Is there still hope for my relationship?

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blasiangirl

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My situation is with an ex boyfriend. We broke up about a month nearly 2 months ago. He is a Muslim and I am a Catholic. We did talk about our religions with each other and he was willing to know more about my religion as well as I was willing to know about his religion. But I made it clear that I would never convert and I am a happy Catholic. He was happy with my decision but he did doubt about it while we were together because he wasn't sure how his family would react to it. We still continued the relationship because he told me how much he loves me and I loved him too (I still am).

He broke up with me because he told me that he came to a conclusion that he was not ready for a relationship and he still has feelings for me but at that moment, he isn't ready. He said he still wants to keep me as a close person in his life because he cares for me but he's going through a lot and needs to get himself together. He said if the relationship is meant to be, it will come back to us and I told him I understood and am willing to still be there for him. We still do talk nearly everyday and if not everyday, every other day but I feel like he is getting quite distant now. He would give me short replies, read my messages and not reply. I would try to make the conversation flow but then down the line he would just stop replying. I do know he messaged another girl telling her she's good looking and trying to get to know her I guess on 'that' level'. The thing is if I am not feeling well or seem down, he would still ask if I'm okay and tries to cheer me up.

I know we are not together but it does hurt knowing that I feel like he's trying to pursue another girl. It could be my overreaction but in my heart and gut feeling, I still feel like he is the one. Our relationship was so great. We could spend hours talking and not get bored and he made me feel so loved. We trusted each other, we were able to communicate with each other and even talk about how great God is. I personally still feel like there is hope and I do pray about this but I do think maybe not talking to him everyday would help. The thought of him talking to another girl hurts just because I wish we were still together. I don't think being with him even though he is a Muslim is a bad thing. I did not plan on falling in love with a Muslim but it just came. I would just like some help and encouragement. Sorry about how long this is but thank you for taking the time to read it.
 

blue_ladybug

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You're happy in the wrong religion. Catholicism is an evil, false and perverted religion. As for the boyfriend, it's probably for the best..
 

blasiangirl

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You're happy in the wrong religion. Catholicism is an evil, false and perverted religion. As for the boyfriend, it's probably for the best..
I don't believe my religion is bad. In every religion there are bad people who make the religion seem like it's bad even though it's not. We are believers of Christ and that's just that. That's like saying Muslims are in the wrong religion because of terrorists. Not all Muslims are terrorists, it's just certain people who do bad things to spoil it's name. So please don't call my religion evil because it's not. You're talking about the people, not the religion
 
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Catholicism is not evil anyone who believes is christ ia a christian in gods eyes. Now for your ex i think if he said that it probably means he is not in love with you. While it is possible you could get back together it is best to explore your other options becuase god will show you the true path for you so just believe
 

blue_ladybug

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No, I'm NOT talking about the people. I'm speaking about the religion.. They pray to Mary and ask her to intercede to Jesus for them. They use rosaries when they pray. They bow to statues of Mary and the Pope. They believe that Mary was a virgin the rest of her life. I could go on and on.

CHRISTIANS don't do any of the above mentioned. Mary is dead, she cannot hear nor answer prayers, nor would she even if she could. She's not an intercessor for you. Our ONLY intercessor is Jesus. Mary is nothing but a pile of ashes and bones.


I don't believe my religion is bad. In every religion there are bad people who make the religion seem like it's bad even though it's not. We are believers of Christ and that's just that. That's like saying Muslims are in the wrong religion because of terrorists. Not all Muslims are terrorists, it's just certain people who do bad things to spoil it's name. So please don't call my religion evil because it's not. You're talking about the people, not the religion
 

blasiangirl

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The way you are coming for Jesus' mother Mary is hilarious. Yeah keep talking all the crap. Catholics are Christians if you didn't know. They are called the early Christians dating back to the Romans.
 
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NoNameMcgee

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i believe unless your ex turns to Christ... it would be far more fruitful to avoid going back into a relationship with him


there are many men who love God and can be a much better husband to you in ways someone who does not seek the truth could


may God bless you with His will on this
 

blasiangirl

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i believe unless your ex turns to Christ... it would be far more fruitful to avoid going back into a relationship with him


there are many men who love God and can be a much better husband to you in ways someone who does not seek the truth could


may God bless you with His will on this
Also another reason why I have hope is because I have a very close friend of mine and her mum is a Christian and her dad is a Muslim and they have been married for over 25 years and they've been able to work through it. That's what is giving me hope. I know that Muslims do believe in Jesus as a Prophet and they obviously believe in God. Allah is basically another name for God but in the Arab language. So it doesn't seem too bad to me. The bible doesn't seem to specifically say that you cannot marry someone who is a Muslim.
 

blue_ladybug

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What's hilarious about it? Mary IS dead. That's a fact. Mary IS NOT an intercessor. That's another fact. Mary CANNOT hear OR answer prayers. Mary was NOT a virgin her entire life, she had other children after Jesus. Mary IS a pile of bones and ashes in a grave somewhere. Two more facts for you.

