I feel the need to put this here. I can assure you of a few ways to ruin your child's life. One is to abandon them when they are young but old enough to remember. Two is to have more children but make your children raise your children... three is if your child asks you for help when they are a young adult like leaving a bf who is abusive or to stop doing drugs etc.. Do not turn your back on them.. If they ask for help you give them help and you stand by their side. If you can not help them yourself find someone who can help them and still stand by their side..
Do not do what my mother did to me I asked for help leaving an abusive man she took my kids for what was supposed to be a little while when I left him and got on my feet she refused to give them back to me. She could not have pushed me more to go back to abusive bf if she had tied us together with a rope... Her trying to keep my children away from me pushed me back with abusive bf and after a few years of court battles and not getting my kids back I had a mental break down and spun into a major depression which ruined my life for many years..
Now i am over the depression and i see my kids on my own schedule but I am very angry and bitter with my mother. I only wished she would have honestly stood by my side and helped me and stayed with me and helped me stay away from my abusive bf at them time.. I feel if she would not have taken my children away from and turned them against me and fought me tooth and nail to keep them things could have been so different for me. Instead 24 years later I am married to abusive bf and my kids are hurt and angry and confused. I personally have forgiven my mother but I cannot stand her.. I will never forget the hurt she has caused me the amount of times she has ripped my heart out and stomped on it . She will have to face God someday for the lies she has told about me and for taking my children and keeping them from me for no good reason.. SO i am fine with knowing that God will not be pleased with what she did.. Moral of the story is if you have children stand by their side no matter what. DO not make them do adult things before the age of 16 like raise other children for you care for the house hold etc. okay that is all ty for your 5 minutes hope this helps some one.
Do not do what my mother did to me I asked for help leaving an abusive man she took my kids for what was supposed to be a little while when I left him and got on my feet she refused to give them back to me. She could not have pushed me more to go back to abusive bf if she had tied us together with a rope... Her trying to keep my children away from me pushed me back with abusive bf and after a few years of court battles and not getting my kids back I had a mental break down and spun into a major depression which ruined my life for many years..
Now i am over the depression and i see my kids on my own schedule but I am very angry and bitter with my mother. I only wished she would have honestly stood by my side and helped me and stayed with me and helped me stay away from my abusive bf at them time.. I feel if she would not have taken my children away from and turned them against me and fought me tooth and nail to keep them things could have been so different for me. Instead 24 years later I am married to abusive bf and my kids are hurt and angry and confused. I personally have forgiven my mother but I cannot stand her.. I will never forget the hurt she has caused me the amount of times she has ripped my heart out and stomped on it . She will have to face God someday for the lies she has told about me and for taking my children and keeping them from me for no good reason.. SO i am fine with knowing that God will not be pleased with what she did.. Moral of the story is if you have children stand by their side no matter what. DO not make them do adult things before the age of 16 like raise other children for you care for the house hold etc. okay that is all ty for your 5 minutes hope this helps some one.
