It's all good Gemmy, you have nothing to apologize for. We're all human after all. I pray that God allows you to let this bad stuff go that's cluttering your mind and replace that with good wholesome thoughts. No need to take anything back, just life your head high and go boldly forward. The only thing that counts is today. Each day the slate is wiped clean and you have a new beginning.
Struggling with sick, embarrassing memories
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Just the enemies ways of creating situations, then condemning us for his work. He was put down in power by the serpent on the pole for the Israelites. And ultimately put down forever on the Cross. NO condemnation for us who are Christ Jesus.
Those who are forgiven much, love much....Jesus. Be free Gemmy!
To the poster, I just used your post to make a point. Good post you made!
Those who are forgiven much, love much....Jesus. Be free Gemmy!
To the poster, I just used your post to make a point. Good post you made!
Gemmy,
It takes a lot to confess our mistakes and sins to a very loving and forgiving Savior.
Its harder to admit to strangers and ask for helpful advice and risk persecution and judgement. Just know that your sins are no different than any other sin to God, and Jesus already paid the price.
Jesus loves you as much as He loves the rest of His children.
Its ok. Let the past go. If you still have satan trying to bring you down, it never hurts to ask a professional Christian therapist to help with the PTSD...but remember that what your cousin did to you is not your fault, and when horrific things like that happen, satan uses those things to draw us even further into his sick world and away from God.
Keep praying, reading the Word, and trusting in Jesus.
GBU
It takes a lot to confess our mistakes and sins to a very loving and forgiving Savior.
Its harder to admit to strangers and ask for helpful advice and risk persecution and judgement. Just know that your sins are no different than any other sin to God, and Jesus already paid the price.
Jesus loves you as much as He loves the rest of His children.
Its ok. Let the past go. If you still have satan trying to bring you down, it never hurts to ask a professional Christian therapist to help with the PTSD...but remember that what your cousin did to you is not your fault, and when horrific things like that happen, satan uses those things to draw us even further into his sick world and away from God.
Keep praying, reading the Word, and trusting in Jesus.
GBU
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If it's any help Gemmy
I was sexually abused as a teenager.
I was thrown out by my mum.
Was fostered by a Christan family.
I got to know them through the Boys Brigade (like the Boy Scouts but with a Christan focus)
So not long after I was fostered I spent the next 6 years with a foster dad trying to sexually abuse me.
Turns out that he had actually gone to prison for similar offences when he was in charge of a children's home.
I mentioned to someone what was happening.
Next thing I know the police were knocking on the door, asking me to come and talk with them.
They said were in the car over there, and went back to the car.
Before I went out to talk my foster mother said "Do not say anything, I'm just a teenager acting like a teenager"
When in the car I was asked "Is your foster dad sexually abusing you?
Now I had a choice?
The choice was,
If I say yes then would I be placed in a children's home.
If I say yes then would my foster mum (who led me to Jesus) be left again on her own with a young child.
If I say yes then would be taken back to my own mother only to be thrown out again and end up on the streets.
Despite the place I was in, the foster family, fed me, took me to church, celebrated my birthday and so on.
Hmm difficult choices.
I chose to lie to the police and said "no he is not sexually abusing me"
Purely selfish on my part.
Better the devil you know than the one you don't know, as we say over here.
Truth is the devil is the devil. And he will use every opportunity to entangle us and question God.
He had a field day with me.
In my early twenties I stopped going to church, didn't lose my faith in Jesus.
But I just could not cope with the negative emotions, the hatred I had for myself, for my abuser and my anger towards a so called loving God.
During this period I slept around, sexual immorality, developed a severe gambling addiction.
This was my escape from the reality of my life.
The more I did it the more I was ensnared by Satan.
I had so much hatred, so much pain, so much guilt.
For about 14 years I woke every night, the same time every night.
Guilt and condemnation and fear.
During this time I actually woke up as a result of shadows in the room tormenting me.
I tried to call out but could not, I was paralysed. I was stuck where I was.
My wife (the most amazing Godly woman whom I love dearly, who sleeps heavily) one day commented "The bedsheets are soaking, come to think of it, is been happening for a long time"
I told her, she then stated awake when I slept.
Then she saw what was happening.
