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    my husband and I have been married for three years, we have twin boys that are three and then we lost a baby due to miscarriage this past march. I know we are both still grieving but hes gotten emotionally abusive and I don't know what to do, Ive been thinking about leaving but I have no where to go plus no money and no car, I am so tired of being put down and I don't know what to do.

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    Why do you say you have been married for three years when your profile says you are unmarried?

    And in another post you say you have been married for one year.

    And then you talk about being pregnant again.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Willie-T View Post
    Why do you say you have been married for three years when your profile says you are unmarried?

    And in another post you say you have been married for one year.

    And then you talk about being pregnant again.
    Did you bother reading the dates on those posts?
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    Quote Originally Posted by wannabeloved View Post
    my husband and I have been married for three years, we have twin boys that are three and then we lost a baby due to miscarriage this past march. I know we are both still grieving but hes gotten emotionally abusive and I don't know what to do, Ive been thinking about leaving but I have no where to go plus no money and no car, I am so tired of being put down and I don't know what to do.
    He was abusive to you 2 and 3 years ago. Every time you post you end it with "I don't know what to do."

    What do you need? Because it seems you plan on staying no matter what happens. I'm really asking, what do you want from us? What are you hoping for, and why do you think strangers can help you get what you want? I'd be happy to help, but first I need to know what you want. Or at least what are you expecting?
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    Quote Originally Posted by wannabeloved View Post
    Ive been thinking about leaving but I have no where to go plus no money and no car, I am so tired of being put down and I don't know what to do.
    You've put yourself in a situation with few options (no car, no job, no money). Lots of women get completely dependent on their spouse for everything, and that puts them in a precarious place where they're helpless to help themselves. I'm sure your husband knows this, and since he's holding all the cards, what's his incentive to stop being abusive? Try to get yourself to a place where your not controlled, if you had a job and a car, you wouldn't need to be a victim. Easier said than done, but until your able to independently exist, your trapped.. jmo
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    yes,

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    Do you think his behavour is because of grief? Perhaps there is something else...ask him! Ask him if you guys can see a therapist or counselor, if you need one please try Focus on the Family's counseling line... 855-382-5433 for counseling


    Prayer for you all

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sac555 View Post
    Do you think his behavour is because of grief? Perhaps there is something else...ask him! Ask him if you guys can see a therapist or counselor, if you need one please try Focus on the Family's counseling line... 855-382-5433 for counseling


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    No, he's been behaving like this for three years.
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