It has been 3 1/2 weeks since my husband left. I miss him so much. I do not think the hurt and tears will ever go away. I just feel so alone and isolated. I have started Divorce Care and meet this Tuesday night. I just feel lost. Please pray. He keeps asking for his space and that makes me want to hold on tighter which I know is ALL wrong. I just don't know what to do.
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I will pray with you- I know this is hard but you're right clinging doesn't make it easy- keep seeking DivorceCare as it's a good program and ask your husband if he'd consider counseling as you don't want to see all the years you've spent together ending without trying.... I've been divorced for over 7 years now and it wasn't easy but he was cheating and wasn't willing to change so divorce was our only option. I prayed left it in God's hands, I remarried and now am raising his son, my children are grown and married and none of its easy or idea but I have faith it is where God has called me to be.
wishing you the best praying for you both.
wishing you the best praying for you both.
Thank you. I emailed him today about counseling. He has therapy tomorrow at the VA. He is depressed and 100 percent disabled vet. His depression has gotten really bad and he believed leaving was his only choice to figure out who he was. I pray all the time. I pray all the the time to let go and let God. It his will I pray for. Thank you for reaching out to me.
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Hi! I am sorry to hear that you are going through this. I completed Divorce Care several months ago and it helped tremendously with my healing process. Plus I made some new friends that could relate to what I was going through because they were all in the same situation. Please be patient with yourself. Although it does not seem possible now, things will get better with time. God Bless you.
Our life goal is not to have a husband/wife.
Our life goal is to grow in Christ and to help other people in His name.
So the more you will concentrate on this worldly kind of things you cannot control, the bigger problem it will become for you and therefore the harder and more painful it will be for you to bear.
Its all in our heads. Instead of "this is a disaster", try "this is a new direction" approach.
Our life goal is to grow in Christ and to help other people in His name.
So the more you will concentrate on this worldly kind of things you cannot control, the bigger problem it will become for you and therefore the harder and more painful it will be for you to bear.
Its all in our heads. Instead of "this is a disaster", try "this is a new direction" approach.
I am sorry to hear of the grief you are experiencing. You lost your husband through a choice he made and I can feel in your words just how much it hurts. His soul is troubled and confused, and I hope and pray he will attach himself to people who will build him back up as a person from within and steer him to God who can heal his brokenness.
My guess is that he had questioned his own abilities for quite some time and reached his limit. It's likely much of what he felt about himself and his world around him had more to do with his mental health and lack of life satisfaction than with you. Maybe he knew the impact all this would have on you but felt he owed it to himself to escape any hint of commitment and unconditional love because he knew he was not capable of being that loving and giving person.
As you may have already been told by others, on this website or by close friends, it is critical that you also attach yourself to people who are in a position to help you. Talking with a Christian professional counselor will help you release this indescribable emotion you carry. Is that a possibility? I know it might seem impossible to implement a plan to move forward in your life, especially becasue of all the pain in your heart, but God designed fellowship for that very reason. He uses people to bring restoration and hope back into our lives. Don't be afraid to reach out for help.
Is there a women's group at your church? Surrounding yourself with women who love Jesus can stand strong with you and pray with you. They can help build you up as a person, a woman, and a child of God. It is a process I know, and yet you need others to help take you through this journey to become whole again.
You have both reached a very low point in your life and are faced with making new decisions. Please reach out for help and attach yourself to individuals who know how to love unconditionally, and who know how to listen. Ask around. Ask God where to go and what to do. He knows all of your days before any of them will come to be so He knows what today and tomorrow will hold. Prayer takes us to a place of faith and trust, the two most necessary anchors for our souls. I encourage you to ask people to commit to pray for you. Let God begin to heal your hurting heart and show the you path to take. He is faithful.
My guess is that he had questioned his own abilities for quite some time and reached his limit. It's likely much of what he felt about himself and his world around him had more to do with his mental health and lack of life satisfaction than with you. Maybe he knew the impact all this would have on you but felt he owed it to himself to escape any hint of commitment and unconditional love because he knew he was not capable of being that loving and giving person.
As you may have already been told by others, on this website or by close friends, it is critical that you also attach yourself to people who are in a position to help you. Talking with a Christian professional counselor will help you release this indescribable emotion you carry. Is that a possibility? I know it might seem impossible to implement a plan to move forward in your life, especially becasue of all the pain in your heart, but God designed fellowship for that very reason. He uses people to bring restoration and hope back into our lives. Don't be afraid to reach out for help.
Is there a women's group at your church? Surrounding yourself with women who love Jesus can stand strong with you and pray with you. They can help build you up as a person, a woman, and a child of God. It is a process I know, and yet you need others to help take you through this journey to become whole again.
You have both reached a very low point in your life and are faced with making new decisions. Please reach out for help and attach yourself to individuals who know how to love unconditionally, and who know how to listen. Ask around. Ask God where to go and what to do. He knows all of your days before any of them will come to be so He knows what today and tomorrow will hold. Prayer takes us to a place of faith and trust, the two most necessary anchors for our souls. I encourage you to ask people to commit to pray for you. Let God begin to heal your hurting heart and show the you path to take. He is faithful.