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Hi everyone, I am a newbie. My name is Jessica, I'm 24, and my husband and I have been married for three years (today!). He is a US Marine and is currently gone training (not deployed yet) right now. I joined this site because this has been on my mind for the past few days and I'd love to hear some insight.
The movie Fireproof is our marriage in a nutshell, with the exception of me being interested in another man like Katherine and the doctor. We're distant, I'm left feeling unappreciated, he's left feeling like I nag, and respect is a big issue for us.
I've decided to give 110% effort to our marriage (we are not considering separation, I just know we can be better for each other than we are). I'm not going to continue to look at my marriage as "Well why should I try if he isn't". I'm going to show my faith through my actions of kindness, patience, unconditional love, forgiveness, etc.
But the point of my post (sorry!), I just wish for my husband that he knew the Lord. I feel like so much of what he is missing for himself would be fulfilled. He is very uncomfortable with showing love, and he looks as Christianity as a theory among hundreds of others, and nothing more. I feel like if he knew God, and felt His unconditional love, he would be able to GIVE unconditional love. I just see the movie, I see Kirk Cameron's character find God and everything just seems to fall into place. His heart becomes fully enveloped into his marriage. The movie just made me a little sad, I know my husband needs Him. I've known this for years. I've taken him to church with me but he was just so uncomfortable, that I felt like it was better for both of us to not go then me drag him and push him further away from the idea.
How do you handle a spouse not being a believer? Besides praying, I don't do anything else because I fear very much that if I become pushy, I will backtrack with him, and that's the last thing I want to do. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
The movie Fireproof is our marriage in a nutshell, with the exception of me being interested in another man like Katherine and the doctor. We're distant, I'm left feeling unappreciated, he's left feeling like I nag, and respect is a big issue for us.
I've decided to give 110% effort to our marriage (we are not considering separation, I just know we can be better for each other than we are). I'm not going to continue to look at my marriage as "Well why should I try if he isn't". I'm going to show my faith through my actions of kindness, patience, unconditional love, forgiveness, etc.
But the point of my post (sorry!), I just wish for my husband that he knew the Lord. I feel like so much of what he is missing for himself would be fulfilled. He is very uncomfortable with showing love, and he looks as Christianity as a theory among hundreds of others, and nothing more. I feel like if he knew God, and felt His unconditional love, he would be able to GIVE unconditional love. I just see the movie, I see Kirk Cameron's character find God and everything just seems to fall into place. His heart becomes fully enveloped into his marriage. The movie just made me a little sad, I know my husband needs Him. I've known this for years. I've taken him to church with me but he was just so uncomfortable, that I felt like it was better for both of us to not go then me drag him and push him further away from the idea.
How do you handle a spouse not being a believer? Besides praying, I don't do anything else because I fear very much that if I become pushy, I will backtrack with him, and that's the last thing I want to do. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.