My Husband recently left me and I feel lost .
We have known each other for 12yrs together for 9 yrs married for only 1yr.
I snapped early hrs of morning which I shouldnt have done the following day I came home to a note saying its over and his wedding ring left on the bench.
We have had an amazing 9 yrs suffered some ups and downs as my husband was diagnosed with FMS and already had depression but we were doing all we could and staying positive.
Over the last 11mths its been hard for the both of us his depression and FMS got worse I suffered from post concussion sydrome and had a friend staying whom also suffered from health issues I was trying to do too much and I would snap sometimes for no reason .
My husband has been gone for 6wks during this time he has told me he feels I verbally abuse him by making appointments for his health I wasnt giving him a choice by picking up after him he felt I was treating him like a child by getting upset when he didnt go to family function I was trying to control him . these things he has said never entered my mind as I thought I was doing the right thing I know now I was overstepping . Had he of told me I would have stopped . I have admitted to him I was wrong and Im going to counselling .
we have seen each other a couple times small talk really . we had a nice day last week he told me I looked lovely and he said he had good time.
Then a couple of days later I sent a message asking if we could discuss and know his and my feelings finances house our pet he turned nasty saying hurtful things.
Then telling me I hurt his brain he doesnt want to hear from me Then hes messaging me a hour later .
One minute his nice then turns nasty .
Ive never seen this side of him before and dont know what to do .
I love him I want to work on mariage on our friendship hes my husband and bestfriend .
Looking for advice
We have known each other for 12yrs together for 9 yrs married for only 1yr.
I snapped early hrs of morning which I shouldnt have done the following day I came home to a note saying its over and his wedding ring left on the bench.
We have had an amazing 9 yrs suffered some ups and downs as my husband was diagnosed with FMS and already had depression but we were doing all we could and staying positive.
Over the last 11mths its been hard for the both of us his depression and FMS got worse I suffered from post concussion sydrome and had a friend staying whom also suffered from health issues I was trying to do too much and I would snap sometimes for no reason .
My husband has been gone for 6wks during this time he has told me he feels I verbally abuse him by making appointments for his health I wasnt giving him a choice by picking up after him he felt I was treating him like a child by getting upset when he didnt go to family function I was trying to control him . these things he has said never entered my mind as I thought I was doing the right thing I know now I was overstepping . Had he of told me I would have stopped . I have admitted to him I was wrong and Im going to counselling .
we have seen each other a couple times small talk really . we had a nice day last week he told me I looked lovely and he said he had good time.
Then a couple of days later I sent a message asking if we could discuss and know his and my feelings finances house our pet he turned nasty saying hurtful things.
Then telling me I hurt his brain he doesnt want to hear from me Then hes messaging me a hour later .
One minute his nice then turns nasty .
Ive never seen this side of him before and dont know what to do .
I love him I want to work on mariage on our friendship hes my husband and bestfriend .
Looking for advice