. Especially God's truth, which leads us to transformation in our character and becoming more like Christ. Are you Christ-like in your bitterness and grudge-holding? I thought not!

I see you are hurting, emotionally. Perhaps you didn't know this, but everyone goes through the fires of being hurt by others - through their actions, their inactions, bullying, abuse, etc. But the definition is learning to forgive, as Jesus forgave those who crucified him on the cross.

"And when they came to the place that is called The Skull, there they crucified him, and the criminals, one on his right and one on his left. 34 And Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.” And they cast lots to divide his garments." Luke 23:33-34

It doesn't matter what has been done to you, you have to forgive.

Finally, why on earth are you living with your family? If you are medically disabled, that is one thing, but if it is just anger and bitterness, that is another. Why on earth are you like some kind of burrowing animal in its lair? You do need to get out, find some joy. Do some things with your life! You are still so young, you have so much time left, and so much to live for.

I bet if you started showing the light of Christ, and living for him, these unbelievers who live with you, might see a different story. My parents physically and emotionally abused me. They threw me out of the house at 17. I went on with my life. I got saved at 26, and my goal was for God to save my parents. I prayed, witnessed, and most of all, I tried to love them and treat them like Christ cared for me and saved me. It took over 30 years, but both my parents were saved, and totally transformed. My forgiveness is complete. I hate to even say what happened in the early years with my parents, not because it hurts me, but because I have forgotten what they did, and instead, replaced my feelings with love, and the fellowship of believers. I realized they did try the best they knew how, but they just didn't know how, very well.

I trust you will listen to someone in this thread. If you keep whining, people are going to realize you are just another messed up person with Borderline Personality Disorder, out for attention. Even if you are mentally ill, God can help you change, and he certainly will help you forgive, and come to know him as Lord and Saviour.

I'm not judging, but your fruits are simply not showing. Try and show us you are working towards becoming more Christlike, even in baby steps, and everyone here will want to encourage and help you!

 

[Willie-T]

Is being Native American playing any part in why you cannot just walk off?

 

[ROSSELLA]

They don't believe in God because of what Christians did to them generations ago and I appreciate that but God's advice is necessary advice just to exist in a functioning society.

It's advice that all people need to live by not just Christians, one of my uncle's just asked me to come out of my room that I've been in for month's to avoid fighting with nonbelievers and talk to him about what's happening because the police were just here so that got his curiosity going.

The main reason that things are bad for me is I'm a believer surrounded by nonbelievers that have a perfectly valid reason for not trusting Christian advice.

I tried to tell him that Christianity isn't just for white indeed not all Christians are white and he almost attacked me if it weren't for my aunt telling him to calm down he probably would have.

I am so lost,in a grown man and haven't cried without being blind drunk for days,but I remember how it relieved some of the pressure when I was a kid so I tried crying but I can't even do that anymore my despair is beyond that point.

I just want the nonbelievers to hurry up and kill me,I've been waiting 21 yrs to leave this world.

I'm sorry you're going through this! I'm praying for you. Family isn't easy, especially when they're unbelievers and you're saved. It sounds like you're in an abusive situation if your uncle is willing to attack you and you think it's a possibility they'll kill you. If you don't mind sharing, why do you stay? I know it's not always easy to leave, but if you let us know what's holding you there, maybe we can think of resources you could look into or ways you can get out.

I've been where you are; waiting to die for long periods of time. It's easy for people to say "Don't feel that way!" when they're not feeling it or have never felt that way. A counselor might be able to help. Unfortunately, there's not quick way to stop wanting to die. There're lots of things that may help you feel better and may get you through a rough patch, but nothing's the same for everyone. All I can advise is for you to pray and trust in the Lord, but I know that sometimes hearing that is frustrating. Especially when you try to do that and God seems to decide to make you wait. If you ever want to talk, you can PM me.

 

[Rockrz]

I tried to tell him that Christianity isn't just for white indeed not all Christians are white

Tell them... Jesus was not white or black, He is a Jew!

 

[Demi777]

Galatians 3:28-29King James Version (KJV)

28 There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus.

That is the real deal.
Its not the problem to be surrounded by nonbelievers. We are the light of the world. You need some Christians in ur area that can strengthen u and encourage u.

We are hated for Christ sake
1 john 3:13
Do not be surprised, my brothers and sisters, if the world hates you.

MATTHEW 10:22
And ye shall be hated of all men for my name's sake: but he that endureth to the end shall be saved.

John 15:18
"If the world hates you, keep in mind that it hated me first.
****
But theres hope. Pray for them and dont try to shove Christianity down their throats. It will only harden their hearts more against us and God.