So for anyone that hasn't seen all my threads, my dad has cancer. For the last 5 months I've been helping to take care of him while he's on short term disability. It was just decided possibly, we haven't though gotten the official email, that most likely dad will be going back to work.
I wasn't afraid of this. I wasn't worried about this. Until my dad told me about how busy I was gonna be at the house. Basically all of my household chores, maintenance, and supplying is going to be on my shoulders by dad's description. He said I'm gonna be "Cinderella" basically. And then he said I'd have no more time for internet and playing around. I would be busy all the time.
For some odd reason, that was when it hit me. I do sadly have an internet addiction which doesn't help, it's not this site is kind of internet/social media in general. But it made me think, "Am I really gonna be so busy I'll never have time to myself at all???" I think that was what scared me the most. I'm not a mom, I've never had to deal with that kind of constant stress. And I cannot handle stress well.
I'm OCD, ADD, and very fear prone. I internalize my nervous energy and it usually turns into anxiety. That anxiety causes emotional upheaval, which causes me to have very racing and sometimes not good thoughts. And that causes my OCD to latch onto the thoughts and wonder why on earth I'm even having them, and then become panicked. Though fortunately I have medication and that medication works well for me. So that's ok, I think with God's help I can handle it.
Also. I will be by myself. I'm scared of that. My thoughts are scariest when I'm by myself. I haven't had to be by myself for the 5 months dad has been being treated. Though admittedly by dad's description I won't have time to have any thoughts because I'm gonna be either cleaning, cooking, preparing stuff for cooking, buying materials for maintenance, or doing house maintenance. Hilariously enough when I typed that I wouldn't be sedate I kinda calmed down. Which is weird.
Anyhow. Dad is very sad that I have to go through this. I don't quite know the ramifications yet I'm just kinda like "ok we can do this I dunno."
It's just a very very complicated and tiring situation. If there is anyone that has gone through this, or has any tips or whatever about basically becoming a single housewife please let me know. Mom is totally drained after work as it is, now both of them will be. I just.....need a little support. Maybe even I should join some kind of support group online I dunno.
I wasn't afraid of this. I wasn't worried about this. Until my dad told me about how busy I was gonna be at the house. Basically all of my household chores, maintenance, and supplying is going to be on my shoulders by dad's description. He said I'm gonna be "Cinderella" basically. And then he said I'd have no more time for internet and playing around. I would be busy all the time.
For some odd reason, that was when it hit me. I do sadly have an internet addiction which doesn't help, it's not this site is kind of internet/social media in general. But it made me think, "Am I really gonna be so busy I'll never have time to myself at all???" I think that was what scared me the most. I'm not a mom, I've never had to deal with that kind of constant stress. And I cannot handle stress well.
I'm OCD, ADD, and very fear prone. I internalize my nervous energy and it usually turns into anxiety. That anxiety causes emotional upheaval, which causes me to have very racing and sometimes not good thoughts. And that causes my OCD to latch onto the thoughts and wonder why on earth I'm even having them, and then become panicked. Though fortunately I have medication and that medication works well for me. So that's ok, I think with God's help I can handle it.
Also. I will be by myself. I'm scared of that. My thoughts are scariest when I'm by myself. I haven't had to be by myself for the 5 months dad has been being treated. Though admittedly by dad's description I won't have time to have any thoughts because I'm gonna be either cleaning, cooking, preparing stuff for cooking, buying materials for maintenance, or doing house maintenance. Hilariously enough when I typed that I wouldn't be sedate I kinda calmed down. Which is weird.
Anyhow. Dad is very sad that I have to go through this. I don't quite know the ramifications yet I'm just kinda like "ok we can do this I dunno."
It's just a very very complicated and tiring situation. If there is anyone that has gone through this, or has any tips or whatever about basically becoming a single housewife please let me know. Mom is totally drained after work as it is, now both of them will be. I just.....need a little support. Maybe even I should join some kind of support group online I dunno.