Ex boyfriend broke up with me

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Rosepeter17

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My ex boyfriend broke up with me because he asked god one thing he needed to do to get closer to god and move forward in life and god said to step away from the relationship. My ex boyfriend and I realised that we were both distracting each other and he couldn’t balance work,god and me all at once. Is there any chance that we can get back together because we both want to but he said he needed to trust god with this
 
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My ex boyfriend broke up with me because he asked god one thing he needed to do to get closer to god and move forward in life and god said to step away from the relationship. My ex boyfriend and I realised that we were both distracting each other and he couldn’t balance work,god and me all at once. Is there any chance that we can get back together because we both want to but he said he needed to trust god with this
Good for your ex-boyfriend. He chose not to leave it to chance. He put it in the Lord's hands. God is, and he is sovereign, so there is no such thing as chance.
 
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I am sorry to hear that, sister. I think you have to accept it to be over and move on. Focus on your relation to Christ and seek Him in this. Easy for me to say... but I have been through something like this, too. And it threw me into a crisis of faith as well. It takes time to get over this, and you should allow yourself to grieve. But don't fall into that trap waiting for him to return. Just continue your walk with Christ and focus on that. And the pain will become less and you will get a new perspective. Remember. God is close to the broken hearted. Try to rejoice in that.
 
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I to had to leave my ex girlfriend because God had directed/spoke to me because she was still married in his sight I remember I had heart palpitations with a voice saying "leave Janie" which I suspected was a warning from the Lord.

That was over 1 year ago and I've been single ever since. God has also taken away my sexual desires I no longer lust after the flesh.

Take this opportunity to get closer to God and don't resent him for taking these steps.
 
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My ex boyfriend broke up with me because he asked god one thing he needed to do to get closer to god and move forward in life and god said to step away from the relationship. My ex boyfriend and I realised that we were both distracting each other and he couldn’t balance work,god and me all at once. Is there any chance that we can get back together because we both want to but he said he needed to trust god with this
No, not unless somehow both of you mature more spiritually to the point where God can trust you both in a relationship.
 
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No, not unless somehow both of you mature more spiritually to the point where God can trust you both in a relationship.
If God waits to trust us, there is no relationship, nor this generation. The human race would have died out at Adam and Eve. God knows, even better than we do, that we aren't trustworthy.
 
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Faith has nothing to do with crystal balls.
 
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NoNameMcgee

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yeah its possible for you two to get back together

but does that make it right?


if being in a relationship messes up his walk with God

its very selfish to try and get back with him unless God puts it on him that he is ready to marry


i personally stopped dating ten years ago


and its been a huge blessing


only the last few months have i even considered seeking Gods will on maybe finding a wife
 

trofimus

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i personally stopped dating ten years ago and its been a huge blessing

only the last few months have i even considered seeking Gods will on maybe finding a wife
So you are bored by a huge blessing and looking for some trouble? :)
 

presidente

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Be patient. Focus on your relationship with the Lord. If marriage for you two is God's will, that's great. He can work it out. If it's not, you shouldn't want to pursue it. Pray about that and surrender it over to the Lord. If it's His will, He can work it out for you. If not, you are better off.
 
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NoNameMcgee

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So you are bored by a huge blessing and looking for some trouble? :)
what kind of question is that?

God may or may not want marriage for me


and im blessed and happy either way

where as before i refused the thought of marriage
 
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My ex boyfriend broke up with me because he asked god one thing he needed to do to get closer to god and move forward in life and god said to step away from the relationship. My ex boyfriend and I realised that we were both distracting each other and he couldn’t balance work,god and me all at once. Is there any chance that we can get back together because we both want to but he said he needed to trust god with this
My friend, do you know why your relationship worked and what you gave each other?
The long term nature of any relationship is you are better for each other together than
apart.

Sometimes hard times in families, needs to love and real caring is needed, that only comes
from a partner. This was true for me and my wife when we met. Something deep in both
of us worked, and we now have been married 27 years.

But understanding why one loves and how it helps is a good first step.
 

Rosepeter17

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We just instantly clicked and shared the same things and we really loved each other a lot
 

Rosepeter17

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Also I’m praying for us to get back together and to forgive what we’ve done because we didn’t really put god at the centre of our relationship and we both realised our mistakes. My ex boyfriend said that he’s going to be single until god leads him somewhere. We were happy together and we want to carry on the relationship but hope god puts us together, someone say what I should do for us to be back?
 
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Rosepeter17

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I to had to leave my ex girlfriend because God had directed/spoke to me because she was still married in his sight I remember I had heart palpitations with a voice saying "leave Janie" which I suspected was a warning from the Lord.

That was over 1 year ago and I've been single ever since. God has also taken away my sexual desires I no longer lust after the flesh.

Take this opportunity to get closer to God and don't resent him for taking these steps.
Do you think you will get back together?
 

Rosepeter17

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Good for your ex-boyfriend. He chose not to leave it to chance. He put it in the Lord's hands. God is, and he is sovereign, so there is no such thing as chance.
What do you mean by no thing such as chance
 

Rosepeter17

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My friend, do you know why your relationship worked and what you gave each other?
The long term nature of any relationship is you are better for each other together than
apart.

Sometimes hard times in families, needs to love and real caring is needed, that only comes
from a partner. This was true for me and my wife when we met. Something deep in both
of us worked, and we now have been married 27 years.

But understanding why one loves and how it helps is a good first step.
We just instantly clicked and shared the same things and we really loved each other a lot
 

Dan58

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My ex boyfriend broke up with me because he asked god one thing he needed to do to get closer to god and move forward in life and god said to step away from the relationship. My ex boyfriend and I realised that we were both distracting each other and he couldn’t balance work,god and me all at once. Is there any chance that we can get back together because we both want to but he said he needed to trust god with this
I suspect your boyfriend was trying to spare your feelings and fed you a line of bs... God did not tell him to break-up with you, that's just the best line he could think of (sounds noble). He couldn't balance you and work? :) Possibly a polite way of saying that your too much work (high maintenance). He just wants to be friends, so move on and forget about it. Using God as an excuse to destroy a relationship is hitting beneath the belt.. jmo
 
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Do you think you will get back together?
I'm still friends with her and speak regularly but unless her husband dies and she becomes widdowed she is still married and can't have a relationship with her.