She said to me
"I watched you as you fell asleep, then I watched you starting to get very agitated, your eyes were closed but then you started to got more agitated, then you opened your eyes, you opened your mouth and I tried to talk to you but you could not hear me, I saw torment in your face, I then prayed over you and rebuked satan, I stroked your head and prayed in the name of Jesus and rebuked satan, then you settled down"
She did that for many many nights.
I know your pain gemmy, I know what ensnares us.
But now I know what and who releases us.
So much so that I was at the bedside of my foster dad when he was dying. He asked me to take care of his estate.
So much so that my mum who through me, we now have a loving relationship and praise God a mother brought up as a Muslim is now in Jesus.
Precious sister, there is hope in Jesus, in his name.
The enemy fear his name, they have as authority.
Claim it.
The thing is as well is unforgivness.
To forgive is to set the prisoner free, only to realise that prisoner is us.
I was sexually abused as a teenager.
I was thrown out by my mum.
Was fostered by a Christan family.
I got to know them through the Boys Brigade (like the Boy Scouts but with a Christan focus)
So not long after I was fostered I spent the next 6 years with a foster dad trying to sexually abuse me.
Turns out that he had actually gone to prison for similar offences when he was in charge of a children's home.
I mentioned to someone what was happening.
Next thing I know the police were knocking on the door, asking me to come and talk with them.
They said were in the car over there, and went back to the car.
Before I went out to talk my foster mother said "Do not say anything, I'm just a teenager acting like a teenager"
When in the car I was asked "Is your foster dad sexually abusing you?
Now I had a choice?
The choice was,
If I say yes then would I be placed in a children's home.
If I say yes then would my foster mum (who led me to Jesus) be left again on her own with a young child.
If I say yes then would be taken back to my own mother only to be thrown out again and end up on the streets.
Despite the place I was in, the foster family, fed me, took me to church, celebrated my birthday and so on.
Hmm difficult choices.
I chose to lie to the police and said "no he is not sexually abusing me"
Purely selfish on my part.
Better the devil you know than the one you don't know, as we say over here.
Truth is the devil is the devil. And he will use every opportunity to entangle us and question God.
He had a field day with me.
In my early twenties I stopped going to church, didn't lose my faith in Jesus.
But I just could not cope with the negative emotions, the hatred I had for myself, for my abuser and my anger towards a so called loving God.
During this period I slept around, sexual immorality, developed a severe gambling addiction.
This was my escape from the reality of my life.
The more I did it the more I was ensnared by Satan.
I had so much hatred, so much pain, so much guilt.
For about 14 years I woke every night, the same time every night.
Guilt and condemnation and fear.
During this time I actually woke up as a result of shadows in the room tormenting me.
I tried to call out but could not, I was paralysed. I was stuck where I was.
My wife (the most amazing Godly woman whom I love dearly, who sleeps heavily) one day commented "The bedsheets are soaking, come to think of it, is been happening for a long time"
I told her, she then stated awake when I slept.
Then she saw what was happening.
She said to me
"I watched you as you fell asleep, then I watched you starting to get very agitated, your eyes were closed but then you started to got more agitated, then you opened your eyes, you opened your mouth and I tried to talk to you but you could not hear me, I saw torment in your face, I then prayed over you and rebuked satan, I stroked your head and prayed in the name of Jesus and rebuked satan, then you settled down"
She did that for many many nights.
I know your pain gemmy, I know what ensnares us.
But now I know what and who releases us.
So much so that I was at the bedside of my foster dad when he was dying. He asked me to take care of his estate.
So much so that my mum who through me, we now have a loving relationship and praise God a mother brought up as a Muslim is now in Jesus.
Precious sister, there is hope in Jesus, in his name.
The enemy fear his name, they have as authority.
Claim it.
The thing is as well is unforgivness.
To forgive is to set the prisoner free, only to realise that prisoner is us.
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I is if to bed.
It has been great to spend time today in this thread. Seeing people pitching in and encouraging and walking in love.
Please everyone remember this,
GOD loves us as much as he loves Jesus.
If it's time time for bed remember that.
If your are waking up in the morning remember that.
Works well not set your free, but the above will.
We are as much as a child of God as Jesus is.
It has been great to spend time today in this thread. Seeing people pitching in and encouraging and walking in love.
Please everyone remember this,
GOD loves us as much as he loves Jesus.
