how many kids is enough?

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How many kids should you have

  • However many God gives you

    Votes: 9 64.3%

  • However many you can afford

    Votes: 1 7.1%

  • However many you have time for

    Votes: 4 28.6%
  • Total voters
    14
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joefizz

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well all misspellings and punctuations aside angela my point was simply you can have as many kids as you and your spouse can manage to take care of with love but as well to not think that God will just simply give you what you need for them if you don't put forth your best effort to provide for them first because as I said God will give the increase of what you need for your children as well as you and your spouse but you simply have to do your part too,too many people nowadays think that they can have a kid and that someone should take care of them instead of themselves and that they don't have to be responsible and it's not only foolish it's sickening,just saying love is what matters not how many children you have,for if you love them all then there is no problem,but if you hate them all,as in you don't do your best to take care of them,then there is a problem because you are headed for trouble for in the bible it is written about children"if any should offend these it would be better that a mill stone be cast about their neck and thrown into the sea" telling basically that God doesn't want anyone to spiritually destroy any child,for once again they don't ask to be born so they certainly can't be a burden and if you do wrong by a child God is very protective and it's best to think through what you have done or are about to do because having children is not some simple path to take,it's just the same as your choice in serving God,in both you are either "All in" or "Not at all" you can't shrug it off and think ok I tried it out,now I can back out and resume my old life...Nope,totally incorrect,Not gonna happen,because something as important as "A Life" does matter,the ultimate answer to how many children is enough in truth is simply answered with ironically this question,"how many do you have room in your heart to care for? not how many can anyone suggest is the right amount because it's just like a spouse,particularly for men the bible says that he can have two wives one favored,the other hated because he can't truely love both because his love is divided,so think on it you already share love with your spouse,so next deliberate on how many children you feel you can share your love with for if you can't equally share your love with all your children then one will be left out as hated by you and it's best for you to not let such a thing happen because then you may lose that "one" all together so open your heart not just your mind and figure out how many children to have is best for yourself alongside your spouse because it is not impossible to have your desired amount of children,"for with God all things are possible" and the holy spirit can help you find your answer.
 
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Depleted

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#42
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joefizz said:
well all misspellings and punctuations aside angela my point was simply you can have as many kids as you and your spouse can manage to take care of with love but as well to not think that God will just simply give you what you need for them if you don't put forth your best effort to provide for them first because as I said God will give the increase of what you need for your children as well as you and your spouse but you simply have to do your part too,too many people nowadays think that they can have a kid and that someone should take care of them instead of themselves and that they don't have to be responsible and it's not only foolish it's sickening,just saying love is what matters not how many children you have,for if you love them all then there is no problem,but if you hate them all,as in you don't do your best to take care of them,then there is a problem because you are headed for trouble for in the bible it is written about children"if any should offend these it would be better that a mill stone be cast about their neck and thrown into the sea" telling basically that God doesn't want anyone to spiritually destroy any child,for once again they don't ask to be born so they certainly can't be a burden and if you do wrong by a child God is very protective and it's best to think through what you have done or are about to do because having children is not some simple path to take,it's just the same as your choice in serving God,in both you are either "All in" or "Not at all" you can't shrug it off and think ok I tried it out,now I can back out and resume my old life...Nope,totally incorrect,Not gonna happen,because something as important as "A Life" does matter,the ultimate answer to how many children is enough in truth is simply answered with ironically this question,"how many do you have room in your heart to care for? not how many can anyone suggest is the right amount because it's just like a spouse,particularly for men the bible says that he can have two wives one favored,the other hated because he can't truely love both because his love is divided,so think on it you already share love with your spouse,so next deliberate on how many children you feel you can share your love with for if you can't equally share your love with all your children then one will be left out as hated by you and it's best for you to not let such a thing happen because then you may lose that "one" all together so open your heart not just your mind and figure out how many children to have is best for yourself alongside your spouse because it is not impossible to have your desired amount of children,"for with God all things are possible" and the holy spirit can help you find your answer.
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I gave up trying to read wall-of-text somewhere at the fourth line. (haha. I'm more patient than Angela today. lol)

You're pretty much giving your opinion and then trying to make it sound like God's opinion.

