HELP I don't know what to do about my relationship!

[Emilybob]

Ok, background. My (notboyfriend??) and I have a 2 year old daughter, we're a family. I became a Christian and was saved half way through my pregnancy, meanwhile he has become more and more detatched from faith and Christ to the point that he has told me he literally hates god. It's awful trying to be with someone who is so hateful towards my favourite love! It's so frustrating because he's the one who introduced me to the church... but anyway. As well as being completely unequally yoked I recently found out that everytime we've had little spats or I've annoyed him in some way he has logged onto his old Facebook account and messaged random goes or ex's asking to meet up, to F***, send pictures etc etc which I find totally totally disrespectful and I can't get over! But I'm feeling really torn because we have a daughter. We made a family together and therefor should be together before god, but we aren't married, and we all know 'missionary dating' is not good and paul warns us of the dangers of being close to someone we are unequally yoked with.... im sorry if this is rambly I just need some sort of advice, I've been praying and praying but I haven't got my answers and I'm really hesitant to go through it with someone from church fam, though I am hoping to speak to someone soon... when I pluck up the courage

 

[Swan7]

Hello, Emilybob! Welcome to God's family!

Paul does warn us about being unequally yoked and shouldn't be. However, you clearly are seeking Christ more and more while your partner, less and less. You are absolutely right to keep praying and seeking what God wants you to do in this situation because mankind will not know you like God knows you perfectly!

I can't tell you what to do because as I said, I don't know what has been going on in your life. The only thing I can add here is just keep seeking God's will for your life, let Him guide you rather than your circumstances. If what God does in your life doesn't make sense to people - so what? God knows and understands you, so long as you keep His Word and faith in Him.

An example of this is the book of Hosea. God had Hosea marry a prostitute to get His prophet to understand the unfaithfulness of Isreal to God. I'm just using this as an example, not at all aiming this at anyone or you personally. What God does in our lives don't always make sense at first, that's all I was trying to say.

I'll be praying for you. <3

 

[blue_ladybug]

You are in a premarital relationship with a guy, who by his own admission, hates God. Add to that the fact that's he's most likely cheating on you if he's asking exes to meet up and have sex. Couples co-parent children all the time while not being married. Your lust created this kid, now be smart enough to get out of this sham relationship before you ruin your and your kid's life anymore..

 

[Ugly]

A man that hates your beliefs and every time you argue cheats on you. What will he tell your child about God? And you aren't married. Seems like an obvious solution.
There is nothing biblical in staying together because you have a child. It is not God's will you enter into a marriage with a man that hates God, kid or no kid.

 

[MarcR]

Ok, background. My (notboyfriend??) and I have a 2 year old daughter, we're a family. I became a Christian and was saved half way through my pregnancy, meanwhile he has become more and more detatched from faith and Christ to the point that he has told me he literally hates god. It's awful trying to be with someone who is so hateful towards my favourite love! It's so frustrating because he's the one who introduced me to the church... but anyway. As well as being completely unequally yoked I recently found out that everytime we've had little spats or I've annoyed him in some way he has logged onto his old Facebook account and messaged random goes or ex's asking to meet up, to F***, send pictures etc etc which I find totally totally disrespectful and I can't get over! But I'm feeling really torn because we have a daughter. We made a family together and therefor should be together before god, but we aren't married, and we all know 'missionary dating' is not good and paul warns us of the dangers of being close to someone we are unequally yoked with.... im sorry if this is rambly I just need some sort of advice, I've been praying and praying but I haven't got my answers and I'm really hesitant to go through it with someone from church fam, though I am hoping to speak to someone soon... when I pluck up the courage

My thought is that since neither of you have made a lifetime commitment to each other, you are better off without him.

If he were an unbelieving spouse you would be obliged to stay with him; but he is not.

I believe that God has something much better for you.

 

[tourist]

Based on your post the answer is a no-brainer, take your child and leave him. This may be painful but you are setting yourself up for tremendous heartbreak staying with a man who hates God and is most likely cheating on you besides.

 

[JosephsDreams]

I wish I could take bets on how BL would answer these type of threads. I could make a lot of money, her replies predictable. At least she's consistent, there is a value to that.

 

[blue_ladybug]

Not sure if this is an insult or a compliment..lol

I wish I could take bets on how BL would answer these type of threads. I could make a lot of money, her replies predictable. At least she's consistent, there is a value to that.

 

[Joidevivre]

In case you are thinking to stay with this man because your child needs a "father", it does not sound like he has a fathering, nurturing spirit at all. And his values you do not want passed on.

It is important that you provide for this child an environment where he can grow safely, peacefully and spiritually. You say that you are now family, but family is much more than just 3 people in a room. It is the unity of those 3 people that make a family.

 

[Depleted]

Ok, background. My (notboyfriend??) and I have a 2 year old daughter, we're a family. I became a Christian and was saved half way through my pregnancy, meanwhile he has become more and more detatched from faith and Christ to the point that he has told me he literally hates god. It's awful trying to be with someone who is so hateful towards my favourite love! It's so frustrating because he's the one who introduced me to the church... but anyway. As well as being completely unequally yoked I recently found out that everytime we've had little spats or I've annoyed him in some way he has logged onto his old Facebook account and messaged random goes or ex's asking to meet up, to F***, send pictures etc etc which I find totally totally disrespectful and I can't get over! But I'm feeling really torn because we have a daughter. We made a family together and therefor should be together before god, but we aren't married, and we all know 'missionary dating' is not good and paul warns us of the dangers of being close to someone we are unequally yoked with.... im sorry if this is rambly I just need some sort of advice, I've been praying and praying but I haven't got my answers and I'm really hesitant to go through it with someone from church fam, though I am hoping to speak to someone soon... when I pluck up the courage

You know, God really does talk to us. He wrote this book that tells everything about him that we need to know -- the Bible.

Read 1 Corinthians 7. Your answer is there.