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    Unhappy How can I save my family?

    Here is my testimony: 3 Bipolar hospitalizations that lead me to Jesus...

    My question is: How can I save my family?

    Should I buy them books on heaven and hell? Or will that just scare them away?

    What should I do?

    Thanks.

    Edit: I'm going to guess that I can't, only God can?
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    Default Re: How can I save my family?

    You can't save them. Only God can. So step aside and let Him work.
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    Quote Originally Posted by claysmithr View Post
    Here is my testimony: 3 Bipolar hospitalizations that lead me to Jesus...

    My question is: How can I save my family?

    Should I buy them books on heaven and hell? Or will that just scare them away?

    What should I do?

    Thanks.

    Edit: I'm going to guess that I can't, only God can?
    Good guessing skills you have.

    No, you definitely don't want to send them books about heaven and hell. My family believes in heaven and hell, and think because they believe God is, they get the eternal vacation plan which they call heaven. It's not that. We're saved into the Lord. It's about him, not about eternal destinations. He's the cake -- the main part of dessert. Heaven is merely the frosting.

    And, I'd tell you just the right words, but I've had this frustration for 45 years, and so far, only got one brother to go from atheist to agnostic. Still not good enough.


    All I can say is pray, pray, pray for God's mercy and for him to give you what to say if they ever listen. And pray, pray, pray, that the Lord gets them to the point of truly listening.
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    Pray for your family, witness in deed. Let them see the difference in you, and want to know more. My parents were not saved, my brother and sister still are not. I gave them Bibles and reading materials, told them about Jesus. But, nothing happened.

    Then, about 25 years after I was saved, my father said he saw a real difference in me since I had become a Christian, and to hold onto it, and never let go of my faith. BUT, he was still not interested.

    Fast forward another 5 years, and my father was dying of congestive heart failure. He was permanently in the hospital, other than me taking him out in the wheelchair, he never left again. When he first started getting sick, in the hospital, he had an incident where he almost died. My husband told him he needed to repent of his sins. Wow! That did it.

    We prayed together, and he was a totally different person! He lasted another 5 months, I read him the Bible every day on my visits, and played him Christian music and prayed with him. In turn, he witnessed about Jesus to all the staff. He told me, he wished he had known when he was younger that God was the most important thing!

    We also reconciled from issues we had from my teens. It was very healing for both of us. He is with Jesus now, that is what matters. (My mom also accepted Christ a few years earlier, when I witnessed to her for a course on evangelism I was taking!

    So, don't give up expect a miracle, but in God's timing, not yours.
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    Default Re: How can I save my family?

    Quote Originally Posted by claysmithr View Post
    Here is my testimony: 3 Bipolar hospitalizations that lead me to Jesus...
    My question is: How can I save my family?
    Should I buy them books on heaven and hell? Or will that just scare them away?
    What should I do?
    Thanks.
    Edit: I'm going to guess that I can't, only God can?
    Lead by example.
    When they see the change in you, they will glorify God.
    Then they will be drawn to Him.
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    Quote Originally Posted by claysmithr View Post
    Edit: I'm going to guess that I can't, only God can?
    True that *you* can't save them. But you can lead them to God. And that's a start.
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    Hello, I read your post and wanted to encourage you to stay on your medications. Second I wanted to let you know that by reading the word things will change in everyone's heart as the Bible comes to life through your voice. The one thing I tell people is that we are all misfits on this little blue planet, looking for a home we can go to where there is no sickness, disease or sorrow. One day our Savior will return and catch us all away from here, and we will have new life with him, Praise the Lord. But until then, we must do our part to walk in his ways and learn them. Reading the word out loud to people in the family will give them an understanding that can open doors of change. You see, it takes the Holy Spirit of God to do the changing, in all of us. He does the convicting and the things necessary to cause us all to walk closer to him. Christian worship music is another good way to open doors of communication. Youtube is full of some great music. Lord bless you as you head on this journey.

    John 14:27 Jesus says, "27 Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid."

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    Quote Originally Posted by PJW View Post
    Lead by example.
    When they see the change in you, they will glorify God.
    Then they will be drawn to Him.
    Example hasn't work for me in 45 years. They see I've changed. They like the new me over the old me, BUT they think it's cute that I believe in all this holy roller stuff. And the weird part is I don't believe much of the holy roller stuff. They'd know that, if I could ever get them to let me say more than half a sentence about God before they gave me one of these two signs:


    or


    (They really hate God.)
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    Quote Originally Posted by Depleted View Post
    Example hasn't work for me in 45 years. They see I've changed. They like the new me over the old me, BUT they think it's cute that I believe in all this holy roller stuff. And the weird part is I don't believe much of the holy roller stuff. They'd know that, if I could ever get them to let me say more than half a sentence about God before they gave me one of these two signs:


    or


    (They really hate God.)
    We really need a "sad" emoticon for posts like this! Just don't give up! While there is life, there's hope!
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    Quote Originally Posted by claysmithr View Post
    Should I buy them books on heaven and hell? Or will that just scare them away?
    Only God does the saving, but you can give a Bible to each one (with a suitable Gospel tract inserted) and tell each one plainly that you have received the Lord Jesus Christ as your Savior, and you want each one to come to your baptism (if you have not already been baptized as a believer). This is where you can give a public testimony, which they all will hear. That should have a tremendous impact.

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    Quote Originally Posted by claysmithr View Post
    My question is: How can I save my family?

    Should I buy them books on heaven and hell? Or will that just scare them away?
    No, they would probably be insulted if you bought them books, they wouldn't read them either, so it would be a waste of money. Any nonbeliever needs the desire to emanate from within themselves. "For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened" (Matthew 7:8). Your family isn't knocking, so He won't open the door. Its not an issue you can force or inspire if there's no honest interest there. Some people just have a tough time believing anything, so they're content to believe nothing.
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    Hi! So, welcome to the family! I understand your desire to see your family saved, but as you stated, only God can do that. Remember that you and I did not get saved b/c we wanted it. It was pure grace, a gift from God so we have nothing to boast.

    My sister and I came to the Lord about the same time decades ago, but my brother, he's still lost. We've been praying for him but all I know is that it's not time yet. When I first got saved, I used to argue with him, and reason with him, guilt him, etc to try to "get him saved." But that only got him more distant and hard hearted. Since then learned that "the kingdom of God does not consist in talk but in power" (1 Cor 4:20). I've been loving him and just "hanging out" with him even though often it killed me inside to see him so lost. But over the years, he has become more open and "interested".

    I want to encourage you to keep loving Jesus and let Christ continue to change you and make you more and more like him. Let your love and good works draw your family to you, and to Christ who is in you. Be patient with your family, and keep loving them... just remember, no matter what they do, or who they are, God loves them. As you consistently love the Lord, and as they witness your transformation, they will wonder and I'm sure opportunities will come when they will want to know what happened to you. Until then, I want to encourage you to be patient and wait upon the Lord. Love them as well as you can and keep praying for them.

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