If it's time time for bed remember that.
If your are waking up in the morning remember that.
Works well not set your free, but the above will.
We are as much as a child of God as Jesus is.
For you, gemmy, as others here pray for you.
[h=1]Philippians 3:13-1[/h][FONT="]13 Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before,[/FONT]
[FONT="]14 I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.[/FONT]
[h=1]Philippians 3:13-1[/h][FONT="]13 Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before,[/FONT]
[FONT="]14 I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.[/FONT]
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Romans -There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus,[a] who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit.
Has this verse been shared? Except for one butthead everyone has given you great advice.The devils job is to remind us of our past,when he does,remind him of his future! Think of how far apart east is from west,think of a sea of forgetfulness! You say you have memories of your past mistakes,guess what? God doesn't even remember!! It was like it never happened!! So don't let the enemy of your soul torture you with your past.Its gone,clean,forgotten and under the blood.
I just want to add that my pastor said something last Sunday I hadn't thought about. In the OT when they sacrificed animals for their sins,the blood covered up the sin,but it didn't take it away.But Jesus blood cleanses not just covers our sin.Its gone.So don't let it bother you anymore young sis. Be blessed!
Has this verse been shared? Except for one butthead everyone has given you great advice.The devils job is to remind us of our past,when he does,remind him of his future! Think of how far apart east is from west,think of a sea of forgetfulness! You say you have memories of your past mistakes,guess what? God doesn't even remember!! It was like it never happened!! So don't let the enemy of your soul torture you with your past.Its gone,clean,forgotten and under the blood.
I just want to add that my pastor said something last Sunday I hadn't thought about. In the OT when they sacrificed animals for their sins,the blood covered up the sin,but it didn't take it away.But Jesus blood cleanses not just covers our sin.Its gone.So don't let it bother you anymore young sis. Be blessed!
Gemmy, I had a lot of bad things happen when I was young. But I didn’t share them with anyone, even though they weren’t my fault, and it festered inside me. You have made a good decision to talk about it here. You might want to know, the amazing thing, is that God showed me how I was not at fault, and he totally healed me of that pain and fear.
It takes a while, but God will help you. And keep posting if you want to work through it. A real life person would be even better, if there is anyone you can trust. I know that might be hard. Hugs from me. And yes, God does love you!
It takes a while, but God will help you. And keep posting if you want to work through it. A real life person would be even better, if there is anyone you can trust. I know that might be hard. Hugs from me. And yes, God does love you!
I recommend simply plowing forward in life knowing that all of
your transgressions have been blotted out and forgotten by God.
God has graciously forgiven you, and now you should forgive yourself so you
might be in the right state of mind to forgive those who harmed you as a child.
You're clean, little sister, but Satan wants you to think you're still dirty.
Don't give him the satisfaction.
your transgressions have been blotted out and forgotten by God.
God has graciously forgiven you, and now you should forgive yourself so you
might be in the right state of mind to forgive those who harmed you as a child.
You're clean, little sister, but Satan wants you to think you're still dirty.
Don't give him the satisfaction.
The Good News...
“No sin has tempted you except what is common to man.” We are all tempted with the same sins- we only differ in which ones work on us, but we all sin. The good news is that the blood of Christ is powerful enough to wash away any and every sin. The very fact that it bothers your conscience means there is hope for you. Some consciences are so desensitized that it causes them no alert- which is needed to turn away from sin.
If you are in Christ, all your past sins are washed away. They are not just swept under the rug, hiding until Judgement Day, they are gone completely, they don’t exist anymore. The enemy might convince you that they do still exist, and cause you unnecessary burden that Jesus already bore for you, if you listen to the enemy. But God said “Do not call anything unclean that God has made clean.”
The Bad News...
We are accountable. We cannot use grace (Christ’s blood) as a license to sin. You must still listen to your conscience and the Bible, and obey them both. “Resist the devil and he will flee from you.” When you have tempting thoughts that bother your conscience, change the subject in your mind immediately. Don’t even look at that temptation. In order to go from temptation to sin, you have to stay on its course, following it through, and time to do so- deny it both- do not stay, do not grant it time. If that don’t work, immediately pray “God I didn’t request this, it just showed up, please take it far from me, and keep me safe in Your loving arms.