Need advice for my marriage

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blue_ladybug

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#61
NO ONE is wiser than God. :) I've never said I am, and nowhere in my 54,000-plus posts, will you find one that says I am...


You're evil to not avail yourself of Mt 18. Good thing you don't shepherd a church. The wolves would have a hay day. You're wiser than God (Is 5:20).
 
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JoDel

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God does not forgive you prior to your repentance (Acts 2:37, 38).
You preach a false gospel (Gal. 1:6-12).

See:

"Stop Me! Before I Forgive Again..." by Bob Enyart
Sooooooooooooooooo.... for every sin that hasn't been repented of in the world, EVERY day... do YOU, Serpentdove, nail Jesus to the cross repeatedly again and again? He BECAME sin...ALL sin for us and nailed it to the cross..."Once and for all". Maybe you should search the LOVE of CHRIST rather than spew condemnation from hell.
 
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This is not the time and place to guilt trip a person in crisis.
When is it right to defend marriage?
Heb 13:4

The crisis is real and has to be dealt with with compassion…
She’s not looking for biblical council. She’s looking to justify her sin (Ro 1:32).

...[H]ere is a woman that need our prayers and support.
She and her concubus trust in the world system (2 Cor. 6:15–18).

She said she’s got a gun.
She’s trained in martial arts.
Her way is superior to God’s (Jn 10:10).
Her only complaint was her emotions. Does she expect God to get those in order, too? Is he her leprechaun?

I pray for you, sister.
Pr 15:29
 
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I Cor. 7 -But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances;


Seems serpent missed this verse...
Did he kick her to the curb, too? Mal 2:14
 
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Maybe you should search the LOVE of CHRIST rather than spew condemnation from hell.
She is already condemned because she has not believed in the name of the only Son of God. She prefers darkness to light because her deeds are evil (Eph 4:14, Jn 3:18-29).


“If you take part of the truth, and try to make that part of the truth, all of the truth, then that part of the truth becomes an untruth.” ~ Adrian Rogers
 

blue_ladybug

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You are totally and utterly ridiculous.. You know nothing about the OP at all.. She DOES believe in Jesus. She IS a Christian now.. Stop ass-uming because you're making a donkey out of yourself.. :/


She is already condemned because she has not believed in the name of the only Son of God. She prefers darkness to light because her deeds are evil (Eph 4:14, Jn 3:18-29).


“If you take part of the truth, and try to make that part of the truth, all of the truth, then that part of the truth becomes an untruth.” ~ Adrian Rogers
 
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JoDel

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She is already condemned because she has not believed in the name of the only Son of God. She prefers darkness to light because her deeds are evil (Eph 4:14, Jn 3:18-29).


“If you take part of the truth, and try to make that part of the truth, all of the truth, then that part of the truth becomes an untruth.” ~ Adrian Rogers
And you did not answer my question of repeatedly nailing Jesus to the cross for every unrepented sin... Because your answer would be YES... because that IS, what you are doing.
 
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JoDel

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She is already condemned because she has not believed in the name of the only Son of God. She prefers darkness to light because her deeds are evil (Eph 4:14, Jn 3:18-29).


“If you take part of the truth, and try to make that part of the truth, all of the truth, then that part of the truth becomes an untruth.” ~ Adrian Rogers
Well, Satan was allowed in heaven... I guess we need to expect him here... well THERE HE IS>>> Serpentdove...
 
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Well, Satan was allowed in heaven...
Satan is hated by God. Men who will not repent will be hated by God eternally, too (Mal 1:3).
She's been warned (Eze 3:19).
She doesn't give a damn. Now she awaits judgment (Jn 3:36).
 
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kaylagrl

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Did he kick her to the curb, too? Mal 2:14


She was left in her first marriage because he cheated on her. According to the Bible she is not bound to him and was free to marry again.
 
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I commend you for trying
It's always better to go down fighting
I wish your husband wasn't a disgrace
But at least you tried, at least you ran the race
You did more than many you can say
Ball is in your court, take it however you want it to play
Because you fought hard and exhausted all options
There is no condemnation whatsoever which way
 
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Thank you. I offered Jesus; but, his word had no place in her (Jn 8:37).
All have left to offer is this stick (Is 46:7). And she thought his beatings were bad (Lk 12:47).
What I have written was addressed to her
I do not ever lightly recommend divorce
But because she has tried hard to save her marriage
It is an option that is fair to consider
Many people today come up with many excuses
They make up new terms like "emotional abuses"
But if her story rings to me to be true
I would say that she can consider it because she exhausted all other avenues

But since you would like me to address you
I have read some of what you say here
Your points are not without merit, they are indeed fair
We can see in millions of examples the problem of remarriage
Indeed your generation brought about the death of matrimony
And sowed confusion in the Millennials, that is their testimony
But what shall I do sitting on the judgement seat?
Will you have me slay my parents? Hold the fire to their feet?
You need to go back and consider beloved David some
Even after his son defiled all his concubines
He still cried for his son "Oh Absalom, Absalom"
 
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I'm so sorry to hear this. I was in your shoes. But for 3 yrs. I wanted my ex to change. I waited, I prayed, we have kids together. They watched us fight. My 4 yr old son would get in the way and say" don't hurt mommy" .. they now have night terrors and are an emotional reck. I just wanted to give you an insight to how relationships do t just affect you but others around you. And on top of that, he's not faithful. Why stay? He doesn't love you, he may say to lie to comfort you and get his way,so he can keep cheating on you. He doesn't even love himself. He's a coward, for hitting you. Honey, leave this man. Before he does something even worse. You deserve a better man. Don't be afraid. Do you think Jesus wants you in this game. It's not a relationship I can tell you that, and hasn't been since you where married. I'm sorry to be so blunt, but I've been through this for years and I've learned he has to want to change. Not be forced it nagged. You deserve so much better. It's scary, I know. I stead of putting g your trust in this man, you need to put your trust in God. Leave this man. It will only get worse. I mean there can be even physical issues not just mental. Diseases from sleeping around. What if he went to far and accidentally killed you? Look to God. Pm me if you need to talk. You deserve better. Please leave this guy. He's someone you cannot trust. He seems like an abusive narsassist. Please love, walk away and do not look back. You can divorce, jesus said to give a certificate of divorce when there is cheating in the marriage. Walk away love. I will be praying for you