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    Default Re: Trouble with respectfully leaving enmeshed family

    I empathize with you, this is a tough situation to be in, however you sound like a strong individual, and I believe you can and will handle it just fine, there is no way of changing other people, you just have to move on and do your own thing, there is nothing wrong with that in Gods eyes, in fact it is much more natural that they way your parents are. I wish you many blessings in the days ahead, and enjoy the life that God has given you, and be glad for your independence. God Bless.
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    I was offered the job, and I accepted. This is NOW a reality.
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    I'm responding as someone who completely isolated myself from my whole family except one brother because of enmeshment and c0-dependency (along with abuse). The situation I was facing escalated to extreme dysfunction because I did not have enough money to get out on my own due to the amount of money and support that was demanded from me. I was working and had two kids as a fairly recently divorced mom. I ended up having to intentionally go into homeless (women's shelter) to get away from my family and enter a program designed to help women and their kids get on their own feet.

    You want to get out of this situation before it becomes too bad. You are fortunate that you have a job possibility and income that you can sustain yourself with instead of needing outside help to become independent. You don't owe your family anything. You don't have to apologize for becoming independent and moving on. Leave the door open for relationship repair and possibly family counseling to get help reconciling, if you want and feel lead to. However, do not let them use you or continue to emotionally abuse you. Otherwise, shake the sand from your feet and get out of there.
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    Remember when Jesus asked "who is my mother, and who are my brothers"?
    We need to focus on Jesus first.
    Great post, Jam2B
    blessings
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    Default Re: Trouble with respectfully leaving enmeshed family

    Quote Originally Posted by primer View Post
    When i said the attack is: I meant That was what others would say to discourage going to CR. Both of you used the guidelines that i set up.

    CR is a support group of Christians who work through issues to get to the other side an live in freedom from co-dependency or addiction.

    It's my ministry not my God.

    I don't find this site to be any less back biting or ugly than any worldly site. The lack of respect in the responses are identical. Mixed with crazy posts of a flat earth an the dinosaur scam, it is no wonder that Christians seem like they are living in la la land and have a hard time convincing anyone to follow there foot steps. Is this actually a site held in a mental ward?
    Put depleated on ignore and enjoy the site.

    she,by no means,is representative of the nurturing element you will find here.

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