Let Your Husband Be a Man?

[proverbs35]

I don't like or agree with typical roles. Like a "manly" man is tall, dark, and handsome, muscular etc. And a great woman is beautiful, can cook. Lol, idk what the typical role is put on women. Anyhow, what I'm trying to say is while those things could matter less, what I do think is important and that has sadly been forgotten it seems is that men are suppose to be the head and the women are supposed to submit. I feel like nowadays with the whole feminist idea going around women think they don't need men and they can get along without them. While it is possible to do women would benefit so much more if they heeded the words in the bible. To submit, even if it doesn't seem like the best choice. I know they're are some who have issue with that verse, "wives submit to your husbands" they always have to bring in the counterpart and while it is true "men should love their wives as Christ loves the church." I think us women have strayed away more from our duty as a wife than the men have. Honestly most of what you hear people say all that matter is that we love each other and that is so true but wives also just submit to their husbands. I think that's why they're are so many marriages that end in divorce. My opinion.

Jesus said that in the end times, the love of MOST WILL grow cold (Mt 24:12). I strongly believe that the turmoil going on in society (the breakdown of marriages included) is a result of the love of MANY (some translations say MOST) growing cold just like Jesus predicted.

Like Depleted mentioned, love and submission are intertwined. Love (and God is love - 1 John 4:8) is suppose to be the FOUNDATION for every human relationship - not obedience. Obedience is not the foundation. Love produces and inspires obedience. Obedience is the result.

How do we know this? 2 John 2:16 says, "this is love: that we walk in obedience to [Jesus'] commands." Jesus said that if we love him, we will obey his commandments (John 14:15). Love produces and inspires obedience - submission. That's why mutual love is so important in a marriage. Husbands are commanded to love their wives, and when wives love God and their husbands, they will be motivated to submit to both to the best of their ability.

There's not one verse in the Bible that says that a wife's obedience will guarantee her husband's love. In the Old Testament (a patriarchal society) wives obeyed their husbands as a matter of law. In the Old Testament, rebellious wives and children could be punished. However, a wife's obedience didn't guarantee her husband's love. So many OT husbands were unloving to their wives to point of divorcing them for ANY reason that God got angry about it. God addressed that in the Malachi.

Should wives submit to their husbands? Absolutely! That's biblical, and there is no denying that. However, let's really consider Jesus' prediction here. The love of MANY (husbands and wives included) has grown cold and that's the real reason for the turmoil that's going on in society (the breakdown of marriages included).