Hey all, I am new and joined to get some helpful advice. So as of recently I have became a believer too the point were my baptism is set for a week from today. But I️ was struggling with an issue. My girlfriend and I had some loving issues that cause her to move out of an apartment with her sister. So she needed a roommate and couldn’t find one so I, living with my parents out of college at the time, decided to move out and we got a 2 bedroom 2 bathroom apartment together. Well everything was fine until my best friend had his father pass and he needed a place to stay so I opened my door for him. That then pushed my gf and I to the same bedroom and bed. We have talked to one another and idk what to do since it is very open about not laying with someone as a wife that is not.
Help with a GF
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It sounds like you have been a really supportive friend to your best guy friend, so think of this as a chance for him to return the favor by being supportive of you. 
I would talk to him and explain that you want him to feel comfortable staying with you, but need to change the sleeping arrangements to better align with your faith beliefs. Suggest that you sleep on the couch, or bring an air mattress into the room he is staying in and sleep there.
You will also want to have an honest conversation about how long he will be staying with you and create a game-plan that will work from all three of you from there. It is important that all three of you have the same thoughts about how long this living arrangement will be.
Best of luck!
I would talk to him and explain that you want him to feel comfortable staying with you, but need to change the sleeping arrangements to better align with your faith beliefs. Suggest that you sleep on the couch, or bring an air mattress into the room he is staying in and sleep there.
You will also want to have an honest conversation about how long he will be staying with you and create a game-plan that will work from all three of you from there. It is important that all three of you have the same thoughts about how long this living arrangement will be.
Best of luck!
There's two quick remedies; 1, Get single beds, you don't need to share the same bed, temptation may win out in that situation. 2, With two bedrooms and 3 people, the girl shouldn't need to share her bedroom because you wanted to do your friend a favor. If you want to keep the relationship platonic, split the bedroom you previously occupied with 2 single beds.
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Honestly, kind of agreeing with Willie this time. How does one become a new believer without first getting some idea of the basics -- the Ten Commandments -- to figure out why he needs to repent and be born again? And yet, getting an apartment together with GF and then "accidentally" ending up sleeping in the same bed with GF doesn't ring any bells that something might be amidst?
If you're old enough to get an apartment, you ought to be old enough to figure out 2 + 2 will lead to 4. He could have bunked with best friend, and yet... never even thought of that.
Seems to me this is either yet another person thinking he's saved because he walked to an altar and prayed, or another chain yanker.
If you're old enough to get an apartment, you ought to be old enough to figure out 2 + 2 will lead to 4. He could have bunked with best friend, and yet... never even thought of that.
Seems to me this is either yet another person thinking he's saved because he walked to an altar and prayed, or another chain yanker.
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It wasn't his "responsibility" either to just-happen to go in on a two-bedroom apartment with his GF either. Common sense might have suggested helping her out with a single apartment until she could afford it, but GF/BF just-happens to go with a apartment together.
I was born in the day time, but not yesterday.
BTW, the third roommate is his best friend, not his best friend's Dad. Somehow best friend just-happened to need a place because his dad died. Getting more far fetched yet? Granted, I can see some of these things happening in succession, but not all of them. Not after just-getting this apartment with just-happens-to-be-GF. And considering he just-happened not to return to this urgent question, sincerity and need flew out the window.
I was born in the day time, but not yesterday.
BTW, the third roommate is his best friend, not his best friend's Dad. Somehow best friend just-happened to need a place because his dad died. Getting more far fetched yet? Granted, I can see some of these things happening in succession, but not all of them. Not after just-getting this apartment with just-happens-to-be-GF. And considering he just-happened not to return to this urgent question, sincerity and need flew out the window.
Well let's see, first off, the temptation is going to be real if you and your girlfriend are living together, which the best thing to do would be wait til you are married to truly move in together, but if you must, you did say you are getting a two bed two bathroom apartment. Barring nobody else is staying there, then i say get a bunk bed or yes, two single beds and keep them separate. That would be the best thing you could do, and continue to pray on it that the Holy Spirit will lead you in the right direction
Elijah lived with a single woman and her son. It is not wrong to even sleep in the same bed when there’s no sex. But what is wrong is that you have a romantic relationship- which now makes the situation an appearance of evil. Fornication is evil, but so is the appearance of fornication. Because the Bible says that if something appears a certain way and bothers your brother’s conscience, not to do it for his sake. So you either have to go down to the courthouse and get married, or move out.