Daughter Estranged over a concussion

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Curleysue52

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Hi I am new to this I won't go into all the gory details. I got a concussion 4 years ago. I had no idea what I said to her. I have tried to reach out to her to make things right and she won't forgive. I raised her in a Godly home and taught her love one another and forgive as Christ forgave on the cross. I sent her medical records , she got a hold of people that I grew up in the Church that knew me and they told her to run from me because I was mentally unstable. My husband almost died in July. She wouldn't even go to see her father who litterly was taken to CCU because she thought it was a ploy to get her to the hospital. I have tried to tell her that she blocked me so I could not talk to her. She thinks she is honoring God but I believe she isn't because she isn't following the 10 Commandments when it comes to honoring your're father and mother.
Any one ever have this kinda situation where a child turns on a parent? I have tried and tried its destroyed both my husbands side of the family,against my side of the family. I would appreciate prayer please and any advice.
Blessings
 
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Matthew 10:35
For I have come to set a man against his father, and a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law.....

Ive turned against both of my parents before. My mother prayed many months day and night and just stayed patient with strengt that God gave her.
Plus keep that scripture in mind.
 
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Beides that i am very sorry for that mess. I hope and pray that her hardened heart may open to her family again...
I have a question tho...If you know where she lives and you can send her medical records can't u visit her?
 
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Prayer. Specifically prayer in the spirit with fasting. Jude vs. 20. I have a nephew that rages against his mother, my sister. I pray for mercy for him. For your daughter also. It is risky to hold unforgiveness against anyone seeing that He has forgiven us great sins. I pray that she is convicted by the Holy Spirit to forgive and be reconciled.
 
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The pain you experience does not mean God has abandoned you even when others have. God knows your heart and sees what you think, what you feel, and what your true motives are for restoration with your daughter. Lean in heavily on that knowledge and find security in knowing that our God able to do abundantly and exceedingly more than we could ever hope or imagine.

This situation may require a lot of prayer on behalf of your daughter's ability to accept you for who you are. See if you can join a prayer group, or even start one, and begn to intercede daily in the company of other faith building believers. You will not feel so alone by doing so.

Since you can't change your daughter right now, ask God to help you find a way to be content in His love and acceptance of you. Be the person He created you to be. Your daughter is responsible for her relationship with the Lord, with or without you.

Try not to plead with your daughter or debate with her, or pressure her. She might only get more defensive which could fuel her negative perception of you.

Lay this one down at the feet of Jesus and release your daughter to Him. As hard as that might be, you want to feel a relief of knowing our God is able. He will fight for your daughter. God came to restore people back to Himself, so you know you are praying the will of God when you pray for this broken relationship.

Find some scriptures that speak to your heart and read them everyday. Cling to them and don't let go.

"Father, we pray right now for this seemingly impossibe situation, and the discord that has caused such pain. We ask you now, in the name of Jesus, to reach out to both the mother and the daughter, and send them reminders of your presence and your great love for them. Let your light shine and let their lives be changed, so you get the glory. Amen."
 
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Curleysue52 said:
Hi I am new to this I won't go into all the gory details. I got a concussion 4 years ago. I had no idea what I said to her. I have tried to reach out to her to make things right and she won't forgive. I raised her in a Godly home and taught her love one another and forgive as Christ forgave on the cross. I sent her medical records , she got a hold of people that I grew up in the Church that knew me and they told her to run from me because I was mentally unstable. My husband almost died in July. She wouldn't even go to see her father who literally was taken to CCU because she thought it was a ploy to get her to the hospital. I have tried to tell her that she blocked me so I could not talk to her. She thinks she is honoring God but I believe she isn't because she isn't following the 10 Commandments when it comes to honoring your're father and mother.
Any one ever have this kinda situation where a child turns on a parent? I have tried and tried its destroyed both my husbands side of the family,against my side of the family. I would appreciate prayer please and any advice.
Blessings
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Did you know that the Lord asks us to seek forgiveness, but never mentioned what happens when we do? You've tried. It didn't work. Now stop trying and let the Lord unfold what happens next.

Yes, it has happened in my family. Let me run down how it's turning out so far:
1. Brother. Was disowned or disowned Dad three times. He made the decision to come back twice. Dad pulled a sneaky one to get him back this last time. It was a good decision. Dad needed a child who could defy his wishes enough to do what was best for him no matter what he wanted. Dad has six kids, but only one is able to defy him when he gets bullheaded. That brother. And that brother is now the executor to Dad's Living Will. Big demands too. You see, Dad has Alzheimers now with alcoholism thrown on top. That equally-bullheaded brother was the one who had to make the decisions on when Dad could no longer drive and when it was time to get Dad into assisted living. He waited as long as he could. (Three out of the other five "kids" would have pulled his car away and put him in assisted living much sooner than he did, and the other two would have let Dad die of starvation or in a house burning around him without him ever getting the house was on fire., so that brother was the best choice Dad could pick.)

2. Husband's children from first marriage. (First wife was terrible, to put it politely, and trained the kids to hate him. So rather than force his kids to come to his home every weekend, where they despised him when they came and then clung to him and cried before they left, he stopped seeing them to avoid that upheaval each week.) The daughter ended up living with us for a school year when she was 17, wrote him a bitter letter two years later, and has since softened enough that they connect on FB. Son never talked to him again.

3. Hubby's dad left when he was two. His mother taught him that the man never bothered to get a job and just deserted them. When hubby was in his mid 30's he looked for his Dad. Dad died years earlier, but he found his uncle (Dad's brother) and aunt. He found out his Dad wasn't a bum. He had arthritis so bad he couldn't work, so his mom threw him out for being useless. Ends up, he remarried and had twins. His hands were forzen in claws by that time, so he couldn't turn the babies over to get a diaper under them. So he trained them to roll over for him. lol And, ends up we found the side of the family hubby takes after -- where his looks come from, his name, his brother's name, and their natural infinity in novels to read. Mostly, he found out where his laid-back attitude comes from. (Certainly not from his mom's side. lol) But despite everything he was taught, he did go back to his roots and learn about his pass.

You really don't know how this will turn out. God doesn't guarantee an outcome. He just tells us to seek forgiveness. I don't know if you get the good ending, the bad ending, or the weird ending. But I know this. If the Lord is with you and with your daughter, ultimately everything that happens is for your good and his glory!
 
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Curleysue52

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Thank you for understanding and not judging. Its been 4 long years. I have to leave her at the foot of the cross. I know its just hard.
 
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Curleysue52

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HI Demi I don't know where she lives sweetie . I sent the medical records to the Church that she attends . I have no phone number or idea were she lives at all.
 
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Curleysue52 said:
Thank you for understanding and not judging. Its been 4 long years. I have to leave her at the foot of the cross. I know its just hard.
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I know. It's been over 40 years for hubby. They aren't my kids, but I do love him dearly, and can't do a thing to fix it for him. Except we have been doing something all these years -- praying.

I can't help but wonder what life looks like for those who don't have God on their side.
 
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