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    Default Re: Is it OK for my Girlfriend and I to live together.

    I sorry I did not know these many details. I am in no position to provide an opinion here. I take what I said back
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    Default Re: Is it OK for my Girlfriend and I to live together.

    Quote Originally Posted by Joshie View Post
    My Girlfriend and I have been together for 4 years we live together and look after her two younger brothers. I recently had a very powerful experience and now have given my life to Jesus and have been set free from the bondage of sin. We have stopped having an intimate relationship and will wait until marriage. However we still sleep in the same bed, I have been making lots of progress with my relationship with God, I no longer do alot of things I would do in the past and with constant prayer and searching for flaws I have been making progress. However as of recently God has been silent, I no longer feel or hear from him. I am starting to think that it might have to do with the fact I am sleeping in the same bed as my girlfriend.

    The situation we are in is difficult because we have been living together for 4 years and been having pre marital sex (not being christian) however since my experience our lives have drastically changed and I am trying to lead a new life. Jesus has made me so much of a new person that my partner at first mourned for me because I changed so drastically and she was scared.

    We also have to look after her brothers and I couldn't just leave her there alone to look after them. Should I have a look at sleep on a smaller bed in the same room but not in the same bed. Please, I have looked at scripture and cant find anything about not being able to live together but just to abstain from sexual immorality and if nothing is happening then is it still not OK. I am prepared to leave if I must, because my obedience to God is first above all, If it is wrong I will be prepared to leave until we marry.
    Just a thought but only Jesus can confirm this to you, but you are forgetting your witness of your walk in Him to the two younger brothers of hers by still sleeping in the same bed. I am sure the devil is like putting thoughts in their heads like "Yeah. Right. Sleeping in the same bed and not having any sex. He has not changed at all. "

    Sleep on the couch or in a sleeping bag on the floor of the living room till you elope or get married at the set date. Do feel free to explain that to her two younger brothers as to why you are doing this so as to remove all doubt that Jesus has saved you and have changed your ways for real to not live in sin.

    1 Thessalonians 5:21 Prove all things; hold fast that which is good. 22 Abstain from all appearance of evil.23 And the very God of peace sanctify you wholly; and I pray God your whole spirit and soul and body be preserved blameless unto the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ.24 Faithful is he that calleth you, who also will do it.25 Brethren, pray for us.

    I suggest to every other believer reading this to send up a prayer right now that the Lord will help him to follow Him in the way he ought to go in walking in the light as He has done as an example for us and as a witness to her and her 2 younger brothers as well that he is living that reconciled relationship with God through Jesus Christ by relying on Him to follow Him.

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    I think you need to have this conversation with God. He will guide you. You need to decide if you want to marry her or not. Sometimes, the opinions of others aren't what you need. You are only one who understands your situation and can make that decision. Follow you heart and where God wants to lead you. In my opinion, you are considered married after living so long together. Does your state recognize common in law marriage? If so, you may be considered married. Research it. God has been silent for me lately but he is there. I think he is teaching me to be more patient.

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    Default Re: Is it OK for my Girlfriend and I to live together.

    Quote Originally Posted by Joshie View Post
    My Girlfriend and I have been together for 4 years we live together and look after her two younger brothers. I recently had a very powerful experience and now have given my life to Jesus and have been set free from the bondage of sin. We have stopped having an intimate relationship and will wait until marriage. However we still sleep in the same bed, I have been making lots of progress with my relationship with God, I no longer do alot of things I would do in the past and with constant prayer and searching for flaws I have been making progress. However as of recently God has been silent, I no longer feel or hear from him. I am starting to think that it might have to do with the fact I am sleeping in the same bed as my girlfriend.

    The situation we are in is difficult because we have been living together for 4 years and been having pre marital sex (not being christian) however since my experience our lives have drastically changed and I am trying to lead a new life. Jesus has made me so much of a new person that my partner at first mourned for me because I changed so drastically and she was scared.

    We also have to look after her brothers and I couldn't just leave her there alone to look after them. Should I have a look at sleep on a smaller bed in the same room but not in the same bed. Please, I have looked at scripture and cant find anything about not being able to live together but just to abstain from sexual immorality and if nothing is happening then is it still not OK. I am prepared to leave if I must, because my obedience to God is first above all, If it is wrong I will be prepared to leave until we marry.
    It is not a sin for a man and woman to sleep in the same house, or the same room, or even the same bed. Elijah slept in the same house with a woman and her son. However, they did not have a romantic relationship. And because you two do, even if it was only in the past, it gives off a appearance of evil- the evil of fornication. It only takes twenty dollars to get married, if you don't have it I'm sure the church would supply it. Just marry her, problem solved.

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