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Hello,
Wanted to ask people for some insight. Not a topic I really want to talk about but since you know, anonymity online and all, I guess I felt a little more comfortable to bring it up.
I just don't know what's wrong... if it's something to do with me or it's just something that's normal. I try to reach out to people in church - inviting them over for events, dinner, meetups, etc. I just want to hang and I figured others do too. And it always seems that way - everyone usually says yea, great idea, let's do it! But by the time the actual day rolls around, pretty much everyone has cancelled or requested a different day. Meanwhile, they themselves (especially the couples) meet up, develop relationships, etc. I just feel so left out of the community. Is it because I'm single and a spare tire or something? I've tried advance notice, 1 week, 2 weeks... and I've tried short notice, 1 or 2 days. Nothing seems to work and I'm pretty much ready to give up. It's like no one really wants to develop a deeper relationship with me. (As an aside, my non-Christian friends are able to keep to promises and appointments... this is only a church-"friends" phenomenon for me.)
Do other people experience something similar?
Wanted to ask people for some insight. Not a topic I really want to talk about but since you know, anonymity online and all, I guess I felt a little more comfortable to bring it up.
I just don't know what's wrong... if it's something to do with me or it's just something that's normal. I try to reach out to people in church - inviting them over for events, dinner, meetups, etc. I just want to hang and I figured others do too. And it always seems that way - everyone usually says yea, great idea, let's do it! But by the time the actual day rolls around, pretty much everyone has cancelled or requested a different day. Meanwhile, they themselves (especially the couples) meet up, develop relationships, etc. I just feel so left out of the community. Is it because I'm single and a spare tire or something? I've tried advance notice, 1 week, 2 weeks... and I've tried short notice, 1 or 2 days. Nothing seems to work and I'm pretty much ready to give up. It's like no one really wants to develop a deeper relationship with me. (As an aside, my non-Christian friends are able to keep to promises and appointments... this is only a church-"friends" phenomenon for me.)
Do other people experience something similar?