YOUR religion relies on Mary to intercede to Jesus on your behalf. YOUR religion worships the pedophile Popes. MY religion relies on JESUS to intercede on our behalf. MY religion does not worship, pray to, or bow down to a pedophile Pope.. Catholicism has NOTHING to do with Christianity. They are 2 separate religions, one is evil and the other is true. I suggest you open your eyes and wake up to the evilness of your religion.



The way you are coming for Jesus' mother Mary is hilarious. Yeah keep talking all the crap. Catholics are Christians if you didn't know. They are called the early Christians dating back to the Romans.
 

blue_ladybug

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The bible DOES specifically say that people are not to be unequally yoked to another. Meaning don't get married to someone of a different religion..

Also another reason why I have hope is because I have a very close friend of mine and her mum is a Christian and her dad is a Muslim and they have been married for over 25 years and they've been able to work through it. That's what is giving me hope. I know that Muslims do believe in Jesus as a Prophet and they obviously believe in God. Allah is basically another name for God but in the Arab language. So it doesn't seem too bad to me. The bible doesn't seem to specifically say that you cannot marry someone who is a Muslim.
 
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NoNameMcgee

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Also another reason why I have hope is because I have a very close friend of mine and her mum is a Christian and her dad is a Muslim and they have been married for over 25 years and they've been able to work through it. That's what is giving me hope. I know that Muslims do believe in Jesus as a Prophet and they obviously believe in God. Allah is basically another name for God but in the Arab language. So it doesn't seem too bad to me. The bible doesn't seem to specifically say that you cannot marry someone who is a Muslim.
well no it doesnt say someone in unbelief cant be converted or the marriage cant be legit


it actually says if you are already married

to not divorce for the cause of unbelief

but it does warn against getting married to a non-believer
... it is unwise

be careful

look for Gods will and dont chase after your heart

its not like there is only one man in the world for you to marry

but once you pick...

you could end up stuck with someone who changes for the worse and not the better

which is to be expected from anyone who isnt following Jesus
 

blasiangirl

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What's hilarious about it? Mary IS dead. That's a fact. Mary IS NOT an intercessor. That's another fact. Mary CANNOT hear OR answer prayers. Mary was NOT a virgin her entire life, she had other children after Jesus. Mary IS a pile of bones and ashes in a grave somewhere. Two more facts for you.

YOUR religion relies on Mary to intercede to Jesus on your behalf. YOUR religion worships the pedophile Popes. MY religion relies on JESUS to intercede on our behalf. MY religion does not worship, pray to, or bow down to a pedophile Pope.. Catholicism has NOTHING to do with Christianity. They are 2 separate religions, one is evil and the other is true. I suggest you open your eyes and wake up to the evilness of your religion.
I don't give a **** lol. You're acting like there are Christians who haven't raped people. We don't worship anything other than God like it's literally in the commandments. If you're gonna talk about Catholicism, talk more facts because it wasn't the pope who was a pedophile, it was the priests. So get your facts right. Catholicism was the FIRST and LARGEST christian church in the world. Oh, that's a fact for ya. Ha. Let me make it VERY clear for you since you know nothing about Catholicism and you're talking senseless. WE DO NOT WORSHIP ANYTHING OTHER THAN GOD!!!!
 
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NoNameMcgee

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and just so you know

they are not believers

they do not believe in the gospel

nor in Jesus sacrifice
they have no truth in them


please dont get that twisted

(muslims)
 
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blasiangirl

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well no it doesnt say someone in unbelief cant be converted or the marriage cant be legit


it actually says if you are already married

to not divorce for the cause of unbelief

but it does warn against getting married to a non-believer
... it is unwise

be careful

look for Gods will and dont chase after your heart

its not like there is only one man in the world for you to marry

but once you pick...

you could end up stuck with someone who changes for the worse and not the better

which is to be expected from anyone who isnt following Jesus
And I have been praying for God to lead me to his Will so I guess it's just a wait and see thing lol
 

blue_ladybug

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The Popes are all pedophiles, also. There are pedos in every religion.. And do you kiss your mama with that potty mouth?


I don't give a **** lol. You're acting like there are Christians who haven't raped people. We don't worship anything other than God like it's literally in the commandments. If you're gonna talk about Catholicism, talk more facts because it wasn't the pope who was a pedophile, it was the priests. So get your facts right. Catholicism was the FIRST and LARGEST christian church in the world. Oh, that's a fact for ya. Ha. Let me make it VERY clear for you since you know nothing about Catholicism and you're talking senseless. WE DO NOT WORSHIP ANYTHING OTHER THAN GOD!!!!
 
