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Eagle5

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I am at a loss and hurt over my 19 yr old sons behavior this past year. He is a remarkable son who has been smitten with a 23 year old divorced, non US citizen girl who left her X because she was tired of being married and poor. My son was given an opportunity with financial assistance to attend college to become a physician assistant and now wants to throw it all away for her. He has moved out of our home with her which now puts his education in jeopardy because he will lose his financial assistance becuase of the university rules for off campus living. SHe comes from a home where her mother has been married 4 times and just recently to get her US citizenship.
Any suggestions on how I can convince my son that what he is doing is wrong morally and to help him change his direction in life? He was raised in a chrisitan home but now is questioning his faith with God. Satan has gotten a hold of him through her and I fear for his future and salvation. Any suggestions on helping my son see the light and change his course. thank you!
 
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silverwind

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As hard as it is, sometimes we as parents just have to "look the other way" and pray for our children when they don't see what they are doing wrong. It is the most difficult thing to do but if you give your son up to God and ask Him to take over, He will. Pointing out to your son what he is doing wrong and that you are hurt will only make things worse. He has to find his own way and you have to pray fervently for him. His relationship with God is between him and God. I have a 22 year old son and I don't always agree with the decisions he is making, but I know that if I pray for my kids, I can breathe easier because God is in control.
 
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jangel

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May 12, 2010
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I feel you coz I love my parents and I'm trying not to disappoint them in every way and I know that parents just wanted all the best for their kids. I''m not a US citizen girl, but if I'm in your position I will talk directly to that girl and explain to her everything coz it's really hard to convince your son since he's badly in love with her. It's a once in a lifetime opportunity for him and its really a big loss and if I'm that 23 year old girl, I would somehow understand the situation if I truly love your son.
God bless.
 
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godsbluesman

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Wow = unfortunately you cannot really control the physical aspect of his life- As you know all you can do is pray for him to make the right descision. Just keep telling Him the truth,and hope he will get his head right. Physical attraction is a powerful force with a teenager ( we all know since we were all there) I'll help you with prayer. god can move,we know this. as i said,We cannot control another's Will. *Prayin* Only god can affect his spirit directly..I remember that time in my life-it was rough. pray pray pray pray.......sounds like she is not going to be good for him or anyone else. she is a product of her environment.maybe not her fault,but the way she was raised,unfortunately. But God is stronger than all that and our faith is what w have to see us through
..,I am gonna pray for you now and your son-God sees the exact need here,even if we dont understand wht's goin on and are confused.....and your son is too..
 
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Renewedlife

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Be anxious for nothing, instead, pray about everything. Philippians 4:6

God will perfect that which concerns you. Psalm 138:8

For we battle not against flesh and blood...Ephesians 6:12


In summary, take courage!!! Surrender your worries and desires for your son to God, God will work it ALL out because he cares for you AND your son. The reason why you must not badger your son about it is because this is a spiritual war not fought with physical means or wordly logic/understanding. Pray, pray, pray and the victory is yours!!

Once you take your hands off the situation, you then allow God to put His hands ON the situation :)

I have seen this countless times in my own life. God is so awesome and He cares more for your son than you do and is far more effective in orchestrating his rescue! :)
 
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