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ThinMint

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Hello, my name is MJ. I am 25 years old and dealing with the constant struggle against the enemies in my head (Bulimia with Anorexic Tendencies, PPD, Anxiety and OCD)
I try every day to know God more as I often feel like He is my only family. My son is a year and a half old and all though he is my best friend the PPD makes me so depressed sometimes I can't even hold him. His daddy works so much that I have been feeling like a single mom for a long time and every time I talk to him about it he just says sorry and goes to sleep.
Last night I had a break down from feeling like a failure and I suppose I'm here to try to make some spiritual friends as I have no friends and feel very alone...

Thanks for listening...
 
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ThinMint said:
Hello, my name is MJ. I am 25 years old and dealing with the constant struggle against the enemies in my head (Bulimia with Anorexic Tendencies, PPD, Anxiety and OCD)
I try every day to know God more as I often feel like He is my only family. My son is aHi year and a half old and all though he is my best friend the PPD makes me so depressed sometimes I can't even hold him. His daddy works so much that I have been feeling like a single mom for a long time and every time I talk to him about it he just says sorry and goes to sleep.
Last night I had a break down from feeling like a failure and I suppose I'm here to try to make some spiritual friends as I have no friends and feel very alone...

Thanks for listening...
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Hi, just read your lines. Thats really difficult situation. I pray that your husband will get open eyes for your situation and also you will find friends here, which are little bit jounger then me. I can say your trust in the Lord Jesus will not vain!
 
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ThinMint said:
Hello, my name is MJ. I am 25 years old and dealing with the constant struggle against the enemies in my head (Bulimia with Anorexic Tendencies, PPD, Anxiety and OCD)
I try every day to know God more as I often feel like He is my only family. My son is a year and a half old and all though he is my best friend the PPD makes me so depressed sometimes I can't even hold him. His daddy works so much that I have been feeling like a single mom for a long time and every time I talk to him about it he just says sorry and goes to sleep.
Last night I had a break down from feeling like a failure and I suppose I'm here to try to make some spiritual friends as I have no friends and feel very alone...

Thanks for listening...
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You are alone, so feeling alone is about what you're supposed to feel. (Sometimes it helps to know we're not crazy for feeling like we do.)

That said, with that string of diagnoses, may I assume you already realize you can't help it? The eating disorders, anxieties, and OCD are all ways you've tried to gain control in your life when you realize you have no control in your life. Does that seem accurate?

Good news, you're not wrong there either. No matter how hard we try, there is no way of controlling life, and just trying to control it guarantees failure. How is that good news? Well, WE cannot control anything, but there is one who has perfect control -- perfect sovereignty even on life itself. He's in charge of everything. His name is Jehovah!

And really good news because Jehovah, who is in control of everything, has chosen to give his love most to man. Out of all he has created, he has chosen man to love the most.

BUT, he is perfect, and can only spend time with perfect.

Did that just bring you down again? Yeah, that's a good place to be, because none of us are perfect. Very good that you were able to list so many diagnoses you have that prove you aren't perfect, because many people go through life never aware of their failures. You've actually been trying to be perfect on your own, so at least you know the goal, as you see the failures. He still loves is, so he made a way around this. Because he is perfect he has to judge anyone who isn't, and he judges us for one thing -- sin. (That is our imperfect, thinking we can do this without him by our strength.) And the judgement is separation from him, death, and hell.

Sin separates us from God, but he loves us. So he gave a way to justly sentence the people he loves and restore them to him. That way is named Jesus. Jesus died on the cross to take on the rightful punishment of those Jehovah loves. Jesus took that punishment. He is Jehovah and Son of God, yet he came as a man to be separated from God, died, and went to hell in our stead! If you trust he did that for you, then he changes you. That change is ability to do what is right through him in you. He's still in control, but at least you give him that control to change you to something good -- more and more like him, until he glorifies us. And more and more like him is to love him fully and to love others fully. He does love you fully because of who he is.

Trust in God, and you won't be alone. Trust God and you don't have to worry about not being in control. You never were. Let it go. You've been trying to control for so long and it's not working for you. Let God take over and you don't have to take on a burden you cannot bear. Trust him, and you will know love.

How is that for a start of a beautiful friendship?

If you do that, then we (as in folks on this site) will help you to figure out what to do next.

What I am seeing is a woman so consumed with trying to control life, it's eating her alive. Trust God and that changes. Maybe not overnight, (because you are practiced at trying to control constantly), or maybe immediately, but if it is immediately, that's a miracle from God too. But he will change you. He will set you apart as someone who can love and will love, instead of trying to maintain control.
 