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NoNameMcgee

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I don't give a **** lol. You're acting like there are Christians who haven't raped people. We don't worship anything other than God like it's literally in the commandments. If you're gonna talk about Catholicism, talk more facts because it wasn't the pope who was a pedophile, it was the priests. So get your facts right. Catholicism was the FIRST and LARGEST christian church in the world. Oh, that's a fact for ya. Ha. Let me make it VERY clear for you since you know nothing about Catholicism and you're talking senseless. WE DO NOT WORSHIP ANYTHING OTHER THAN GOD!!!!
i dont believe anyone walking in the spirit is going to rape anyone....

also

blue is right that many of the traditions of men that catholic churches typically follow and believe

are not scriptural

and some are outright .... wrong and dangerous


but please dont take this as an attack on you
 

Nehemiah6

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I personally still feel like there is hope and I do pray about this but I do think maybe not talking to him everyday would help. The thought of him talking to another girl hurts just because I wish we were still together. I don't think being with him even though he is a Muslim is a bad thing.
Self-deception never helps anyone, and in the end it is more painful than facing the truth.

The fact is that you are a committed Roman Catholic and he is a committed Muslim. There is automatically a built in conflict in this relationship, which cannot be resolved until both of you turn from your respective religions to Christ and be saved by grace. Catholics who are truly born again will come out of Roman Catholicism, which is false Christianity.

Also, the fact that he is trying to get involved with another girl means that he may have been stringing you along (or has lost interest). Therefore the best solution is for you to say goodbye to this guy and move on. But before you do so, you need to sit down with a Gospel preacher to understand why you should abandon the Catholic Church and turn to Christ for your personal salvation.

We all have “religion” before we are saved, but we all need a genuine relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ as our Lord and Savior. And that means giving up religion for reality.
 
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Ugly

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My situation is with an ex boyfriend. We broke up about a month nearly 2 months ago. He is a Muslim and I am a Catholic. We did talk about our religions with each other and he was willing to know more about my religion as well as I was willing to know about his religion. But I made it clear that I would never convert and I am a happy Catholic. He was happy with my decision but he did doubt about it while we were together because he wasn't sure how his family would react to it. We still continued the relationship because he told me how much he loves me and I loved him too (I still am).

He broke up with me because he told me that he came to a conclusion that he was not ready for a relationship and he still has feelings for me but at that moment, he isn't ready. He said he still wants to keep me as a close person in his life because he cares for me but he's going through a lot and needs to get himself together. He said if the relationship is meant to be, it will come back to us and I told him I understood and am willing to still be there for him. We still do talk nearly everyday and if not everyday, every other day but I feel like he is getting quite distant now. He would give me short replies, read my messages and not reply. I would try to make the conversation flow but then down the line he would just stop replying. I do know he messaged another girl telling her she's good looking and trying to get to know her I guess on 'that' level'. The thing is if I am not feeling well or seem down, he would still ask if I'm okay and tries to cheer me up.

I know we are not together but it does hurt knowing that I feel like he's trying to pursue another girl. It could be my overreaction but in my heart and gut feeling, I still feel like he is the one. Our relationship was so great. We could spend hours talking and not get bored and he made me feel so loved. We trusted each other, we were able to communicate with each other and even talk about how great God is. I personally still feel like there is hope and I do pray about this but I do think maybe not talking to him everyday would help. The thought of him talking to another girl hurts just because I wish we were still together. I don't think being with him even though he is a Muslim is a bad thing. I did not plan on falling in love with a Muslim but it just came. I would just like some help and encouragement. Sorry about how long this is but thank you for taking the time to read it.
You're his backup. If it fails with the other girl (or other girls) then he has you to fall back on. You're being used.
 

Socreta93

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Let me ignore all the religious debate and give you relationship advice. Is there any chance he may be playing you? He said he still has feelings for you but broke up with you. Now suddenly he's talking to another girl. Maybe he was cheating (not exactly accusing but I've seen stories like these before). He wants to keep you close while trying to get someone else. I suggest talk to him. If he's sincere and actually wants to be your friend then I apologize. But you need to know where you guys stand. It's unfair to you.
 

Namiette

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I don't give a **** lol. You're acting like there are Christians who haven't raped people. We don't worship anything other than God like it's literally in the commandments. If you're gonna talk about Catholicism, talk more facts because it wasn't the pope who was a pedophile, it was the priests. So get your facts right. Catholicism was the FIRST and LARGEST christian church in the world. Oh, that's a fact for ya. Ha. Let me make it VERY clear for you since you know nothing about Catholicism and you're talking senseless. WE DO NOT WORSHIP ANYTHING OTHER THAN GOD!!!!
Well, I have been Catholic for 20 years of my life and all I can say is, that blue_ladybug is right. You say that it weren't the popes who was a pedophile? Well, look at what "popes" were like in the middle ages. Often, they were even worse than "only" pedophile. You say you do not worship anyone but God, then tell me, why you bow down and fall down on your knees in front of the statue of Mary and others? What is it, if it's not worshiping her? Why do you say that Mary is the intercessor between you and Christ, when Bible says clearly, that there is only ONE intecessor, Jesus Christ? Why do you pray to Mary? Is not God enough for you? Or why? Catholicism has nothing to do with true Christianity.
 
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