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    Was put in a difficult situation about hour ago. Was driving to my sister in laws house. Me my wife and 10yo son in car. I see a fight about to take place in the middle of road. I notice it's my cousin he's a gang member. I stop pull over a little further from scene. I hop out of car my wife is telling me to be careful don't get involved. The fight is happening. I want to intervene but the thought my wife and son stop me. I park car around the corner so they don't see and go back to observe fight. Still processing what to do. My cousin is fighting 3 other gang members but no one is really fighting him back. I was scared to step in I didn't know what to do. I was afraid I might start fighting and I didn't want too. The fight stopped. Everyone split. I left feeling guttered I couldn't help my cousin. Has anyone been In situation?
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    By the way my cousin beat 1 down the other 1 was jumping around like a grasshopper . And 1 was ringing for other gang members to come.

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    No, but be thankful nothing worse happened, you were wise to listen to your wife...your cousin chooses to gang bang out of his own free will, and with that comes consequences he will eventually have to meet if he continues.. Family is family but you cant protect everyone all of the time, especially those who choose to walk on the wrong path.. protecting your son and wife should be a priority because they have no affiliation with the gang life. You shouldn't beat yourself up about it, you made a wise choice.. If you can though, you might want to tell him about Christ and see if he wants to change his mind,
    if not, sometimes people have to learn the hard way, because i was like that.
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    You should have called the police, even if it was a relative.
    People have to learn consequences, he and the others never will if no one
    cares enough to make them realise actions have consequences.

    Plus what if someone got stabbed or shot and you did nothing, or what if
    someone had been knocked out and suffered brain damage.

    I once called the police on a group of drunks I saw fighting in the street.
    I didn't know them but even if I had, I would still have done so.


    Ps years ago my mum called the police about her teenage son who had been
    shop lifting. You can be sure he never did it again!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Miri View Post
    You should have called the police, even if it was a relative.
    People have to learn consequences, he and the others never will if no one
    cares enough to make them realise actions have consequences.

    Plus what if someone got stabbed or shot and you did nothing, or what if
    someone had been knocked out and suffered brain damage.

    I once called the police on a group of drunks I saw fighting in the street.
    I didn't know them but even if I had, I would still have done so.


    Ps years ago my mum called the police about her teenage son who had been
    shop lifting. You can be sure he never did it again!
    Yup. That's the attitude I was raised with -- call the cops, even if family is the cause of the problem.

    I'll stand with anyone, if they are being victimized, but if they are the perp, then it's their problem. And I would call the cop for fear it gets worse.

    Then again gang members -- not too tough when they don't have enough backup.
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    Proverbs 26:17 Like one who grabs a stray dog by the ears is someone who rushes into a quarrel not their own.

    1 Thessalonians 4:11
    and to make it your ambition to lead a quiet life: You should mind your own business and work with your hands, just as we told you,

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    Quote Originally Posted by NoobSaibot View Post
    By the way my cousin beat 1 down the other 1 was jumping around like a grasshopper . And 1 was ringing for other gang members to come.
    You should talk your cousin into MMA or the army.
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    Quote Originally Posted by NoobSaibot View Post
    Was put in a difficult situation about hour ago. Was driving to my sister in laws house. Me my wife and 10yo son in car. I see a fight about to take place in the middle of road. I notice it's my cousin he's a gang member. I stop pull over a little further from scene. I hop out of car my wife is telling me to be careful don't get involved. The fight is happening. I want to intervene but the thought my wife and son stop me. I park car around the corner so they don't see and go back to observe fight. Still processing what to do. My cousin is fighting 3 other gang members but no one is really fighting him back. I was scared to step in I didn't know what to do. I was afraid I might start fighting and I didn't want too. The fight stopped. Everyone split. I left feeling guttered I couldn't help my cousin. Has anyone been In situation?
    Hey there! I know I'm about 4 weeks late to the conversation, but on a certain level I can relate to what you were saying. I used to work with street kids. There was a decent amount of fighting and much of it was very scary due to the fact that drugs and weapons were often involved. At times I found myself in the middle of a fight between some very angry and high guys hoping that the fact that I am a girl would mean that they might not hit me. Looking back it wasn't always the smartest choice, but I truly struggle with seeing people fighting and simply allowing someone to get hurt while I'm just standing and watching.

    I can't say what you should or should not have done, but definitely having a family and the responsibility to care for them does need to play a part in you decision making process. That being said, I still think I would have a hard time not jumping in if I saw someone in physical danger.

    Sorry that you have a family member who runs in circles that are so dangerous. I can't even imagine what that's like. Take care of yourself and your family. I hope that your cousin is able to find a better way!
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    there is a certain 'inbred' response that could only live within' us by the
    Grace of our Saviour...GBY...

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    You had two VERY good reasons to stay out of it. Leave it at that.

    What you might want to do now is tell your cousin how you really wanted to help but did not want to endanger your family. Maybe it will make him think about what he's doing with his life.
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