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joefizz

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feeling alone? you are never alone god is with you as well as jesus and the comforter the holy spirit thats 3 friends who care for you and watch over you right there so try not to get discouraged leave it all with the lord in prayer and he will guide you down the right path and of course you can talk to those who have been where you are on this chat site,youll find a way to move forward god always provides a way out of any situation god never puts on you more than you can bare.
 
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ThinMint said:
Hello, my name is MJ. I am 25 years old and dealing with the constant struggle against the enemies in my head (Bulimia with Anorexic Tendencies, PPD, Anxiety and OCD)
I try every day to know God more as I often feel like He is my only family. My son is a year and a half old and all though he is my best friend the PPD makes me so depressed sometimes I can't even hold him. His daddy works so much that I have been feeling like a single mom for a long time and every time I talk to him about it he just says sorry and goes to sleep.
Last night I had a break down from feeling like a failure and I suppose I'm here to try to make some spiritual friends as I have no friends and feel very alone...

Thanks for listening...
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Its nice to meet you MJ. I just wanted tell you you have value and worth in Jesus Christ. I don't have many friends where I live. A few but not many. If you ever want to fellowship just let me know.
 
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Hi MJ,

im sorry for what you're going through. I felt very isolated when my kid's were little like yours is. It's very common with stay at home parents.

I'd like to recommend a group called Moms of preschoolers or MOPS. Many churches have these groups of Moms from newborn to first grade. I met some really nice friends through MOPS that I'm still friends with today. The web address is MOPS.ORG.

It sounds like you're really struggling, I think you should seek professional help, these are very serious. It's very stressful to be a parent of a little one who depends on you youfor everything. You're not alone.

If you feel like you need someone to talk with you can PM. I've been in your shoes, it's not an easy walk. I promise you it will get better.
 
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Absolem said:
Its nice to meet you MJ. I just wanted tell you you have value and worth in Jesus Christ. I don't have many friends where I live. A few but not many. If you ever want to fellowship just let me know.
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Dammit! We just lost another believer on this site because he has mental problems Whoever is equating "mental illness" with "troll," KNOCK IT OFF! There is no rule on this site that we all have to be the same.

Abs was a good guy! Not "normal," but a good guy!
 
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Why did they ban Absolem? Maybe he did something that we are unaware of.
 
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If you go to his thread, I believe it's in Testimonies forum, you can read Oncefallen's explanation.. It's sad he got banned, I really liked him..

Fenner said:
Why did they ban Absolem? Maybe he did something that we are unaware of.
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blue_ladybug

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*Ahem*......

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Dammit! We just lost another believer on this site because he has mental problems Whoever is equating "mental illness" with "troll," KNOCK IT OFF! There is no rule on this site that we all have to be the same.

Abs was a good guy! Not "normal," but a good guy!
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blue_ladybug said:
If you go to his thread, I believe it's in Testimonies forum, you can read Oncefallen's explanation.. It's sad he got banned, I really liked him..
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ThinMint said:
Hello, my name is MJ. I am 25 years old and dealing with the constant struggle against the enemies in my head (Bulimia with Anorexic Tendencies, PPD, Anxiety and OCD)
I try every day to know God more as I often feel like He is my only family. My son is a year and a half old and all though he is my best friend the PPD makes me so depressed sometimes I can't even hold him. His daddy works so much that I have been feeling like a single mom for a long time and every time I talk to him about it he just says sorry and goes to sleep.
Last night I had a break down from feeling like a failure and I suppose I'm here to try to make some spiritual friends as I have no friends and feel very alone...

Thanks for listening...
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***(praying)***hang on to the Lord*** don't go by feelings*** press forward*** God loves you...
 
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You are not alone. Life has its' struggles for sure. But at least you have Jesus. There are so many answers for our troubles in Him. There are two things that have helped me tremendously with overcoming depression and anxiety...Isaiah 61:3 says that Praise lifts the spirit of heaviness, so I honestly have praise and worship music playing a lot. It helps a lot more when I am singing along to it, but it lifts the atmosphere nonetheless. Also, God wants us to love him with all of our heart, mind and soul...to be our first priority. Life on earth, it is hard to know what that looks like, but I find that if I always have spiritual things around me, whether it is praise and worship music, reading the bible, reading books by Christian authors or having audio books by Christian authors playing, or listening to sermons helps A LOT. I also find that I need to start my day with pray...warfare! Tell Satan that he is under your foot! That he has NO AUTHORITY!!! We are in a battle and it isn't against flesh and blood but against Satan and his armies. God gave us armor and the Scripture is our sword! Learn it and speak it!!!
 
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This site has many of great people. I remember when I was lonely I would come on this site and talk to one of my friends. We could talk all night long. Try to make one good friend on here and tell him/her your problems. He/she will listen.
 
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