No, really. I know people who came from very abusive families (some big, some small.) It really doesn't matter motivation of parents, skill sets, "bear"ability (or bare, but that could get chilly. lol) What matters is God. You see, I know people who were brought up in despicable, deplorable ways by the worst monsters you can imagine called "parents," and yet that was God's plan and he turned them into loving, kind people. HE did. Not their parents.

The idea that parents must do A, B, C, and D is ridiculous. There is no test for becoming a parent, and a child doesn't deserve death (or foster care) just because the child was raised in those conditions. And yet your opinion pretty much states either one or the other. Only reason for that opinion is because the assumption that "God will give us no more than we can bear."

POPPYCOCK! He does that all the time to show what he can do without us bearing it!
 
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Jeshuvan

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Apr 15, 2012
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not us ,but what does God state.In Psalm 27,it state Children are a heritage of Gods and to have a quiver full of them.Biblical God loves them,hopefully i answered your question God Bless all of u Jeshuvan.
 
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joefizz

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#44
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yeah I get what you are saying "depleted" it's not all about just the "parents" of children naturally God can change anyone regardless of what they've done or been through as well as Jesus,as so many recall Saul later named paul killed and imprisoned many of those who were faithful to Jesus and yetJesus confronted him the one time concerning his wrong doings and he became blind until jesus explained to ananias that saul was to be a vassel for Jesus and though ananias was reluctant he did as Jesus said to go and find saul for saul had seen ananias in a dream that he would restore his sight and so was ananias to do this as saul had dreamt and after saul had his sight restored he from then on did right for Jesus,I myself have not had a good influence type upbringing,being adopted,fought over,forced into baptism,no exact quote parent, yet somehow years later I have been saved and baptized the right way which is to be so "willingly" and I believe whole heartedly in the bible as well as God,Jesus,and the comforter the holy spirit,and yep you are absolutely right parents don't necessarily influence what a child may become later I merely was saying that the number of children is of no importance in one's house when you trust in God and truely wish for children, what matters is that you truly care for each one,for this is written in the bible concerning God's love for us as well as that which we should strive for also,if a shepherd loses a lamb from his flock will he leave his flock and go in search of the lamb or stay to the flock and worry not for the lamb,surely he shall go in search of the lamb for his flock knoweth his voice and shall not go astray while he searcheth for the lost lamb,(referring to that when one of us goes astray from God he shall still care for us and not give up on us coming back to him for that his how great his love is for us and when we trulty trust in God we shall not seek to go astray from him for the same reason,his great love for us,) mainly this is what I meant to say,though I can tend to ramble,when you build your foundation upon love and God, the mere number of children shall be no real hardship,trialsome perhaps,life changing definitely but no real hardship for if you love them alongside God then How shall they go astray let alone be any major trouble with God watching over all of you and you caring for all of them? if that's an opinion then I apologize if that is the truth then I don't apologize for what wrong comes from truth? decide for yourself for I am but a humble sinner whom serves God and am compassionate to those who request help whether it be asking for answers or simply a friendly ear to listen to one's plight that is the role I undoubtedly without profit have undertaken for When the holy spirit gets a hold of me to speak or to listen I shall do so without shame nor hesitation and as truthful as I can be concerning the bible,honestly no one can ever truely know the bible inside and out ,sure you can memorize it but that isn't the same as learning what it says in the spiritual sense which we shall never truly know as opposed to the ever so easy physical sense that anyone can know,I just speaketh what the holy spirit brings to reminder alongside what is written upon my heart when it comes to listening to and answering the lost who have questions as well as those who are not lost and still seek answers ,that's all no more no less,my dear fellow child of God.
 
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joefizz

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and sorry once more "depleted" you are right it is pretty dizzying to read what I type whether it has proper punctuation or not sorry as I said it is no joke when the holy spirit gets a hold of me even I am surprised at the results!!!
 
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