How to ask this delicately? Sooo, did your sister's house remain smoke free during the weekend you were there?
(In all sincerity I am hoping you become one of those annoying ex-smokers.)
And your kids? I know of your daughter, but might have forgotten others. (Either I did forget the others, or you haven't talked about them.) How old are they? Because I'm thinking at your daughter's age she's probably thinking of where she wants to get away when she's able.
If'n I could move anywhere, I'd move to Tennessee -- housing market is cheap, cost of living is cheap (compared to the Northeast), less chance of hurricanes than even the Midlantic states, (and I'm very much into finding some place with few natural disasters EVER lol), and the pace fits me. (Everyone races by me, and geesh! I live in a city, so I ought to be able to keep up after 25 years. Still have the pace of the South in me.)
The disadvantages kill me though. Not as close to my family, (which is ironic, since I'm unable to visit them even this close), our needs (grocery store, medical care, and bank) are within walking distance if our car ever kicks out (or snowstorms clog the streets.) And neighbors! Never needed neighbors until recently. They become very helpful when they can tell we could use some help.
her house remain smoke free yes I however did not I have been back on the stupid smoke binge for pretty much two days after my last post.. Ughhh I am still trying though I have been not smoking as much. When I get some money I am going to buy the nicoderm cq patches as now all of a sudden my insurance will not cover them.. I am not going to lie I have been puffing away like an idiot. I am hoping the patches will finally help me be done with it i really do not want to smoke I guess when i get stressed i just go for them and with the amount of stress I have going on right now that is not hard to do..
My oldest daughter is 24 and my youngest daughter is 17 will be 18 in December. I kind of have been just praying about the situation and seeing what may come up. I am stuck in a lease where I am at until July I can buy out of it early if I want to but by the time I actually get my settlement it will be October so I may go visit down south for a month or so come back and hang out for the winter at least. that will give me time to get my ducks in a row finish my associates degree and try to make a plan of some sort. I will just take things one day at a time and see where it goes. Hubby still has plenty of moments more then not but I try to just ignore him or I tell him plain and simple he is being an you know what... So i have been calling him out on his behaviors. Other then that I am just hanging around waiting and seeing. At this point there is no real hurry to do to much I did tell him I am filing for divorce when I get my settlement so he knows at least that much. we basically live like angry roommates anyways..
my oldest daughter wants me to just be happy and if that means move on then that what I have to do my younger daughter is more needy so i worry about her she is 17 but has the mentality of a 8 year old it is sad she has lots of trauma and lots of problems going on. I have asked begged pleaded with my mother to get her into therapy and she shot me down every time. It really angers me that my mother is so selfish that she has always put the needs of my daughter on the back burner and now my daughter is paying for it. I even went to court to try to get the court to force her to take her therapy and they did not do crap. I know my mother cares for my daughter in her own twisted way but the biggest reason why she is still with my mother is because of all the money coming in for her being there child support and ssd etc..
The only time my mother ever calls me is when she cannot handle my daughter or the child support is late or does not come. That is pretty sad she does not call on birthdays Christmas etc.. Sorry I am off topic here lol...\
yes I smoked yes I still fear to leave my kids behind I still want to be there for them but my body tells me to go to where it is warm and enjoy my life. So conflicted but I hope I will get it figured out..